He doesn't show me any care or love, he just keeps ignoring me!
Q. dear cupid...my boyfriend has been ignoring me for 3weeks now and anytime i asked him what the problem is he tells me he is ok,and when i asked if he is tired of me,he still says no have have to try to make things work but he doesnt show me anycare ...
A. 6 January 2013: Sorry to sound harsh but boyfriends don't do that so er go he isn't your boyfriend. Ditch this coward - you deserve better! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 19 December 2012: What an absolute joke of a man. The second you read this I would pick up my bag and run for the hills.
From all the qualities you've mentioned, you honey deserve SO much more than this.
Tell his ex she's welcome to the waster!
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I've been leading this guy on, and now I'm afraid he's going to ask me out.
Q. Soo, I have this guy friend that I met about 4 months ago, and were really good friends. Only problem is, I enjoy chatting to him and stuff, but he really really likes me and I don't like him in that way ay all. He's a cool guy, but just not my ...
A. 18 December 2012: Obviously I don't know exactly why you kept responding but I would hazard a guess that you enjoyed the attention you were receiving from him - otherwise you wouldn't have reciprocated the flirting.
Ignoring someone just does not work - as well ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a cycle of loving and loathing each other. We fight. When is enough, enough?
Q. We have been together on and off for 6 years. We got engaged 6 months ago and things are not good. We don't fight well at all. We both say things that we shouldn't . She keeps telling me she don't have that feeling for me, yet she don't want t...
A. 18 December 2012: "We don't have sex and she can't really stand me or anything I do."
So why on earth are you still with her? From that statement alone, it sounds like the end has come for you two. Find someone who will want to have sex with you as part of having a... (read in full...)
If he really loves me and wants to marry me, then why does he keep joining dating sites?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. The last 2 have gotten rather bumpy because he keeps talking to girls on dating sites. He has asked me to marry him but because he lies to me about his dating sites it makes me too afraid to marry ...
A. 18 December 2012: As you've said - from what he's doing he's obviously not happy as he keeps chatting to girls online so why on earth are you still with him?
By continually going on these sites even after you two have broken up over it, he is showing absolute... (read in full...)
Is he using me? I just don't feel special anymore.
Q. Been seeing a married man, on and off for 4 years...did try ending it but we soon got back together, I guess we missed each other. We are in contact on a daily basis...emailing for hours on end plus texting by phone. Iv never asked him to leave his ...
A. 12 December 2012: Sadly that's because in his eyes you aren't that special. He is just using you.
Im sorry for how harsh that sounds but I think you deserve so much more than this man who only gives himself a little part of you (which he shouldn't be giving y... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend left me pregnant, doesn't care to see our child or pay for anything,
Q. My ex boyfriend left me pregnant, we already have a child together and he has two before me. When we broke up the first time, he was on craigslist looking for men and women for sex and i took him back, he was looking at porn also and when we were ...
A. 12 December 2012: Well firstly - congratulations! This pathetic excuse of a "man" is out of your life. If you need the money desperately then go after him for child support - if he didn't wanna be a father he shouldn't have put himself in a position where he could ... (read in full...)
Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and ...
A. 10 December 2012: If you are not comfortable with it - simply don't do it! You will end feeling exactly how you think you will feel and even worse still cause you knew how you would feel. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend pressured me to throw out all things from my past but she lied and didn't do the same!
Q. After 6 months I bowed to constant pressure and threw away all my old photos, holiday photos the lot (except the ones of my son). My girlfriend was adamant that they belonged in the past, was nothing to do with "us" and told me she had thrown all ...
A. 9 December 2012: Majorly double standards that she didn't get rid off anything but told you she had. Judging by the age bracket on your answer you had quite a lot of life before you met her and deleting your photos won't take that away.
Im really sorry you won'... (read in full...)
I know I'm going to break up with him. But am I right to wait until after Christmas? Should I return his Christmas presents after we break up?
Q. Something has snapped in me this week and I have finally decided, after a lot of heartache, that I want to break up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. He is no longer making any effort with me, and despite me bringing it up several times and him prom...
A. 9 December 2012: I agree - you should finish as soon as you possibly can so he can make alternative plans for Christmas.
Hope you're okay ... (read in full...)
"I love her as much as I could" What does that mean?
Q. What does it mean when a man says "I loved her as much as I could.?" I ask, because, an associate of mine cited that he cheated and left an ex girlfriend over twenty something years ago, but he claims that while she "loved him more than he loved ...
A. 6 December 2012: The last statement definitely rings alarm bells - your feelings for each other aren't matched from his point of view so you need to think whether you can accept this x... (read in full...)
I need some advice on making some new friends.
Q. I am feeling a bit lonely at the moment and I am hoping some people could give me some advice on making new friends at the age of 27. I have always been a bit shy, but despite this I have usually always had a friend or two at every stage of my life ...
A. 6 December 2012: By joining clubs I think you're doing exactly the right thing - you're getting yourself out there to meet people with similar interests on a casual, friendly basis. Just keep doing this and friendships will develop :) ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife and 2 kids for my mistress?
Q. Should I leave my wife and especially my 2kids for my 4years realtionship with mistress? I cant seem to leave my mistress, she is 11 years younger than me, I bn married for more that 13 years, soon 14. I dont want her to meet soomeone else, the more...
A. 5 December 2012: Can't say it any better than Aunty Em. You deserve all the feelings you are experiencing and as for your comment 'I don't need to read or hear as I already know that'. Actually you do because you're still continuing with this behavior.
May y... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me and wants to communicate again. I feel guilty for refusing her request, advice?
Q. My ex has recently contacted me after no contact for six years. We had been together for 18 years and she left me for another man. I have found out that she got married and now has separated from the guy she left me for. The split really hur...
A. 5 December 2012: Sorry that you had the experience of her leaving you. Hope you've healed and are moving on with life.
Again agreed with everyone - you owe her nothing. She has now realized what she had with you and wants that back. She's too late.
You may... (read in full...)
Would I be better off without him? He makes me feel like shit much of the time.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, after a very shaky beginning of being on/off for about 6 months before that. I've never felt this way about anyone before, but I've also never felt so bad about myself since I started liking him. It's ...
A. 5 December 2012: When you have never experienced feelings like that before - you will cling to the memory of them whilst ignoring how bad you are feeling.
Also I know that sometimes you know that you deserve better than this person but can't actually find the... (read in full...)
No contact in a week from b/f and I have no idea why?
Q. So my boyfriend hasnt talked to me for a week, We've been dating for 4months now (going into 5) he hasn't replied nto my texts or to my calls. My mind tells me he's cheating. My heart tells me hes busy. But you,see he's parents'dont care bout ...
A. 2 December 2012: If nothing major has happened to him (which you can assume hasn't as you said your cousin would let you know) I think you can assume that he has problem when it comes to you but hasn't vocalised it. Could you go around and see him or is this a long ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my married lover who is also the father of my daughter? I've tried, but it's so difficult.
Q. MY daughter's father and i broke up 9 months ago. I'm still not over him. We have a 15 month old daughter together, he is married and is having another baby. I know you might think what do i want with him? It's not that i want him its more so i c...
A. 24 November 2012: Sadly one of the easiest ways to get over someone is to cut all contact with them but obviously because of your daughter this option isn't possible.
Maybe one way of limiting contact is to make it clear to him that the only thing you 2 need to ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed that I have let him have such power over me. Please help me!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I know he is probably a good person, but he makes me so sad most of the time. He literally critiques almost everything I do. Just to make sure I wasn't crazy, which he frequently tells me I am, I started ...
A. 17 November 2012: Hi there
Apologies if this is going to sound harsh but going off everything you have said I'm not sure that this relationship is good for your emotional welfare.
Sadly speaking from experience I know that constant negative comments will ch... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed that I have let him have such power over me. Please help me!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I know he is probably a good person, but he makes me so sad most of the time. He literally critiques almost everything I do. Just to make sure I wasn't crazy, which he frequently tells me I am, I started ...
A. 17 November 2012: Hi there
Apologies if this is going to sound harsh but going off everything you have said I'm not sure that this relationship is good for your emotional welfare.
Sadly speaking from experience I know that constant negative comments will ch... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to stop playing with my hair? He's caused a lot of it to fall out!
Q. Ok this is a stupid question but I need as many suggestions as possible. My boyfriend always plays with my hair and I need him to stop. He does it without thinking, in the car, in his sleep, laying in his arms watching tv, at the cinema, sitting ...
A. 15 November 2012: Maybe when he starts doing it grab his hand and hold it?
I know this maybe a stupid question but have you asked him to stop doing it? ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can trust him, anymore.
Q. me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years now and he cheated on me right after i found out i was preganat and he new but one night his ex girl friend texted him and he told her to never text or call him and that i was preganat and we were ...
A. 15 November 2012: It is so scary to leave a relationship especially when a big commitment has been made but the brutal truth in this instance is that you would be far happier on your own.
Please remember NOTHING you have done has warranted this behavior. If he's ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly and I don't think any guy will ever want me
Q. Help I am 18 and having a rough time. I feel ugly and I dont think any guy will ever want me or choose me over anyone else. My mum says I am beautiful but I think she would say that. I am at the stage where I dont like anything about myself. I am ...
A. 15 November 2012: My eyes teared up reading this because at 17 I felt exactly the same. As difficult it is to make yourself feel happy when you feel sad, try balancing every negative thought you have about yourself with a positive one - even if its something tiny. ... (read in full...)
I know he's a married lying cheating man but how do I move on?
Q. Around a year and a half ago, I met a guy (my co-worker but we work different schedules so we hardly meet at work) and we started dating. We fell in love with each other...this went on for around 4 months and then I found out that he is marri...
A. 15 November 2012: Sadly its just going to take time. Keep reinforcing to yourself how strong you have been in not seeing him and reminding yourself that you deserve all of a person - not just half of a cheating one.
x... (read in full...)
Why do involved guys send texts to other girls?
Q. My boyfriend has been sending dirty texts to other girls and he knows that I know. Why do guys send dirty message to other girls if they're in a relationship?...
A. 15 November 2012: Agreed with everyone else on here - he does not respect you and you can definitely do without.
*Hugs*... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 9 November 2012: Lashing out when challenged is a massive sign of guilt. His being on a dating website shows his intentions. I think you deserve someone who doesn't verbally abuse you
*hugs*... (read in full...)
Should I bother with him anymore?
Q. Is there any point bothering with this guy. He always texts me days after we seen each other, sometimes i'll have to wait a week to even receive a text. And then when I happen to take a while to reply, I noticed that he also takes ages himself, it's ...
A. 7 November 2012: Apologies to be so blunt but if he was interested he would text you - not take a week to reply. Sounds like this is something you should end and move on from ... (read in full...)
Is all this normal... or am I being irrational?
Q. Dear cupid, my boyfriend and I have been together on and off, for nearly four years now. It has had it's good parts and it's bad parts like any relationship I guess but I feel like I have hit a wall in the relationship now. I am coming here because ...
A. 6 November 2012: Going to add my voice to the chorus of other aunts and uncles but this is completely double standards. At this moment I think you could do better ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend swears at me and calls me names but I love him. Should I dump him?
Q. I am having a serious problem. My bf always swears at me, calling me all sorts of names, and I really hate that when he bought me something and do something wrong, when I confront him he wants his things back. I really love him but very confused...
A. 6 November 2012: I think you've summarized how you're feeling yourself - you want to dump him because he verbally abuses you and when you challenge him on this he does not listen and continues to do it. He has no need to change the behavior because you accept it.
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Could my boyfriend be watching porn because he's depressed?
Q. My partner watches porn and says he does it because he feels depressed. So, to the men... Is this just an excuse or could he be telling the truth? Also, how could looking at pictures of naked women help him to feel better without masturbating...
A. 2 November 2012: Agree with dmartin89 - normally its an escape through a fantasy. Whilst I think some people watch porn without masturbation - there is definitely at least visual stimulation. Also agree with the self-medication point - if he feels sad and th... (read in full...)
Its my first relationship but it doesn't feel normal!
Q. Me and this guy we have known each for 1 month now. We were complete strangers when we first met. Starting from the 5th day we known each he was talking about how much he loved me and how much he cares for me because of how much we have in common ...
A. 27 October 2012: Apologies but I have to add my voice to this chorus. I have experienced the guilty feelings associated when someone pressures you into having sex. From my experience giving in just succeeds in slowly removing your self-esteem. His 'I love yo... (read in full...)
He makes racist inappropriate comments. Now it seems he may have been seeing a local prostitute of the same race he vilifies. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is nearly 40. He makes comments all the time if we are out and see an oriental woman with a man he immediately says "oh look it's bought your wife". He even said that my friend who was 27 and going out with a 42 year old was going ou...
A. 26 October 2012: I know its easy enough for us to say as we're not in your position but I would end this relationship before this emotionally vapid man can cause you any more or any further emotional damage ... (read in full...)
He's looking at Porn every night. Is this what men do or is this unacceptable?
Q. Mondote: Please provide your age next time you ask a question to help people who answer your question/s. Been with C for 8years, lived together for 5years and have an 8month old baby. Always had arguments about porn with empty promises about not wa...
A. 26 October 2012: Sadly I'm in agreement with Person12345 - there is no trust in this relationship but it also sounds like not a lot of respect from him to you because he keeps continuing to do something that you have expressed clearly that you don't like.
It al... (read in full...)
Which woman understands me best? I feel more love for this second woman. What should I do
Q. i have a baby with someone and i stay with her, but the problem is i have beendating someone else, for more than a year now. The other woman and I love one another so so much. It is like my first relationship ever ,we talk ,we laugh and we understan...
A. 25 October 2012: It sounds like you are only staying with the first woman because you have child together and this really isn't the basis for a relationship. It will cause resentment and possibly impact on the child as it grows up as a negative parental issue ca... (read in full...)
We are about to move into a new house but I'm worried he's cheating again
Q. I've got trust issues with my boyfriend as he has cheated on me before. I try to let go of my in securities but it seems hard to let go. Now it seems like he has met someone new. He now takes good care of himself which is something he never did ...
A. 24 October 2012: It sounds like you haven't totally forgiven or forgotten the past experience of cheating and as long as you feel like this you are going to be suspicious of his activities.
Maybe a possible suggestion is to sit down with your boyfriend and disc... (read in full...)
Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?
Q. Dear Cupid Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday...
A. 22 October 2012: Echoing what HoneyPie said - there's nothing wrong fantasizing about someone else whilst masturbating as long as these fantasies don't extend into something that could affect your relationship.
Just because you're in a relationship doesn't ... (read in full...)
She doesn't like vibrators what else can she do?
Q. My girlfriend likes to masturbate by rubbing her clit through her panties. I was wondering if any women who also like to orgasm like that have any suggestions on other things she might like? BTW she doesn't really like vibrators. Oh yeah, ...
A. 22 October 2012: I guess you could do it for her if thats something she enjoys but from the wording of your question - it sounds like you may want to use something (such as a sex aide) to feel more involved in her orgasms. Would this be correct?... (read in full...)
How do you people handle loved ones with OCD?? It's driving me nuts!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a live in relationship for the past 2 years. He is a kind,loving man but I have major issues with his OCD and its driving me nuts. 1)We are not allowed to have house parties because he doesn't want the place to get...
A. 22 October 2012: Hi there I can very much appreciate that you feel frustrated at little things that mean nothing to you (such as shoes in the house etc). I feel the same as a close relative has severe OCD although the compulsion is different from cleaning. As... (read in full...)
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