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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys, I need some advice on how I need to approach this situation. There is this girl I am attracted to. She gave me her number a long time ago, but when I texted her, she didn't reply. After that, she never really talked to me quite as much as before that... But she always speaks to me in the hall and talks to me sometimes in person. I still have her number but I need to know if I should text her this or message her on Facebook. Here is what I'm going to write her:I'm just going to cut to the chase... You're attractive, I'm attractive, we're both single, let's chill sometime and see where things go.So let me know what you think or if you would change some things. How would you go at this situation? This is a chance for me to either be 4-13 or 3-14 with girls... Please Help!I'm taking this chance because I've got nothing to lose...I would say it in person, but for one I have severe social anxiety disorder. Also, it's summer break so I can't see her in person unless she agrees to go out with me. Please Help... I would love to finally have someone to share my life with for the time being. Also, if she accepts, any other advice you guys can give on what to do next?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Haha.. sorry. That message is a bit ridiculous.
If I had some guy randomly send me that kind of message when I previously avoided his advances I'd probably block him.
Ask her how she is doing. Show an interest in her and who she is. Don't send that message, it makes you look like a douche-canoe.
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 June 2012):
 Face to face is always better than facebook.
Then you can turn on your charm and see her immediate reaction
Facebook is too distant to really do you any justice.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2012):
 No, do not write that. IF you do, you can be sure she will NOT reply.
Send her a private message, tell her who you are and where you two met, so she can put a "face" to the message, then ask if she want to go to the movies or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): Whatever you do, do not say "I'm attractive...You're attractive...". It is fine to complement her, but to call yourself attractive makes you sound a bit pretentious. A bit of humility goes a long way. If she did not text you back, there might be a reason so be careful not to push too hard or you may end up embarrasing yourself. Also, do not come on too strong as it may scare her away. Just keep it simple and ask if she wants to hang out. Good luck to you!
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reader, soon567 +, writes (23 June 2012):
don't do that to her! Good grief dude, she couuld have her eye on someone or their could be a chance that a guy is chasing her and their goes your posting ruining it.
Ask her directly or if you like her then sweep her off her feet instead of that shock method you're thinking of doing.
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reader, Toad22 +, writes (23 June 2012):
Its worth trying one more time, but Id suggest not saying exactly that. Its ounds like you are suggesting a hook up, which Im guessing was not your aim?
If not, something along the lines of ' We havent seen eachother for a while, Id really love to ctach up with you sometime when your not busy? Let me know :)'
That way you can approach the 'I like you' stuff in person, which is better.
But if you just wanted to hookup, ignore the above advice
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reader, Romanilove +, writes (23 June 2012):
The fact that she didn't reply to your text back then may be a sign she is not interested.
I do not want to sound negative but I am just going by what you wrote on here.
My advice is to just send her a friend request if you are not friends on fb.
If you are already friends, just try texting her again nonchalantly saying "whats up"
See if she replies. If she doesn't, I would set my sights on other females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): Your text seems like you are looking for something physical and nothing more.
You must feel like you have something to lose if you are keeping score.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): I know this isn't the answer you want to hear, but wait and ask her in person. I'm not a therapist, but I would say the best way to deal with your anxiety is to do the thing you fear. Otherwise, even if she accepts your Facebook offer, she's gonna know you're a wussy when you go out with her, and will probably lose interest rather quickly.
And whatever you do, if she does go out with you, don't mention the 'someone to share my life with' part. Just be cool and have fun, and let the cards fall where they may :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2012): I don't overly see a problem with such a message, but I'd probably do it via text rather than Facebook as it seems more personal than Facebook. However, I think the wording of the message is a little...'off'. I'd think that saying "I'm attractive" sounds a bit big headed. I'd also wonder if it's wise to say attractive twice. Finally, if I were here I'd think that by saying "let's chill sometime and see where things go" suggests that you want to get her into bed, rather than perhaps get into her heart/get her into your heart.
Try to reword your message a little bit, to perfect it, then text it to her, rather than Facebook!
Good luck.
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reader, rose pink +, writes (23 June 2012):
Do not write that message its a total no no. shes gonna get turned off if you had any chances. The message sounds like you are desperate. From.what I.read it.seems to me that shes not that into you. She.might see you.as a friend but nothing more. Some one whos into a person would definitely text you and be more closer. It seems like she sees the obligation to talk to you in person as buddy. What you should do is text her as friend. Say hey whats up. Keep it cool do not demonstrate.like you are totally into her. Invite her to six flags, mall. Remember girls lay back when they see that a guy is dying.for her by showing too much interest.
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