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Should I apologize? it still hurts.

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Question - (15 February 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 February 2012)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *3puremage1 writes:

Last year, me and my best friend who I used to love broke out due to I couldn't cope with the pressure when she was going out with another guy for three months.

Those three months was not easy for me to go through. If you want to know how painful it was then just imagine your loved one is kissing and holding hands with someone else instead of you everyday and all your hard work were gone.

I sent a letter to her that about all my feelings that had been hiding from her. It was not for the purpose of getting revenge.

Afterward, I went to another school and she continued to stay on. Sometimes, when I went back to see my friends, she would ignore me.

For example, last time I was about 2 meters away from her and she had her head down. I know she was feeling something (probably feeling bad). In Christmas I sent her a happy Christmas message and it took her a few days to reply. I could kind of guess she was struggling whether to reply it or not. I know she still treat me as a friend at least since she did hate me for a bit but her actions have told me she had moved on.

Everyday I feel really bad for this incident. Should I apologize?

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A male reader, 83puremage1 United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2012):

83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thx for your suggestion. To be honest, I still have a bit of feelings for her. Is just somehow I felt guilty.

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2012):

k_c100 agony auntI dont know what you want to apologize for? You didnt do anything wrong!

You simply were in love with your friend, sent her a letter to tell her how you felt but that ended the friendship - which of course it natural, you cannot be friends when you are in love with that person.

If you are over her now and dont love her anymore, then maybe just send a message to say that you are sorry for everything that has happened between you and you hope you can be friends again in the future.

But if you are not over her and still have feelings there is no point in trying to be friends again, it wont work. Your feelings will end up stronger than ever and you will get hurt again.

I hope this helps and good luck!

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