Everything I do seems to be yet another painful reminder.
Q. So here is my situation: I got dumped exactly one month ago, by my girlfriend of two years, who I dated throughout high school and into university. It was completely unexpected,I had no idea what was coming up, she simply stated that she didn't ...
A. 27 June 2012: All I can say she clearly had betrayed you and now the only thing you can do is avoid her as much as you can. I used to be in a similar situation as you so I know how you feel but you got to tough it out.
Life is unfair as you said, so now you ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being a door mat and become more confident?
Q. This is not so much a relationship question, but a question about how to improve myself. Basically, I'm a softie. A doormat. A pushover. I need to change this. I'm basically those people whose manners override common sense. I never want to be...
A. 13 June 2012: Well I understand how you feel since I was once at your position. It does take time to build up confidence especially you sounds like people who are naturally just like 'marshmallow', in my case it took me 3 years to change my personality. Firs... (read in full...)
My friend has feelings for me, but I'm in a relationship and don't feel the same. How do I stop feeling guilty?
Q. hello everyone So I have been in a relationship for about a year and two months now with a wonderful guy and we are still doing fine. The thing is i've got a friend , we have been friends for nearly two years and he's always liked me. I made it ...
A. 6 June 2012: all i could say is leave that guy alone and try to avoid him because it does hurt for that guy to see you with another guy especially when you doing some sweet things with another guy.
I have been in that position before and it was a mental t... (read in full...)
I have a girl who likes me, but I don't feel happy about it. Why?
Q. HI everyone, I am back to here again asking for some help. This year I have moved into a new school and tried to move on from my past experience with a girl who was my best friend(at least from my point of view). But somehow I find it difficult to ...
A. 15 April 2012: thx for your help. Both of you have given me some inspirational ideas and seriously thx :) ... (read in full...)
Should I apologize? it still hurts.
Q. Last year, me and my best friend who I used to love broke out due to I couldn't cope with the pressure when she was going out with another guy for three months. Those three months was not easy for me to go through. If you want to know how pain...
A. 15 February 2012: Thx for your suggestion. To be honest, I still have a bit of feelings for her. Is just somehow I felt guilty.... (read in full...)
Want to talk to my old girl, but not sure what to say, any suggestions?
Q. Today, I went back to my old school which is quite close to meet some friends. During that time, I saw the girl I used to love a lot and we did stare at each other for less than a second. So far, I haven't forgotten her and wanted to find a chance ...
A. 18 January 2012: thx both of you. I will talk to her next time even though it may feel weird but I know I will regret it if I don't... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my ex which I know are unhealthy
Q. Hi everyone I am in a dilemma right now because I just realized I still got some feelings for my ex which I know is not healthy. Me and her rarely see each other again even though we are in the same town. It is really weird that I still have ...
A. 3 December 2011: Thanks for your suggestion... (read in full...)
With my low confidence, how can I find out if I stand a chance with her?
Q. Well my situation is very simple. Right now, I fancy a girl who is a year above me and therefore we only see each other during lunch, breakfast and dinner. I think she kind of like me too but can't be sure since I couldn't find a way to know. Non...
A. 25 November 2011: Thanks for your suggestion and I do recognise I need to be prepared. Anyway thanks for both of you. ... (read in full...)
Should I chase after this girl?
Q. Hi everyone and I would like to take some advises from you today. Now I am in a new school and there is a girl who is in a year above me. We are both boarders which means we both live in the school 24/7. During school time, I do not have lesso...
A. 22 November 2011: well I think I will give it a go and let see what happens.... (read in full...)
My last experience with a girl has left me wanting to focus on work and not girls, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Somehow I felt very tired mentally after my previous experience with a girl. The experience between me and her was great at the start but everything turned disastrous at last. It was not a pleasant experience because we are not even friends ...
A. 19 October 2011: Thanks and I wish you will be fine too :)... (read in full...)
My last experience with a girl has left me wanting to focus on work and not girls, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Somehow I felt very tired mentally after my previous experience with a girl. The experience between me and her was great at the start but everything turned disastrous at last. It was not a pleasant experience because we are not even friends ...
A. 17 October 2011: Thanks for your advise, I really appreciate it.
I think I just need some time to heel.... (read in full...)
I want her back but all we have done for the last 5 months is random calls and texts, no real conversations
Q. I dated a girl for a year and a half. We had a great love and a great connection with each other. Our problem is that we argued a lot and we would push each other away, and a lot of times she would push me to break up. I loved this girl to no end ...
A. 22 August 2011: I am afraid there is nothing you can do. Sometimes life is like this.
I know how you feel because I am in similar situation as yours.
Good luck... (read in full...)
How do people get their boyfriend or girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, this is not my first time posting in here. I am quite lost at the moment because I am not sure about relationships between women and men. In the past two years, I have been seeking for a suitable partner or a girlfriend for m...
A. 18 August 2011: thanks for your help. I really appreciate it.... (read in full...)
Iv been cheated on repeatedly and now I don't know how to get over all this and move on...
Q. My ex and I had a child last October, we were soon engaged after that. However, a few months ago we broke up for I was very surprised to find out he was cheating on me and once it was confronted he left me for this woman he was cheating with me on ...
A. 13 August 2011: I have never been into a similar situation as yours one but I do feel your pain because I have devoted myself into a girl who do NOT love me back. It is mentally exhausting to watch her holding hands with other guy.
The best thing is to forget t... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get through to my father
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some advises from you guys to help me to improve my relationship with my parents. I don't understand why my dad always over worries about me and he always try to suck extra economic and political knowledge into m...
A. 26 July 2011: Thanks for everyone advises and I will talk to my dad man to man. Hopefully we will form an agreement :)... (read in full...)
Should I apologize to her for my obessive behaviour?
Q. I have an obsessive behavior which means I can somehow force myself to do something that I do not want to do and if I want something, I would do anything to have it. This obsessive behavior is both benefiting and annoying because my obsessive beh...
A. 15 July 2011: Thanks for everyone's advise. I thin is best for me to leave it because I don't want her to think I am obsess with her.... (read in full...)
Obsessing over my ex math teacher
Q. Im 14 years old and im a lesbian and im in love with my ex maths teacher. ever since i saw her i new i loved her but its getting to the point were its affecting me as a person. Im becoming ver obsessed by checking her facebook account to see if she ...
A. 10 July 2011: Go to seek for medical help from your doctor. Don't be shy. If you don't feel comfortable with telling your parents or friends, then talk to a social worker.
I think this is a crush only. It will eventually disappear as time passes.... (read in full...)
My long-distance bf was supposed to come and see me today after being away for 6 months...and he hasn't shown up!! What do I do now??
Q. My LDR boyfriend was supposed to come and see me today, after having worked away for 6 months. He was supposed to be getting the train to me this morning; however, his phone has been switched off all day, he is not answering my texts (I know he ...
A. 10 July 2011: First cool yourself down. I understand there are a lot of things going on in your brain right now but I suggest you to just relax a bit. He has arrived yet or text you back does not means that he is with another girl. So, comes down.
If you don'... (read in full...)
How to make new friends and navigate the racial issue in my new school?
Q. How do I meet new friends in my new school? Next year I am going to be in a new sixth form in the UK and it i completely different compared with my old school even though it is only 10 mins walk away. I will be a boarder in there which means I ...
A. 8 July 2011: Thanks for everyone's advise. I have thought about standing in the middle too but it is seriously difficult and challenging to please both parties.
Anyway thanks for everyone's help.... (read in full...)
Is he actually into me or am I reading too much into this?
Q. I'm 18 and this guy is 20. Let's call him John. So, I've known him for about 7 months now and we talk every single day.. There's a few days where we don't talk but overall, were always conversing. I think that's cause we both have BlackBerries and...
A. 7 July 2011: It sounds like you like him a lot but I think is best to have a background check because you want to know is he really into you and his past history of his life with other women.
Overall, follow your heart is the most important part.... (read in full...)
I'm with a new guy but still miss one one true love!
Q. i was with a guy from wales for a year and a half, we were engaged and trying for a child and possibly moving in together.....we seperated for 5 munths and then i got with a reali nice guy whom i have been with 2 months almost, i love him he loves ...
A. 3 July 2011: I know is hard to follow your heart and its ok not to be ok right now. So, give yourself some time to evaluate which guy is best for you and then stick with him.
This is it. No regret.
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support
Q. Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...
A. 27 June 2011: I truly understand how you feel because I was in a similar situation. My advise is not to think about anything that associates with him. I know is hard not to do it but at last you will get over it.
And lastly do not try to get him back because ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to her again? Would this upset her?
Q. It is really hard to follow my heart because I am torn between two big emotions in my head. I have no idea what to do with her. I want to talk to her but I don't know how to face to her anymore after everthing happened between me and her. We don't ...
A. 20 June 2011: Today I saw her in school but we both pretend each other are invisible. So, after school I sent her a facebook message asking her how ae exams but she didn't reply-She has seen it already.I think this shows she doesn't want to talk to me or I am ... (read in full...)
Help! I've lost my motivation in life. How can I get it back?
Q. hey, my life is falling apart and i nothing is helping. i only have a part time job and although i am greatful that i got a job, i never have enough money. due to this im losing all my friends as they go out and do things and i cant because i n...
A. 4 June 2011: I think the most important thing is have a break now. During this break you should disconnect yourself from the world almost completely and more importantly to let your brain to have a rest. When you are out of that break you can come back and set a ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for passing up this chance at a great school for a girl who doesn't love me?
Q. I have done things that are quite stupid because I love a girl but she doesn't love me. For example, I got into a school which only take in 5 people in sixth form and this year more than 300 talented students applying because it has 27% of Oxbridge ...
A. 3 June 2011: Thanks for your help. ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for passing up this chance at a great school for a girl who doesn't love me?
Q. I have done things that are quite stupid because I love a girl but she doesn't love me. For example, I got into a school which only take in 5 people in sixth form and this year more than 300 talented students applying because it has 27% of Oxbridge ...
A. 3 June 2011: To be honest she is not the only reason for not choosing the best sixth form. I am not those kind of academic genius since I just know I am not. The private school I am going is still very good even though it is not as good as the state one.
But a... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for passing up this chance at a great school for a girl who doesn't love me?
Q. I have done things that are quite stupid because I love a girl but she doesn't love me. For example, I got into a school which only take in 5 people in sixth form and this year more than 300 talented students applying because it has 27% of Oxbridge ...
A. 3 June 2011: Thanks for everyone advise but now there is no way back.... (read in full...)
Do you believe God gives signs to tell us things about our relationships?
Q. I'm just wondering if any of you truly believe that if we pray for a sign of something, God will show us. For example, this might sound really silly, but I've fallen in love with this guy, and seriously, it's love. Not lust or infatuation. I'm ...
A. 3 June 2011: I personally is in a similar situation as yours one but the only difference is she doesn't like me.
I had prayed to God for this incident nearly every single night because simply I was mentally exhausted.
Praying to God does give yourself so... (read in full...)
What does she wants from me?
Q. I don't understand why she acting like this on me. We started as friend and then eventually becomes very good friend. I have been there to support her all the way from when she went out with a guy who was using her and I was the only one who was ...
A. 1 June 2011: Yeah you are right I shouldn't unfriend her. But anyway thanks and in fact I seem don't really care about her. Thanks.... (read in full...)
What does she wants from me?
Q. I don't understand why she acting like this on me. We started as friend and then eventually becomes very good friend. I have been there to support her all the way from when she went out with a guy who was using her and I was the only one who was ...
A. 1 June 2011: To certain degree you are correct. But I am not like the guy you had to face during that time. In fact, we barely talk with each other in reality now and I have almost moved on and interact with other girls much more often.... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm obsessed with her and this whole situation is draining me!
Q. Am I really that bad? In the past 8 months have been loving a girl and it was an emotional exhausting process becuase we started from very good friend to she fwent out with anothe guy to now she thinks I am obsessed with her. I don't want to be...
A. 27 May 2011: Thanks for your extremely valuable advise and so far that is the best answer I have.... (read in full...)
She thinks I'm obsessed with her and this whole situation is draining me!
Q. Am I really that bad? In the past 8 months have been loving a girl and it was an emotional exhausting process becuase we started from very good friend to she fwent out with anothe guy to now she thinks I am obsessed with her. I don't want to be...
A. 21 May 2011: Thanks :)... (read in full...)
Why is she acting so cold towards me?
Q. About four weeks ago, me and the girl whom I love has disconnect me completely by kick me out of her friendlist on fb and ignore me during school time. During these four weeks I did send her messages for asking for forgiveness since there were too ...
A. 13 May 2011: Yea I agree with you and thanks for your advice... (read in full...)
I still feel jealousy. I still feel pain. I still feel hatred. Why?
Q. Firstly, I would like to say thanks to everyone who have helped me in here. I really appreciate all those valuable, useful and wonderful advisers. Especially those really harsh which makes realise how stupid I am to love someone who doesn't love ...
A. 7 May 2011: Thanks for your advice. ... (read in full...)
What can I do? The girl I love is ignoring me and took me off her FB friend list.
Q. Please help me! The girl whom I love had killed me out of her friend list on facebook and ignores me in school. About three weeks ago, I stupidly sent her a goodbye letter due to I have accumulate far too much negative emotions in my head. Ever...
A. 6 May 2011: thanks for your advice... (read in full...)
I've Fallen For You and I'm Without a Clue
Q. Hi everyone, There is this guy that I really really like. I've liked him since about February. I have known him for over two years now but I had never talked to him before... to me he was just another one of the boys on my brothers team. At the b...
A. 23 April 2011: I totally understand how you feel since I was in that position about a month ago. There are two choices you can choose in my opinion.
1. Forget him and go for another guy. This will hurt a lot in short term since you love him and he sounds l... (read in full...)
Have I gone and ruined everything? A FWB question.
Q. Long story short I have a friends with benefits (almost a month now). We haven't had sex yet, because I'm a virgin We used to text every day, now we text every few days (he always texts me, but lately I have been texting him, and now I regre...
A. 23 April 2011: Just go and tell him you love him. And let see what will happen. Believe me or not, if you continue in that kind of situation which is between love and friendship for a long time, you will feel mentally exhausted.
... (read in full...)
Should I contact her to see how she is doing?
Q. Recently, I have written a goodbye letter to a girl whom I love due to various reasons. Btw here is the letter:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-written-a-goodbye-letter-to-a.html I saw her she was really upset because of that and I was h...
A. 23 April 2011: Thanks for your advise :) ... (read in full...)
I've hurt her and regret it now!
Q. Is it right for me to say goodbye to her? About two weeks ago, I have sent out a goodbye letter to a girl whom I love because I was mentally exhausted after everything occurred between her and me. Btw here is the link for the goodbye letter: ...
A. 20 April 2011: thank you... (read in full...)
I've hurt her and regret it now!
Q. Is it right for me to say goodbye to her? About two weeks ago, I have sent out a goodbye letter to a girl whom I love because I was mentally exhausted after everything occurred between her and me. Btw here is the link for the goodbye letter: ...
A. 19 April 2011: Oh well there is nothing I can do. Hopefully, things will get better when we meet in school again which will be next week. Anyway thanks for your support. I wish you can go through your own difficult process.... (read in full...)
I've hurt her and regret it now!
Q. Is it right for me to say goodbye to her? About two weeks ago, I have sent out a goodbye letter to a girl whom I love because I was mentally exhausted after everything occurred between her and me. Btw here is the link for the goodbye letter: ...
A. 19 April 2011: Thanks for your honest opinion. When I wrote the letter, all my feelings that I was holding on for 6 months released. To be honest with you, I seriously think I have some kind of psychological problems. I don't feel happiness for long. And yo... (read in full...)
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