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*3puremage1
writes:Well my situation is very simple. Right now, I fancy a girl who is a year above me and therefore we only see each other during lunch, breakfast and dinner.I think she kind of like me too but can't be sure since I couldn't find a way to know. None of her friends have given any 'hints' but her actions at least show she likes me as a friend. For example, I have sent her three FB message asking her how is life going and she does reply but the sad thing is she never send one to me.At this moment, I am still struggling to persuade myself to proceed further on because my past experience which was a nightmare and still emotionally exhausting. I am those kind of people who takes ages to recover. If I fail again this time, it would be the third defeat consecutive in a roll. My confidence currently is low, however I know if I don't act now; my chance is going to be zero and at last end up with nothing.What should I do???
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (25 November 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your suggestion and I do recognise I need to be prepared. Anyway thanks for both of you.
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reader, happytime  +, writes (25 November 2011):
Seriously dude? Get a grip. Breaking up with or having a girl say now is not the end of the world. If you don't tell this girl how you feel about her, how is she supposed to know? And it's okay if she is not interested in you; that is her choice and it doesn't mean anything bad about you. Or maybe she will be interested but she couldn't read your mind and never knew you were interested in being more than friends. Be a man. Tell her how you feel. Failing means you are trying and you can not succeed without trying.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (25 November 2011):
 From what you have wrote by her actions she seems to have accepted you as a friend however you cant really know she likes you as anything more unless you speak to her about it.
However you are fearful because you have been hurt before.
I think if your to pursue this you need to be ready to hear a yes or no answer.
From what you have wrote it sounds to me like you'll be worse off if she says NO to you which is a possibility. Or she could say Yes.
I strongly suggest that if your to pursue this just be prepared. You have to be ready to hear a yes or no answer if you cant handle it right now, i would just leave it.
Hope this helps!
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