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writes:Soo, I have this guy friend that I met about 4 months ago, and were really good friends. Only problem is, I enjoy chatting to him and stuff, but he really really likes me and I don't like him in that way ay all. He's a cool guy, but just not my type, and I just realized like a week ago I've been leading him on incredibly, like by responding to his (many) texts and flirting with him, and I don't know why I keep doing it because he's starting to creep me out! Like offering me lifts all the time and stuff. Im not sure if i should just give up being friends with him and then he'll get the idea that i don't really like him. Cause i think if i keep trying to just be friends with him, he'll keep interpreting that as me being interested in him. I'm not sure If he'll get up the courage to ask me out, but if he Does what should I say to turn him down without him getting all upset about It? If he doesnt ask me out how can I I tell him I'm not interested? Because ignoring him might not work since I do that already. So does he, he's just always staring over at me CONTINUALLY. He seems to like to comunicate mainly by text. What should I do???!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): Thanks heaps for the advice everyone!!! I especially liked serpico's response- I get it -I should stop playing with matches :p. l WILL talk to him really soon
There IS a guy i have a crush on and i think i did it coz i wasnt getting the attention i wanted from him...
problem is that I find it really hard to be platonic friends with guys -either I start liking them or they start liking me. (Sigh) but I will try really hard not to do it again :p
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 December 2012):
 If he asks you out "oh Bobby I'm so flattered that you feel that way but to be honest I don't see anything happening between us in that way, I love being friends with you however"
to make sure he knows where he stand with you
1. stop flirting
2. make no suggestive comments
3. if he makes suggestive comments the statement "don't go there" (NO smileys) will help
4. if there is a boy you do think is cute... it's easy enough to friendzone this guy with comments about how cute you think steve is... and how you wish STEVE would ask you out... and ask Bobby what you can do to make that happen... "bobby you are my best guy friend and I'm really liking this other guy, if a girl liked you and wanted to go out with you what would you want her to do?"
he'll get the message.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (18 December 2012):
"Ive been playing with matches, but Im now burning myself. What should I do?"
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reader, scottmartinez2012 +, writes (18 December 2012):
 The dilemma of being friends or just moving away from the guy is something all girls are unable to decide. Its the oldest mystery that girls have never found a solution to resolve. I would suggest that you either go on dates with random guys just to show him that you are not interested. But if while doing such an act you feel a discomfort, then don't ignore your feelings too.
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reader, Zaaleena +, writes (18 December 2012):
Obviously I don't know exactly why you kept responding but I would hazard a guess that you enjoyed the attention you were receiving from him - otherwise you wouldn't have reciprocated the flirting.
Ignoring someone just does not work - as well as being quite cowardly; it leaves them with a lot of unanswered questions and just adds further to the turmoil of emotions.
It seems harsh but the kindest thing by far to do is just tell him that the texts were fun but you're not interested in pursuing anything further.
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reader, Hangin  +, writes (18 December 2012):
Girl I think you should open up with him. Tell him that you only see him as a friend, and you don't want to lose that relationship. Tell him so that he'll know his place. Tell him everything but don't forget respect - because he is your friend and you don't want to ruin it. I think the only reason why he is still your friend is because you really treasure your relationship. Good luck!
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