LDR b/f and I agreed on 2 week vacation but now because of mom's pressure he's reduced it to 10 days
Q. So I'm crying so much right now, and here's my problem. I've been in an LDR for about four years now. We cam and talk daily, his family knows me and he knows mine. We planned for me to come to his country for the holidays/new years, whic...
A. 6 October 2011: She mite have something special happening in that time that she is not ready to share with you yet. Id say, be patient, you have already agread. Respect your agreament and when she get to know you more, she mite even extend your stay. If not, she ... (read in full...)
I think my ex heard what I said about him, when I was talking to my friend! What should I do now?
Q. Today I was in a side room in my uni building. I was talking to a friend about my ex and I said "That dick wad dumped me!". My ex was standing right outside when I said this, and I don't know if he heard me or not. I feel so guilty, but I am very ...
A. 6 October 2011: If what you said is truth, dont worry ,that he heard or not you were honest.Its better when he is not there, but you were honest. If you change your mind of him and plan of dating. you will have some explainning to do. You can always say that it was ... (read in full...)
I caught my fiancé's dad cheating
Q. Yesterday I caught my future father in law cheating, I know it would break my fiancé's heart if I told him, not to mention if his mother finds out, it will tear his family apart. I don't know what to do. I don't think I would ever say anything to ...
A. 13 September 2011: Id say its none of your business. Why Because it might not be what you think, his wife might know about it. Whatever it is you are marrying the son not the father.... (read in full...)
My g/f doesn't have good legs and I'm not sexually attracted to her!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 years. Unfortunately, try as I might, I haven't found her sexually attractive for some time. We have marriage plans, and I'm sure she would be a good life partner, mother, etc., but I don't know if this can work ...
A. 12 September 2011: You could look at all the legs you want and not have a gosth of a chance of getting out with them.You can still look at the dessert list and dont touch. Have her wear high heal stiletti shoes and boot, short dress that will make her look tall, Use ... (read in full...)
Displays of affection feel awkward with my fiancee!
Q. In my relationship I am a very emotional and talkative person. My fiancee is neither. Giving spontaneous hugs and discussing how we feel about each other feels awkward for me because despite how much feeling I express he can't reciprocate as I would ...
A. 12 September 2011: It a good thing since you are only fiancee. Dont marry, untill you get to know each one a lot more and comfortable with each other. At least you know what you want.... (read in full...)
18 and never been kissed! Any advice!
Q. I'm almost nineteen years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Not only that, I've never been kissed, on a date, or even asked out. How pathetic is that? I think I'm depressed right now because my brother has a girlfriend and they have such a ...
A. 12 September 2011: The kiss is no big deal. Its usually nice, worm, private. It Makes you feel nice, worm. You get to touch the partner, smell and feel its touch. The big thing is were will it stop!!!... (read in full...)
How should I get this break up over with?
Q. ok well my boyfriend hasnt replied me for months i want to break it off with him i think he feels the same cause he sent me a message saying we need to talk and i replied i know i am storing his stuff over summere and am taking it to his ...
A. 6 September 2011: Its seams to be pretty clear to me. Put his stuff in the dumpster if he does not pick it up in the next 24 hours.
When he come for it, have that discussion if needed.
Find somebody else, he is not worth it. Month's without new's. That bad.... (read in full...)
Can lust develop over time?
Q. I have a new man in my life, we get on great, have lots in common, laugh together, share similar interests and outlooks.. he is caring, thoughtful, positive, funny, clever, nearly everything I could hope for. I feel very comfortable around him, ...
A. 6 September 2011: I read what you wrote and the answer is right there.
If you are still looking for the perfect man, when you do, he mite think that you are not the perfect woman for him.
You have ,your hands on a diamond and you want to look for a pearl. I don... (read in full...)
I feel I hug people too much. How can I control this?
Q. Ok this is a really stupid problem but I think it makes people uncomfortable. I'm a very huggy/cuddly person and I think that it annoys everyone and makes me seem strange. Like I don't go up to random people and hug them; just people I know. I...
A. 6 September 2011: You must like them kite a bit to start with, you got to put yourself in their shoes. That it...
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Dissociative Amnesia -Will he rember us?
Q. Ok from the beginning. I met my first love after school at a hangout spot. He joked with me and sooner or later he was asking me for my number online. We exchanged numbers and began talking. Throughout those 4 months we both learned hat we were ...
A. 3 September 2011: You afto go along with the doctors. They have the most experience in the subject. Personnally i had a lost of memory twince in my lifetime and something are totally lost, i dont expect any return. My memory blurred out the negative experience kept ... (read in full...)
How to let go of anger in a relationship?
Q. Question. Is it right to continue to hold onto hatred for someone in a relationship if you're honestly wanting to move forward? And any suggestions to help let go of pass issues? Dilemma's over an 8 year relationship has spread us in two. We...
A. 3 September 2011: Sorry to say, you can only change yourself and sometime, that his hard. If he does not want to reevaluate and descend from hid mouttain of hatred. There not really must you can do. He his like a big bag of brick, that you are houling around. You ... (read in full...)
Does my ex boyfriend still love me? Or is he making me jealous?
Q. Guyss...My ex boyfriend used to love me so much...he would give his life to me...but so many things went wrong and in this past few months we broke up many times and then got back together..He is really cute and handsome so there are many girls ...
A. 1 September 2011: Put it aside, time will tell. .get out of the house, take a walk, meet new peaple, have fun. In ten years if the sentiment is the same act on it. I would, move along to new arison. ... (read in full...)
Something's bothering me.. What should I do?
Q. I really like this guy... We hung out twice and ended up sleeping together. I hadn't had sex in a while and figured we'd hang out and eventually go our separate ways. I've gotten closer to this guy and I really like him. I wish we waited to have ...
A. 1 September 2011: You did good, more girls should do that, becose it break the tension in a man, he is more likely to be more of himself.You get the real us, by doing that, more open.
Abouth your period,It's probebly bothering you more than him. We sometime... (read in full...)
Why am I sabotaging a good thing?
Q. Hi I'm currently in a long term relationship,over 5yrs,problem is i often take things that are said the wrong way or so i'm told i do and sometimes i do tend to get annoyed and lash out verbally.then when iv'e settled down i apologize and i'm ok,t...
A. 1 September 2011: Bad news , you are picking up on somebody else energy. That is not yours. when that happen you press delete to trash that energy aside. It is called NLP. You visualise wite lite around you, to protec you agains negative energy and delete it ,when ... (read in full...)
She checked out the waiter and now I'm wondering if I should be worried?
Q. I have a fiance that i am mad about, but i got a bad impression a few days ago that has been driving me crazy. We were at a bar having drinks, when a decently fit waiter showed up to serve us, and could see that she was impressed by his appearance ...
A. 1 September 2011: You should worry about your confidence not her. Spruce it up by using affirmations. Work on yourself. they are some nice book on the subject, i recommand Ross Jeffreies. Youl love it. ... (read in full...)
We're both facing divorce. He's helped me. Does this co-worker have feelings for me?
Q. So I have a co-worker and over the course of the last 2 months we have gotten really close. He tells me things about his marriage and I do the same. Things really got set into motion when my, soon to be ex-husband, and I got into an argument...
A. 1 September 2011: You share a divorce, a pain, common experience. Once the divorce is put aside and your energy is back to full, if the common nterest still exist. You mite include him in your dating and see if the interest is real or just a spare tire on his car of ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my partner because we are at different stages in life?
Q. I met my partner 3 months before we became a couple. We were just friends and got along really well. He became one of my best friends very quickly and we ended up getting stronger feelings for each other. We have been together for 3 months now...
A. 31 August 2011: I see you have plan and a dead line.
Did you ever think that the doctor could be wrong.
Waybe you should be wingging it more. If and when you get pregnent you mite get qwintuplets. You dont know and putting a lot of pressure on yourself and part... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to get fillings before he meets my mother
Q. How do I ask my boyfriend to please get his fillings back? It's two of his front teeth. He had told me he lost them again from very bad gritting of his teeth during sleep. He had always been very cautious with his mouth until I asked him. I told him ...
A. 31 August 2011: I would dump your mother, from the description of her. Does she really need to meet him. You are no kid anymore. You dont need her aprobation, anymore.
I know it is an expensive operation, he should go to Cuba or Maxico they do it cheaply ... (read in full...)
At what point in a relationship do you say I love you?
Q. I have been in an LDR for two years. I have met my boyfriend this past year. He treated me so adoringly I began to feel very nervous. It was almost like I was watching him fall in love with me. We have never said I love you to each other, but ...
A. 31 August 2011: It is normal for an apple to be round, a street to be flat, a boat to float, water to be liquid at certain temperature. Unless you are a thing, i would not use normal. Normal is a mathematical equation. I see myself as human and not normal, beca... (read in full...)
I need advice for dealing with my menopausal mother
Q. I need advice with my menopausical mother. She is in that stage and I try not bother her and just please her and go along without arguing. Sometimes she does things that are hurtful, for example I have spent 3 days painting all the flower pots ...
A. 31 August 2011: Ask before you help her. Maybe she does not need help. Inquirer more before doing. Beside one day you will get there. Ask her ,what advice you could give your children to help you pass trou it. Get her feeling on it.
My wife when trought it with ... (read in full...)
Do I break up with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm extremely depressed. I told my boyfriend, and he sort of helps, says a few words of encouragement, but then if I dont pursue it, he will drop the topic. He has no idea how truly miserable I am, crying myself to sleep, dark thoughts, etc et...
A. 31 August 2011: Depression is a ugly thing to manage, the first time and become easyer with time. Unless you have the experience, you have no clue as how a depress person feel and the time it last. You should get professionnal help first and get him in the process. ... (read in full...)
How does one get over a past abusive relatonship?
Q. I have a question that is been bothering me lately and would love to get opinions on it. I got out of an emotionally abusive relationship about a year and a half ago.(To make the story short I was never good enough) even though people say i should ...
A. 31 August 2011: Well dreaming is good, imagine a new relationship in one day, one week one month right around the corner and that this new relationship will fade and eventually erase the old one, to the point you will change your state on mind, learn from your ... (read in full...)
Mixing business with pleasure?
Q. I have been working with a guy for 2 years, we knew each other breifly in middle school and so have become friends. Our lunches are at the same time and have always shared relationship woes and given each other advice. When we both were single after ...
A. 31 August 2011: You would have been two on one island and the same thing would have happen. You are young and are here on earth to live and experience life. The ball is in your park, you do pretty much what you want to. One time thing or occasionnally, find a lover ... (read in full...)
Have I made a huge mistake - allowed my BF to have sex with my BF???
Q. my boyfriend of 4yrs on and off again just cheated on me with my best friend last week. we have 2 kids and i think i want to try and work past this, but here is the issue, my friend has wanted a child for a long time now, so 3 weeks a go we mad a ...
A. 26 August 2011: You took a big chance and lost. That was a bigg risk.
You are not the only one to try this.
Some call it, communes, other mormon.
If he love you and you him, what the hay, go for it.
If he love you both that mite not be to bad also.
Its a que... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into my ex fiance's nephew's message on facebook?
Q. Am I reading too much into something that happened today? My ex fiance's nephew posted a message on fb today saying that he missed me and called me Aunt Mary which is what he called me back when my ex and I were together. We have been split for ...
A. 26 August 2011: Dear Mary, its is as plane as the nose in your face. Please ,take note, that you are not getting any younger and you are loosing precius time. Men forgive very easely. Unless you intend to have kids at 60 i would forget the mariage bit, un... (read in full...)
Did I destroy my friendship with a guy because of my curiosity?
Q. I've had this guy friend for a couple of years. I thought there could have been something there feelings-wise, but I never pursued it because I had a boyfriend. We were very financially reliant on one another, we went in on a kiddie pool endeavor, ...
A. 9 August 2011: Id say just call him and you shall find out. Dont forget and tell him you are availlage for love. But then he mite not be availlleble, still take the time and talk. Life is a learning curve.... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm getting tired of him freaking out about us
Q. Hey. My problem is a bit of a long one. I'm an 18 year old guy and I'm gay. I've recently started talking to an old friend of mine from middle school and he confided in me that he is gay and that he has been interested in me since we were kids. At ...
A. 9 August 2011: He has some issus to take care of and he is the only one to resolve them. You mite hang out around, but you are not the solution. He has got to find his own anwer and then maybe.
Not easy being gay...........!... (read in full...)
I haven't met a guy who makes my heart flutter
Q. So....I'm a 28 yr old female, and I've never had an official boyfriend! I've dated a lot, I get asked out frequently, I like to think I'm pretty and funny and interesting and all that jazz, but never have I had the pleasure of having a real, deep ...
A. 9 August 2011: You mite be to peaky or the guy you are hoping for, is not born yet. To be serius, stop looking for him, he will find you. Dont stop living please yourself, enjoy life. your not stopping youself from going out, that good, maybe he is somewere in ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 6 years has lost total interest in me
Q. I need some advice I have a boyfriend whom I been with for over 6 years, and he has lost total interest in me from kissing me in the morning when he leaves to work to having sex with me, sometimes when I try having sex with him and he pushes me away ...
A. 9 August 2011: Ever tried to get get your life back, your are to mutch availeble to him. Please yourself, get out with the girls, find new friends, use your spare time help.VOLUNTEER.... (read in full...)
Too scared to kiss him!
Q. Ok so I am dating this guy that I have been like in love with since the 7th grade, and he are going in 10th now, we started dateing on nine 11 of last year and then in april of this year we broke up cause I was having personal issues, but in june he ...
A. 9 August 2011: You created a precedent, you were scared at one time and black balled him, he will remerber,for a long time or until you break the ice, you created.(After it will forget the incedent as lack of experience)
There are no good use for shyness,... (read in full...)
How do I put this situation out of my mind? I'm still not quite over him....
Q. Hi everyone, I haven't written on this site for many many months now. I'm not sure if any of you recall, but back in January-February, my boyfriend and I were having major problems, many involving jealousy and other things. Anyway, unfortun...
A. 9 August 2011: Just think why you broke up. Are you willing to live with is dark side the rest of the life. Relationship at work does rarely work. Its hard on every one and unconfortable.
You seam to have lots more to look foreward, like new job and surely n... (read in full...)
I'm being blackmailed into sex, help!
Q. well uhm, i'm being blackmailed. I feel pretty low about it, but i can't get out of it. Basically this guy who i've been friends with for two years has always been there for me, and now he's being all lovey dovey and sending me innopropriate texts. ...
A. 9 August 2011: He discovered POWER and he is using it, if you let him.
You just discovered his black side and you afto decide if you want to go down with him. You are too unexperience to cope, with a vampirer he his. So let others take care of him. Dependin... (read in full...)
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