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writes:hi all,this my first time hereand i hope that you help me with my problem,i found this site using google cuz i really don't now what to do?my problem is thati recntly cut down my boyfriend because he did something very terrible.see,my parents are divorcedand im living with my mom'i start dating my boyfriendsince i was 17 and we were so good together 'we became like lovers or somthing,i mean he's always around meuntil he did a very bad thing to me.almost 2 weeks ago he was supposed to come and pick me up,i was with my neighbourhood girls talking and when i came back i caught him (KISSING MY MOM) whose she 43 years while he is 22 (isn't that an incest or something) i got so mad and i kicked him out and he wanted to explane but i was crying and i didn't want to hear him and i also haven't said a word to my mother until now inspite of her apology.after this he tried to reach me in any sort of waysi mean he text me a lot of msgs and he sent me flowershe also talked to my best friend trying to talk to mebut i never gave him the chance eventhough he explained to me with his msgs that he didn't wanted it to happen and that my mom used him and that he would do any thing to fix it but my mother told me that he is lying and that she never wanted this and that he started to toutch her.i don't now what to do. please help to decide who i should belive,but to be honest i think he is the one whose telling the truth because i noticed my mom checking him out before but i thought it was nothing and also when i caught them he was doing nothing but kissing while she was rubbing his hair and it looks like she is the one who made the move.i started to think to forgive him because i know he loves meand i love him too ,i mean he didn't have sex since he started dating me cuz im a virgin and i told him that im not ready yet and he accepted it (2years for a guy like him without sex) i think thats means he love me enoughalthough i don't think he shoulda kissed her even if she did seduce him.so! should i trust him again or not.thanks all,and am sorry for taking so long
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reader, ceme  +, writes (3 August 2009):
If that was me, I wouldn't be able to trust her again. Even with another guy. If you could work this out with this bf, he might become a more understanding bf for you and our family more than anyone else.... or the other way around.
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reader, accused +, writes (4 January 2009):
 Sorry you had to witness such an event! Let me say that honestly you are not going to be able to trust either of them.... Sadly enough it was your mother that betrayed you, blood is thicker than water... Personally I think you should leave him alone, He had no business lip locking your mother or vice versa... You can't forget your Mother, after all she is your mother! Trust will be hard for you that I do know... Leave him where he's at which is away from you, and try to mend whatever is left of the relationshp with your Mom. I think that deep down you know things will NEVER be the same with him, and the trust is pretty much shot now, If he loved you then what you seen would have never happened... Best of luck
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (4 January 2009):
If he's tried that hard to get you to talk to him again, then yes try to trust him again. Get him to prove to you or show you that you can trust him again, especailly if your mom is one that made the move. I mean, everybody makes mistakes and don't you think you would want him to trust you again if you made a mistake like he did? So just get him to show you that you can trust him again because it seems like he really cares about you.
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