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writes:Am I really that bad?In the past 8 months have been loving a girl and it was an emotional exhausting process becuase we started from very good friend to she fwent out with anothe guy to now she thinks I am obsessed with her. I don't want to be obsessed with her and I do hang out with other girls for a quite a lot of time. Now we don't talk as much a before and barely interact with each other. All my female friend thinks she is being quite horrible to me since she had betrayed the trust I put in her buy I have never blamed her for that. She just think I am obsessed with her and I will never stop. I don't want that to happen and am trying my best to stop it and thats is why I hang out with other people and avoid talking to her. I feel pain. I am exhausted. I am sad.Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (27 May 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your extremely valuable advise and so far that is the best answer I have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): You loved someone who rejected you and your trust was betrayed. The pain you feel is normal, miserable while its going on but still normal. The thing is, while you wanted to see the best in her and loved her. She had no best to give. She wasn't worthy of the love you have to offer. This happens to many of us, myself included. Sometimes we ONLY want to see the good parts of a person and get blinded to their bad side. I did the same with someone and was left completely gutted by the whole experience so i know how it feels. The good news is that as time goes on, you will meet someone who you will love far more than you ever loved this girl. Trust me it will happen. You just need to get some new thoughts and try not to dwell on what happened too much. Lets face it, she has spoiled things and even if you had the chance to date her again it wouldn't be the same now. You would feel resentful for the pain she caused and you would always be worrying that she didn't really love you or she might let you down again. How would that make you happy?So look at the facts. Even if she wanted to date you, you would be daft to say yes. And you couldn't ever be 100% happy. It is time to move on and look around you at all the lovely girls about! Your friends included, that are being sweet and supporting you at the moment. So cheer up and try to talk about other things to the girls. Because some of them might be going back and forth a little with 'He said, She said' to your ex friend. That may be giving her the idea you are obsessed with her. Just send out a message that she wishes you were obsessed and you wouldn't date her again if she begged. And then move on with your chin up. One of the greatest abilities man has. is the ability to accept a failure now and then and not let it break his stride. Without that, we would never have reached the moon, climbed Everest, i could go on! Don't let what happened affect you too much x
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reader, 83puremage1 +, writes (21 May 2011):
83puremage1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 May 2011):
 Ignore her. Avoid her. Not much else you can do.
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