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writes:What does it mean when a man says "I loved her as much as I could.?" I ask, because, an associate of mine cited that he cheated and left an ex girlfriend over twenty something years ago, but he claims that while she "loved him more than he loved her", he still "loved her as much as he could." What in the world does that mean? And is it a bad thing when someone tells you that you love them way more than they love you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): it means that he didn't really love her but tried to force himself to. feelings can't be forced, they're either there or they're not. but often people feel guilty if they're not in love with someone anymore because that other person still loves them, so they try to fake it or force themselves to like the person more than they actually do. this is what he means by he 'loved her as much as he could' - it means he was trying to make himself feel attracted or in love with her, but in the end he just didn't have the feelings.
is it bad when someone says they don't love you as much as you love them? depends on what you want from them I suppose. if you want them to return your feelings then yes it's disappointing but it's being honest so it is what it is.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2012):
 It's hard to say, but I would venture a guess.
It mean he doesn't (didn't) know what love it.
He didn't cheat because he didn't LOVE her enough. He cheated because he wanted to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): He couldn't and didn't love her as much as she loved him. Basically.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (6 December 2012):
It means he felt obligated to love her, but it was obvious that she loved him more than he could ever love her in return.
Her love for him was unconditional but his love was only out of some ill-conceived duty or obligation to her because he saw how much she loved him and felt bad that he didn't feel the same way about her.
It is a mojor red flag when someone tells you that you love them way more than they love you. It is a warning that you need to start distancing yourself from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): It means he she was worthless to him but he doesn't want to outright say that.
Sounds like he didn't love her in any way at all to be honest if he cheated on her and then dumped her.
You really don't do that to anyone you love at all. I mean he didn't exactly have much respect for her either to that did he?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 December 2012):
 My G/F and I have a schtick that we practice....
She says; "I love you"... .. and I say, "I love you more".... and she sez: "I love you the most".... and I say, "I love you moster"......
It seems harmless......
P.S. Almost without fail, it results in us going somewhere private to see which of us really DOES like the other the most....
P.P.S. It's usually a toss-up!!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 It means that, while he was not indifferent to this girl and while he had SOME feelings for her, his feelings weren't strong enough to prevent him from cheating, and to moving on to other women at some point.
Yes, if someone tells you love them way more than they love you, it is a bad thing, it means do not have great expectations ,because anytime I can find someone whom I'll love more than I love you .
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (6 December 2012):
 It means he didn't love her completely or fully. He didn't love her enough obviously to be faithful or to want to be with her for all of his life.
I'd say its a bad thing and can be a very hurtful situation if you love someone more than they love you. It means they don't see you two being together for all of your lives more than likely.
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reader, Zaaleena +, writes (6 December 2012):
The last statement definitely rings alarm bells - your feelings for each other aren't matched from his point of view so you need to think whether you can accept this x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 December 2012):
 It means he did not love her as she loved him
he did not love her enough to marry her to be with her to spend his life with her.
Is it a bad thing if someone says you love them ore than they love you? Well yeah if you think you are going to be spending your life with them, they are telling you not to get your hopes up.
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