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36-40,
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writes:I was in a relationship with a guy for about a year and a half. I my eyes he was totally gorgeous (never seen anyone I have been more attracted to) for the first 6 months everything was great then out of the blue he dumped me. I was heart broken but what can you do? he told me he was confused so I gave him space and a week later he came back, great right? no. This happened every month or so for nearly a year with different excuses each time getting more personal. I was a fool to go back to many times but the last time I was strong enough to walk away for good. He was very needy but also wanted the best of both worlds.Here is my problem I think I still love him. We just clicked and when things were good they really were good. I bumped in to him not long ago and he told me that once he has sorted himself out he wants to try get me back. I just want him to disappear as I know he isn't right for me and i could never trust him. I am with someone else now but still think of my ex every now and again. How can I forget him?
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reader, accused +, writes (11 July 2008):
 I don't think that its your ex you can't forget, its the way he left you that you can't get over. I'm not saying that you didn't love him.. To you things seemed to be perfect and when he just up and dumped you is what you can't forget! It sounds to me like this man us unstable! In todays world with everything else that we have going on in our lives, who has time to wonder if the person we love is going to stand beside us? Seems to me this man has secret issues weather its someone else on the side or just himself... You are better off without him... Why would we wish to be with someone who can only commit to us every other month? You deserve better and shouldn't demand for anything less.... It was messed up how he did you or should I say the way he did it but, sometimes we have to chalk up our loss and move on. If your ex really loved & respected you then he would have exited the relationship with nothing but. You can't fix something if you don't know whats wrong with it... he is full of excuses and you are far better than that! you are not a yo-yo to be toyed with... I can tell you from personal experiece that I once dated this man for a year and one day he just disappeared... NO CALL, letter, email NOTHING! At first I thought that I loved him to the point of almost driving myself crazy wondering what happened to our relationship? After awhile I realized that what was really bothering me was the way he left and without any reason. Then one day I realized that I can't control what another person feels or how they decide to handle a situation. To this day I still don't know why he left me the way he did, However I did find out that he was seeing someone else all along... He took the coward way to get out of the relationship.. You have to accept the fact he is full of excuses and move on... I wish you the best and keep me posted...
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"In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.”
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