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*dinburghladdie
writes:Ok, so.... Here goes.I've been split up from my ex for a while now, around 6 months, and i want her back. I was desperately in love with her and i still am. There's a hitch though. We haven't talked in those six months (she's since changed her number so i the only way i could get in touch is by email or to go round her place, which is a little too stalkerish for me!) and she's with someone new, and has been for a few months. I really have tried my best to get over this, I'v tried dating and followed my mate's advice, but none of it hasnt worked. I really think this may have been the one, but i blew it, and ever since i've been spending sleepless nights pining after her. I didnt cheat or lie or anything like that, and we broke up after a period of trying to patch things up. My question is this. I want her back, and i really really dont know where to begin, or what action to take. What do i do? I've had the whole "get over it" speech, and the "time heals all" etc etc etc. But This really felt right and i really really wish i hadn't messed it up, so dear reader... where to begin? I would really really really be indebted if you could provide some creative answers for me....
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reader, whatsTrueLove?  +, writes (15 July 2008):
...i know how you feel man, i haven't spoken to my ex in 6-7 months either, and we were going out for longer than you two. You're right, it does hurt, and sometimes i just wanna hear from her, and would settle for anything too, but the thing to remember is, you gotta be strong, you've made 6 months without her, proving that you don't need her, just stay strong and realize that there is a reason she is in your past, hope this helped, message me if you wanna talk :)
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reader, Edinburghladdie +, writes (15 July 2008):
Edinburghladdie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe were together for a year and a few months. I would send he an email, but my best friend (who was very friendly with both of us, but my friend before i met her) already sent one saying precisely what you said a couple of months after we broke up, and got no response, he even chased it up. To be honest i would even settle for just talking to her again, it would mean so much to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): How long were you two together, because 6 months to get over a very long relationship is nothing
It really does take time...goo luck
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reader, iluvsox +, writes (14 July 2008):
Unfortunately this has happened to all of us, my friend. Like you said, you've heard the "get over it" speech and stuff, but from what I'm hearing:
She wants to move on.
As much as that hurts to hear, you need to understand her feelings as well. If she wanted to go back with you, she obviously would have done so by now. She has feelings as well, and you need to respect them.
As far as getting her back, you would need to wait of course until she's not dating someone else.
But through and through, true love finds its way, and without a doubt you'll find another soon enough.
You're still young. Don't expect "the one" this early.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I think you need to take some time off for yourself. Walking around a park is a good starting excersise and many people have found this as something calming and a way to sort thoughts out. Also, you should try to go somewhere more remote, like camping or climb a mountain. This will keep your mind entertained.
Now at home, you could do other things to forget her. You could take up a hobby, like building miniature ships or 3D puzzles or cooking.
I will not recommend you to get her back, the reason because she's already over you. She has changed her number and hasn't contacted you that much...and she even got a boyfriend. Don't be a wrecker and try to destroy this relationship either. The problem that you got when you were going out with girls is that you compared them with your ex and thought about her instead of the girl and you probably lost another chance at love by doing that. Whenever you get into a new relationship, think about this girl and why you got in with her. Think of the good qualities that make her attractive and why you thought she was the trouble. Write them down if you like.
Now that reminds me,another idea to forget about your ex is to write down all the negative aspects of her. Write down what she made you feel when she broke up with you and the reasons of the brake up. After this, burn the lists.
I hope I was of some help for you and that other aunties help you as well. Good luck!
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reader, accused +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Well first I would start by sending an email and just explain to her that you need to talk. Hoping she gives you a reply, then once you've actually set up a talk session, explain to her how you feel & how you want her back. If she doesn't responde back from your email, do you have any mutual friends? Maybe someone that could relay a message that you need to talk to her? Either way you will find a way to speak with her. When you do explain your feelings to the fullest (women love that)... And in the end either things will work out or they won't.. At least you know you gave it your best shot! No regrets in that.......
Best of luck and keep me posted
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