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writes:So I have a co-worker and over the course of the last 2 months we have gotten really close. He tells me things about his marriage and I do the same. Things really got set into motion when my, soon to be ex-husband, and I got into an argument and he hit me for the 6th time in our marriage. I called the only real friend that I have, because I recently moved and haven't made a lot of friends, and he came and picked me up from my house and brought me to his. When I went back the next day to get some of my things he insisted on following me to my house and told me to call him if my ex started to get upset, this was after 15 minutes of me convincing him that he didn’t need to come inside with me. I stayed with him for the about a month while his wife was out of town because, they are going through a separation.That’s when things started to get a little to intense. One night while we were drinking with a couple of friends I just started to cry uncontrollably about the abuse from my husband and the agony it caused me from being scared all the time over the past year, and he laid with me for three hours while he held me and ran his fingers threw my hair telling me everything was going to be okay and I remember vividly looking up at him and seeing tears in his eyes. We are both going through divorces and he makes it a point to come and talk to me every day at work a couple times out of the day for 20-30 minutes just to joke around or ask me how my day is going or to vent about work. Some of my other co-workers say that he has feelings for me and I also get that feeling but I'm not sure but I think I may have feelings for him too. There were also times while I was staying with him that he would come back with a bottle of wine or take me out to dinner. We spent a lot of time together and he was always very kind and polite and genuinely interested in what I had to say, and the same went for me when he talked. I have only just recently stopped staying with him and I guess what I'm wondering is, are there other feelings there then friendship or am I reading too much into this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): He sounds like he might be interested but becareful it might be a rebound situation for both of you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 September 2011):
 Relax and take things very slowly. Both of you need to focus on your recovery from divorce. Rushing into another relationship can be disasterous. Time will tell whether he and you have more than a friendship in your futures.
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reader, aebniala  +, writes (1 September 2011):
You share a divorce, a pain, common experience. Once the divorce is put aside and your energy is back to full, if the common nterest still exist. You mite include him in your dating and see if the interest is real or just a spare tire on his car of life.
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