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writes:once a maid told me that i should have 5 girlfriends and i should pick which one i want to marry..1 is my first love . ex girlfriend . a lot of drama . she got wit my one of my bestfriends after i hooked up wit her friend. ive hit her before when i was young 14? was a crazy kid. would never do it now..its been a year n a half since the bf gf hookup. we always been talkin on n off. but now were talking again.. she tells me that she doesnt hook up wit anyone. but i know shes lying.. i guess i hid a few girls but i dont get with a lot of girls.. but i have 5 girls in my life at the moment..my ex who i care about, wants to be with me again. i met 2 recently.. we knew each other but never talked, we hooked up one day and she wants to be wit me, im not as attracted to her but her personality is great, she likes me a lot but i dont want a relationship but i dont want to stop talking to her... 3 is someone i never did anything with, we spent a lot of quality time together n we have fun but we are just friends. 4 is girl whos a friend of mines sister. she is very attractive and i want to get wit her. even tho im talkin to other girls... there is no 5 at the moment... can anyone help me with my situation.. i dont want to be a player but i love 1. i dont want to stop talkin to 2, but its weird how 1 comes into my life when i tlak to 2. and i dont want to hurt 2. 3 is just a friend but my total opposite. and 4 i just have a crush on and i dont want to miss the opportunity.. can anyone just help if u cared to read..
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reader, accused +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Wow! What a web we weave! First off you know the old saying "you will always love your first love" this is true, but if this #1. got with your Best Friend then can you truly look past that? And you said she was pack with drama.. You have to ask yourself if "drama" is what you are wanting or needing in your life... You also said that #1. was lying about hooking up with other people, you don't trust her...which would make it hard to have a solid relationship with....
#2. Explain to her how you feel and that your not looking to have a relationship with her... Also tell her that she is very special "friend" wise and you don't want to lead her on in anyway... Be honest with her, but not to the point of hurting her.... Friends it will remain! If she decides that she can't be your friend because she cares or likes you too much then at least you took her feelings into consideration and told her how you felt, & that you wanted to keep her as close friend.. YOU could have lied and lead her on but then where would she be when the "TRUTH" came out? H U R T .........
#3..Let #3 be your friend! There is nothing wrong with that.
#4... She can be a tricky one! You said she was the sister of one of your friends.. Be careful.... Because if you persue this girl and "get with her" and then decide that, HMM maybe you want to get back with #1 or #2.. You stand the chance of confrontation with your friend! Trust me nothing is worth fighting a friend..... But if this one is the one you want to be with then my advice is to keep it real with all these women.... Best of luck keep me posted
Accused.....
"NEVER GIVE UP FOR SURE
FOR A MAYBE, OR YOU COULD
END UP WITH NOTHING".......
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Have you thought that the maid meant 5 girlfriends one at a time, over a long period of time, not all at once?
All you're doing is hurting girls. It's not the way a gentleman acts.
If you're not in love with any of them (and it doesn't sound like it as you seem to be thinking of yourself only) don't pick any of them, unless there is one who wants just a physical relationship.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (11 July 2008):
 I think you should take a break from relationships. Being in so many has made you stressed and they're really not making you any good. You could still stay friends with those girls, but no more than that.
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