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Archived questions from: April, 2019 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Whenever we disagree he brings up everything that has ever made him mad!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2022 days ago

30 April 2019 (F) - Well, my boyfriend and I have been dating 20 months. He said God brought us together but this relationship has been emotionally draining. He has such a quit temper that even when I say things that are right I'm still wrong. He is not a person that ...

I just want to know that I am sane. He made me feel crazy

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2022 days ago

29 April 2019 (F) - I have posted about this particular man some years back. I met this European man on a dating website. For almost 4 years of whatsapp messages, we have only video called on Skype twice, the first video call was both our ideas and the second video ...

I know I can't trust him again but I also want to tell him let's work on it and can figure it out. What is wrong with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2026 days ago

25 April 2019 (F) - I've been dating a guy for about 2.5 months who is going through a separation. He has treated me better than anyone I've been with before and I was really starting to imagine a life with him. The gestures he made, how he made me feel, our ...

The way my husband argues with me and handles conflict is very difficult for me to handle

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2028 days ago

24 April 2019 (F) - My husband and I have been together over two years. We have had a lot of good times and not so good times. I am expected to be submissive and I try hard but it’s not always easy. Sometimes he gets mad over small things. It wouldn’t bother me but ...

Should I let this guy go since he treats any kind of way?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

23 April 2019 (F) - Hello, so I met this guy in september 2017. Someone told him about me from his church. He was looking for someone to help promote his business. After he sent his phone number by someone from the church and kept sending messages for me to call him ...

I don't think he's over his ex yet. What should I do now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2021 days ago

23 April 2019 (F) - To cut a long story short...A guy I’ve dated previously (but never been in a relationship with) and someone who remained a friend for about 5 years suddenly exited his toxic relationship of six months. I hadn’t seen this friend in a year or so but ...

My partner is giving his children extra money and I'm not happy about it

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2025 days ago

23 April 2019 (F) - So I have been with a man for a little over 2 years now. He has two children from a previous marriage. He pays child support for these children. Everyone gets along, there are no hard feelings about anything. On the children's most recent ...

My SIL is trying to cut me out of her children's lives saying I am the reason she has bad relationships with them

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

23 April 2019 (F) - Hi all, I am really struggling. Since the day they were each born, I have been like a second Mom to my nieces. I have such special relationships with each of them, am the Godmother of #2 and I love them like they were my own kids. Throughout their...

What is the best way to reject this persistent guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

23 April 2019 (F) - There is a guy at work (we work in separate departments) and he is always trying to chat me up. I thought he just wanted to be friends a "friendly co-worker" relationship, but I bought up about a vacation trip and said I went with someone and his ...

No sex and I don't feel appreciated. How do I talk to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

22 April 2019 (F) - Me and my OH have been together for almost 10 years and have two children 7 and 5. For the most part, it's been great, obviously ups and down but nothing really major. Sex has always been a bit of a problem with us, it's like we have never really b...

Should I respond to and forgive a homophobic friend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2004 days ago

22 April 2019 (M) - Time ago I had a friend. We knew each other for a long time, almost 10 years. All this time I was in the closet but then I met this guy and everything got serious between us and that was when I decided I wanted to finally come out. My friend was ...

Despite all the nonsense I still wanted him but the "Facebook relationship" woman he's never met in real life reaps all the benefits

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2029 days ago

22 April 2019 (F) - He is a typical Mr Unavailable. We were close once and we’d text all the time. I was coming out of a destructive relationship and soon our involvement became romantic. Despite his advances and “promises”, he was just unable to commit to a ...

What's wrong with me? I've always been conditioned to want certain things out of life but none of them fit my idea of my most honest self

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2030 days ago

21 April 2019 (F) - How can I accept who I am? for the last 30 years all I have been conditioned to want is 1. Get married 2. Buy a house 3. Make babies and compete with your neighbor to show who is happier - fancier - richer etc . My family is quite dysfunc...

What's wrong with my friend? Or am I not reading him correctly?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2032 days ago

20 April 2019 (M) - Can a friend be acting different or is it just me. I have a friend from childhood. Every time something good is happening in my life he seems to disappear. For example he heard some bad news from a mutual friend that I had lost my job. And as a ...

How do we move past what I did?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1977 days ago

20 April 2019 (M) - Just a little background to begin.Married for 16 years,2 teenage kids,work and money have been a huge source of stress for the past year.My wife is often gone with one of my children out of town for sports most weekends for the past 2 years. over ...

I looked in fiance's tablet to find out he lied to me about where he was. Where do I go from here?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2031 days ago

19 April 2019 (F) - My fiancé plays soccer once a week with our mutual friends and also invites his colleagues. I tried it a few times but wasn’t into it and stopped going. Up until a month ago he would come home around 8 and we would have dinner together. Then, one ...

Is it normal for pregnant women to drift away from friends?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2034 days ago

17 April 2019 (F) - Is it normal for pregnant women to drift apart from friends? My best friend is 6 months along now but she has been ignoring me since Dec. Never answers my texts/calls. Strange thing is one random day she blocks me on fb but keeps me on whatsapp and ...

Does my post break up regret suggest we should stay together?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2035 days ago

17 April 2019 (F) - Hi guys, I feel at a dilemma here. I have been in a relationship with my current BF for 5 months now. I am 26, he is 26. I have asked questions about this relationship on here in the past, basically not wanting to deal with his issues. Most ad...

Supplemental: My ex is now posting horrible things about me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2036 days ago

17 April 2019 (M) - Hi everyone, I did post my question earlier this week and i did get good feedback so thank you to those who did help, but I do feel as if I left out a lot of information and it is quite a confusing situation I find myself in so I’d like to give this ...

My Algerian fiance wants $5000 for a student visa?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2034 days ago

17 April 2019 (F) - Hello Thanks in advance for your help. My fiancée and myself live in different countries. I’m Canadian , he is from Algeria. We have been together over 2 years. I have went to see him 6 times in the two years. He has applied for his v...

I was told my friend doesn't wish to speak to me anymore. Do I ask her about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2034 days ago

14 April 2019 (F) - someone who is really horrible and by far the most nasty and manipulative person I have ever met due to multiple reasons inboxed me and told me my friend does not want to speak to me again . I'm not sure if he said this to be hurtful or if he is ...

There is something wrong with me, as soon as we have sex I dump them!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2039 days ago

14 April 2019 (F) - I daydream about sex most if the time.I read about it, and I watch it. I also find dates, the person usually starts to like me and we hit it off, then we have sex, and then I immediatley cut them off, even if i've enjoyed it I just need to find ...

I think I am being manipulated into being Plan B

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2026 days ago

14 April 2019 (F) - My ex who dated me for almost 5 years suddenly blocked me on whatsapp and 3 weeks later sent me a break up letter. I did not react but I cried and still cry. I went online 2 days ago and saw that his ex wife has new pictures in his new house wh...

I suspect my ex set up my (now also an ex), boyfriend to cheat on me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

13 April 2019 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. I go to his house every weekend for Friday and Saturday night, and he comes to my house usually to stay the night on Wednesdays. He's been a complete sweetheart to me and we had good plans for the ...

Could this teenage boy be having a CRUSH on me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2039 days ago

13 April 2019 (F) - Do teenage lads get crushes on middle aged female authority figures? This is a bizarre situation and you can rest assured nothing will be acted upon - but as a female tutor in her late 40s I work with young men of teenage years aged about 16 or...

LDR wont introduce me to his teenager son which means we cant spend some weekends together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2039 days ago

13 April 2019 (F) - I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months He is 68yrs old has 15 yr old alternate wknds I am 62 one son 28 lives away he wont introduce me to his son so we can spend wknds together Am I being unreasonable? I work f/t m-f ...

Will he take me back even though I have acted like a nutter?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2037 days ago

13 April 2019 (F) - I posted once before - see http://www.dearcupid.org/question/everything-was-perfect-until-he-lost-his-nan.html Since then it’s all been pretty messy.. I went a little psycho for a while, kept trying to contact him etc to which he completely ignor...

I get dates but then I think there might be somebody better so I ghost them

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

13 April 2019 (M) - Hello everyone, I am looking for some help and would be grateful for your opinions. I'm single and looking for a woman, and I've had 13 dates so far this year. I'm not a fussy guy and I liked 9 of them. With 7 of these 9, I have had second or th...

I have neve wanted children, husband is being pressured to adopt his orphaned nephew

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 2038 days ago

13 April 2019 (F) - My husband and I are both 29 and child free by choice. His sister and her husband, both 40, passed away in a car accident two months ago. They left behind a 9 year old who is currently living with my husband's parents. Long story short, his paren...

Looking back forces me to ask myself if every relationship is different.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

12 April 2019 (F) - I was going through old files and found a video of me singing with my ex... Yeah I know I can already see the "bad idea! Bad idea!!" red flags going up haha I'm long since over it. Today it's like a painful lesson that has taught me more empathy ...

She seems like a nice girl, but I think she is also a fake profile who follows me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

10 April 2019 (M) - Hi ladies and gentlemen Sorry, this is going to be a long and very weird story. I met a girl, we spent 1 day together (platonic) and it was nice. we kept in touch and grew closer but we live 9 hours by car away from each other so didn't see ea...

My mother threatens to cut me off over the clothes I wear

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 2027 days ago

10 April 2019 (F) - I'm a 31 year old woman who lives and works away from my parents. My parents were never the overly controlling kind, although my mother is kind of very conservative when it comes to certain things. She doesn't approve of partying or wearing ...

If he takes days to respond, is he not interested?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2040 days ago

9 April 2019 (F) - I met this guy online a few months ago, we live an hour away from each other. We were talking casually for about a month before meeting up. We had a great date and ended up hooking up afterwards. I wasn't planning on it but it sort of happened when ...

I think I got HPV from my new boyfriend which could only mean he's cheating on me, right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2041 days ago

9 April 2019 (F) - I think my new boyfriend is cheating on me. I have recently been to the doctors because i am so tired and have a problem on my throat / back of my mouth. We use protection so i know im not pregnant. The doctor told me i have hpv. I know the only ...

How can I resolve these emotions with my parents?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2040 days ago

9 April 2019 (F) - How can I put this bad episode in my life past me? I am in my early thirties and am living at home hiding my life from my family and everyone around me . I grew up in an old school Italian family where appearance was everything . My parents ...

Father-to-be thinks his life is now over - will he change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2045 days ago

8 April 2019 (F) - My finance and I are expecting our first child very soon. We have been together for 10 years and previously had a miscarriage which was very hard. Through out my pregnancy, he only goes through phases where he is interested in it. I get no add...

I still resent the way my husband proposed to me.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2042 days ago

8 April 2019 (F) - I wanted to see if I’m being sensitive or not, I can’t get over the fact after 6 years of marriage with two kids of how my husband proposed. We’ve been dating for 5 years before he propose and the way he did it makes me sad till to this day. I see ...

I have to have dinner with the girl who rejected me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2042 days ago

8 April 2019 (M) - Hi To keep a long story short, I have to have dinner with the girl who rejected me, her parents and a few of her other friends. It's the first time I've seen her since she rejected me a few weeks ago. We're trying to be friends but i just ...

My boyfriend won't tell anyone that I'm a part of his life and I feel like a dirty secret

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2045 days ago

7 April 2019 (F) - My Boyfriend refuses to tell anyone about me he claims he is private . He won't even tell his parents about me claims he is fighting with his Mother... yet she text him every day he visits her at Christmas and she just sent him flowers. This has ...

My boyfriend keeps trying to compete with my wealthy family.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2045 days ago

7 April 2019 (F) - I'm confused about this man who likes me. I come from a wealthy family, and i promise that I never brag about it. Basically, this man who's interested in me told me that he likes me. But, he keeps telling me how independent he is, how many ...

I think I am messed up and that I messed up this relationship.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2036 days ago

7 April 2019 (F) - Hi everyone, I’ve had something very strange happen to me and I’m hoping someone can help me work out what to do about it. I’ve been crushing on a man for about 18 months now. He’s physically not my usual type, but the minute I met him I had a ...

I'm really confused about this guy.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2044 days ago

7 April 2019 (F) - So, me and this guy have been talking. It was ok. Then he sends a message saying I've been thinking long and hard about your messages. If it was the the other way around you would you would cause for concern. So, dont apologise again. Im not up for ...

I am willing but don't want to move too fast.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2044 days ago

7 April 2019 (F) - Dear Cupid I am single and have been for the last 20 yrs. Only thingvI do is work and come home to an empty house my children are grown and on their own. I really want to get back out in the dating world but I am afraid of getting hurt again my pass ...

How do I chose the one to spend my life with?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2045 days ago

6 April 2019 (F) - i got into so much mess its driving me insane. I cant find my way anymore im in two long term relationships one of 21 years and one of 2 years I don't know what to do. I cant seem to make a choice through uncertainty, feeling scared of the pain and ...

His insensitive comment makes me want to just leave him!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2039 days ago

5 April 2019 (F) - I've been with boyfriend for 8 years now. We have had our bad patches and arguments, but the past couple of years have been really good, good communication, great sex, laughter, good times generally. We don't live together due to work commitments in ...

I cannot flirt, create a spark or connect sexually with women

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2047 days ago

5 April 2019 (M) - I find it impossible to give off sexual vibes. I revert straight into a friendship style of communication. If there’s ever any slight indication of sexual interest from someone I freak out and go into a seemingly calm and causal interaction which ...

Its seems being committed is hard work.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2045 days ago

4 April 2019 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years. We rent an apartment together and we have a good life. He's adorable and funny and kind, but sometimes I feel like I love him more as a friend than a lover, and I don't know if that's normal or ...

My older boyfriend wants me to pretend to be his daughter.

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 2043 days ago

4 April 2019 (F) - I dont think age should matter in a true loving relationship. My dad thinks otherwise and so I have moved out and anto my bf's place a few months ago. Although he is about 10 years older than me he is just so adorable. I like so love him to pieces ...

His words say "just friends" but his actions say otherwise!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2037 days ago

4 April 2019 (M) - I've become very close friends with another guy over the past 2 years (both of us gay). He's so warm and natural to be around. After the first six months of our friendship I told him I had feelings for him but he said he was just looking to be ...

My boyfriend lost his business and has stopped talking to me and his friends.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2047 days ago

4 April 2019 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for over 10 months now, re just recently had to close down his business and is unemployed now. About 3 weeks ago he stopped talking to me, I thought I got mad at me so I leave him alone, 3 days in I texted him agai...