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writes:when i was growing up i had the status. of getting with girls. ppl called me a player but i wasnt like a slut.. i finally settled down and i got a lil soft but just not really a player anymore. now finally i have girls in my life.. and i kind of just want to have fun. but im contimplating on it bc i kno cheating is bad . and playing is bad. but i just want to do it without hurting anybody.. any advice..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hi, I was feeling so hurt because i just broke up a few hours ago... except he wasn't my boyfriend, he was the other guy. You see i'm a player too, so maybe it was more my ego that was hurt because i never loved him. I've been listening to Beyonce's song "If i were a boy" and realise that even though i started out being the player, in the end i got played because he was better at the game. I use to be a good girl, i'm not sure what went wrong. What i do know however is that for every action there is a reaction. You can control ur own actions but not another reaction, therefore, be considerate in how you treat others, it might turn around and huant you. It may so happen that one day you meet a woman who there is nothing you wouldn't do for her, but to her, your just a means to an end and when that end is reached, no matter how much you try to convince her that you love her, she won't care, because she never did, and had no intention of sticking around long enough ever do so. Think about it.I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Um, would you not be hurt if a girl played you and cheated on you? Are you completely lacking in empathy for other human beings? If you don't know the meaning of the word 'empathy' look it up.
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Unfortunatley, someone will get hurt in the end. If you have sex with multiple girls, one of them is bound to end up having feelings for you. Also, your status says your 18-21 years old, and alot of girls your age are getting ready to start settling down, create lives for themselves, start families. I can't speak on the behalf of all the women in this world, but I know I don't like being thrown around like some little toy, and also, DON'T EVER CHEAT! Don't start a thing with one girl, and then go have sex with another! Your still young, so I understand your need to go and explore the world, the females. I just don't understand why you can't just stick to one girl and one girl only...
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reader, accused +, writes (11 July 2008):
 sounds to me that you don't need to be a player, you already got the high score! If you want to be a player then my advice is not to be tied down with just one! Let them all know up front that you are not commited to anyone and that your not looking to be commited. With this being said sit back and "WATCH YOUR DRAMA UNFOLD"... Just remember that what you do to someone, will always find it's way back to you! There is no way to be a "player" and NOT HURT ANYONE.... It just don't work like that.... Remember that what you do now, will always find its way back to you!
Best ofluck
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Well, tell right away to the girls you want an open relationship. Be honest of your intentions to them but be prepared to see some girls reject you. At least this option will make you free of persuing other girls while in a relationship.
I hope this helps
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