Problems in the work place, how do I deal with them?
Q. a guy at work fancies me, his mate came and told told me and now everyone in the office knows, he is not even talking to me after that, why?? another problem is, he's nice but i already have a boyfriend. i am really stressed what do i do?? he is ...
A. 2 April 2010: Your not in high school anymore. Grow up and talk to him, tell him you have a boyfriend and are not interested. Simple as that.... (read in full...)
What's the best way to contact an ex?
Q. i want to contact my ex after 6 months of no contact. whats the best way to do it?...
A. 2 April 2010: The best way is to not do it all. You must have broke up for a reason. If she wanted to talk to you she wouldve gotten a hold of you. leave her alone and let her move on and you do the same. ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me for a game or does he see a future even it is just with me as the "other woman"?
Q. I am falling for a male colleague 20 years my senior. We are both married and I know he loves his wife and she is pretty stunning. We have started texting and it is becoming quite sexual. He tells me things like he is feeling randy etc. We have als...
A. 31 March 2010: Leave him alone ur both married. Put urself in his wifes shoes or ur husbands shoes. Wuts wrong with u. Do u not know the meaning of marriage. If he has a brain he wont leave his wife. Both of you should get some morals.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty for my affair with a married man, ...yet want him to move to my country. What should I do?
Q. i want a couple of months ago to cuba there i met a man which he is married with two kids, we had a affair, I'm going back very soon to see him. i feel like I've falling in love what should i feel very guilty because on top of that his aunt is marry ...
A. 30 March 2010: You should leave him alone. What part of MARRIED do you not understand. You are not only messing with he and his wifes relationship but also his kids lives. What is wrong with people. Put urself in his wives shoes. If he is dumb enough to leave his ... (read in full...)
How would you deal with your partner putting pictures of their deceased ex everywhere? Am I being insensitive?
Q. My man have his deceased ex pictures posted on everything, Am I being Insensitive? My man posts pictures of his deceased ex on his profile page. She died a year ago. The picture posted as his main photo is him and her together hugged up. At that mom...
A. 30 March 2010: You arent wrong at all. He is way over the line. It would be very hard to be in your position. Be sensitive but put ur foot down. ... (read in full...)
My Marine or my boyfriend?
Q. i may have made a mistake. After dating my first love for a year and a half, we broke up. He was off the the Services. After we split i swore i would never date anyone ever again. (a little drastic, but i was trying to focous more on my priorities...
A. 29 March 2010: Well ur obviously liking the marine more so go for him. You should break up with ur boyfriend soon so he doesnt get totally heartbroken further down the road. This isnt fair to him.... (read in full...)
I'm madly in love with my best friend's boyfriend!
Q. [Mod note: I think the age range given by the poster is incorrect. Poster, please verify your age.] I'm stuck, I'm madly in love with my best friends bf. This is what happened; so me and him had a thing while they were going out and we made out alot...
A. 29 March 2010: You are a shitty friend. Stop being a slut is what you should do. How can u do that to ur best friend. He doesnt like u obviously he just probably wanted to see what ur dumbass would do. Leave him alone and ur own guy. I hate people like you. Ur ... (read in full...)
Independence after the breakup
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 11 months and it hurts. The breakup was coming for a while, but I put it out of my head because I thought maybe feelings would change and we would want to continue after I left university and he stayed o...
A. 29 March 2010: Yeah the hardest part is always not being able to talk to them but just think about how worth it it will be and u may not think so but he will start missing u after 3 days...guaranteed:) just try to keep urself busy and have fun. Have a girls night. ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants me to make out with another woman while he watches!!!
Q. hi my boyfriend, now my fiance, soon to be my husband wants me to make out with another woman and for him to watch.. he said he wont get close or get involve or get near her, he said to even tie him up to the bed or a chair and for him to just sit ...
A. 29 March 2010: Well u could try using ur brain...were not the ones doing it...do u want to or not. I think thats disgusting and disrespectful and sick for him to even ask u 2 do that.... (read in full...)
What can be done about my hair?
Q. Ok, this isn't a relationship question but I'm so upset that I can't stand it. I'm upset about my hair, that I'm just crying my heart to pieces as I write this. I'm in tears because I'm so miserable and I need help. It looks shit ugly and I'...
A. 29 March 2010: For ur hair problem just brush ur hair out bend over and comb it all down and cut straight across so ull have a trim and some layers. Get a cheap dye the color u want n just dye it urself. Then get a cheap clear dye to put on and thats what they ... (read in full...)
Go with this girl and risk losing my friends?
Q. Okay I'm in a bit of dilemma there's a girl.. who i like very much. I've known her since primary school so a while ago. Anyway we became good friends after a party, and at that point i was with someone. But i could instantly tell i liked this gir...
A. 29 March 2010: If u want any chance with her u will deal with ur fear of rejection and ask her out. ... (read in full...)
Why is he doing things that he knows will hurt me then lying to my face about it?
Q. Ok... My boyfriend of a year and one month is a sweetheart, but lately he has been absent mindedly hurting me. For example he missed my last performance of the first show that I was cast as the lead in, now he did this to go to a friends birthday...
A. 29 March 2010: Sorry to say but it sounds like hes just keepin you on the back burner. He knows ull be there but hes lookin for someone better. Alot of guys do this and they are jerks. Put ur foot down or end the relationship and move on.... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't have cheated, so how can I have a future with her?
Q. Im currently engaged to my beautiful fiance, who i have been with for a year now... We started dating in march 2009. It started out as a physical relationship for like the first month, and eventually the emotions got deeper. But at the same time i ...
A. 29 March 2010: U used that poor girl and if she has a brain nothing u can say or do will get her to come back to. You lost her trust and thats not something thats easy to get back. Be honest from the beginning next time.... (read in full...)
Help! Problems with sex!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have tried several times to have sex but we are both virgins and dont know what to do. First time we tried we spent half an hour trying to find the 'spot' but it would always slip out. Can this happen because of nerves? Can yall ...
A. 29 March 2010: This can happen to anyone. My advice is to foreplay(let him go down on u and u go down on him) before having sex, it will give u a chance to get to know eachothers bodies and warm up.... (read in full...)
Exposed my former wife's lies, but still unsure of my future
Q. I'm in my early stages of a breakup and I'm pretty sure i want to go forward from here. i will keep it in point form as it is a long history: recently found out that my partner has been seeing another man, was/am super pissed off. she denied i...
A. 29 March 2010: Your deffinately in the right. Just limit contact with her and keep ur foot down and ur chin up. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What do you do when your relationship is in crisis?
Q. Hey everybody, I'm 21, I am in such a rediculous situatuion, its like im stuck in a bad dream, and i cant wake up. Ive been with my "ex" now for going on two years in april that is if we survive this situation. Its a long story but i guess i can gi...
A. 29 March 2010: Okay...were you thinking about him when you were dating and having sex with other guys(immediately after you broke up)? If you truly love someone then you dont do that. Now that he might be starting a new relationship your worried and want him back. ... (read in full...)
In love with my mate but it's getting me down!
Q. Im so depressed its unreal, its taken over my life. Ive been in love with my mate for a few years. To the point where i cant bare to go to long without seing him. I feel lost, hurt and generally like lifes falling apart. I cant stop crying. We h...
A. 29 March 2010: Talk to him and tell him how you feel. He might not think you feel the same way...let him know you do.... (read in full...)
Should I give up and try move on with my life as hard as it seems?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him so much and ive never been like this before with anyone but Recently we have been arguing a lot and its getting more and more serious arguments. I believe in trust making a relationship work ...
A. 29 March 2010: Well you cant have a relationship without trust. He needs to earn your trust and if he cant do that then i dont see you two lasting.... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm headed for a heartbreak?
Q. I used to be a happy go lucky kind of girl really, i met a man last year around this time, i met him on line, we got on so we met and things are brilliant when we see each other, we have a alternative relationship D/s (bdsm)..there have been some ...
A. 29 March 2010: Well sounds like your heading for heartbreak but talk to him about the emails and tell him they need to stop and if he does then he must care about you and if he doesnt then you should end it before you get hurt anymore.... (read in full...)
How can I know he's not playing me?
Q. Hey, I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 30 years old. His first interest is "sex" and nothing but sex, 15 years having sex as he wishes, I knew him at work I didn't have any relationships before him, he's the first man I know in my life. I kept myself from ...
A. 29 March 2010: Save urself the heartbreak and end ur relationship. Listen to your parents, they care about u and dont want u to get hurt. ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me for who I am or is he just interested in getting physical?
Q. My boyfriend and I are attached for 1 month plus and he is getting more touchy as in physical contact. We normally ended our outings in romantic outdoor places where he started kissing me and touching me. To be honest, I kinda enjoyed it at first ...
A. 29 March 2010: You need to be up front with him. If you dont want to get physical then tell him that and if he likes and respects you at all then he will wait until ur ready.... (read in full...)
Why didn't she wish me a "happy birthday"??
Q. She didn't wish on my B'day..what does it mean..?? Hi, I found myself attracted towards a girl since i met her in a Train journey. During journey only i got her email ID so I started my communication with her via emails and gtalk. But one d...
A. 29 March 2010: It could have easily slipped her mind. Dont over think. She could have a lot going on. Happy birthday.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to sex chat lines
Q. Hi everyone, I'm not sure what to do. I found out today that my boyfriend has been ringing sex chat lines on a very regular basis, sometimes two or three times a day. I also found that a couple of weeks ago he rang a woman who he used to sleep with. ...
A. 29 March 2010: Well if hes addicted which it sounds like he is then he needs some counseling. There is no way to know if he has stopped except to check his phone bill.... (read in full...)
How to get in the mood for sex???
Q. me and my boyfriend of one year have decided to start having sex. but for some reason every time we try i cant seem to get wet enough?? we have tried forplay but nothing seems to work? therefore he starts to take it personally and thinks hes not ...
A. 28 March 2010: Maybe u should try putting in a porno and start by going down on him. Get some toys and play around. this should get things heated up. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He won't communicate with me and says our relationship is over. Should I just let him go like that, or try to get him to talk?
Q. It's a long story but I recently traveled overseas to be with the guy I love for three months so that I could find out once and for all if we were in any way compatible. Yeah, I know, it was crazy, but it was a once in a lifetime opportunity, it was ...
A. 28 March 2010: Money can break a relationship which is wut its doing 2 urs.U both need 2 realize money isnt everything.It does seem like ur jumpin down his throat over every little thing even when hes trying 2 do something nice but i dont blame u,me & my husband ... (read in full...)
Independence after the breakup
Q. I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 11 months and it hurts. The breakup was coming for a while, but I put it out of my head because I thought maybe feelings would change and we would want to continue after I left university and he stayed o...
A. 28 March 2010: U didnt do anything wrong.Sometimes couples just grow apart & sometimes they just need a break.If u want 2 be friends then try showing him there r no hard feelings.If u want him back then u need 2 make him miss u.In order 2 do this do not;text ... (read in full...)
Should I give him more?
Q. i need some advice this is quite long but here goes I have gotton myself into a situation i am not very proud of. I am 27 female never had a boyfriend and lack confidence. I fell for someone at work who i know just wants a bit of 'fun' no strings, i ...
A. 28 March 2010: Well u shouldnt just let him use u. If u like him then u should wait until he asks u out or else this could end up messy and leave u heartbroken. but if u dnt have feelings for him then just get experienced with him so u can gain confidence for ur ... (read in full...)
Help! What are the signs that a shy guy likes you?
Q. Hello. What are the signs that a shy guy likes you? Are there any hints at all? Thanks....
A. 28 March 2010: You can probably tell if a shy guy likes u if u catch him looking at u alot and if he smiles at u alot.Also u could find out from his friends. Or u could simply just talk to him. Sorry but thats about all i can think of. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What happens to your sex life when you get married?
Q. What happens to your sex life when you get married (or are in a long term living arrangement)? Why does the sex always wane, and the relationship become almost platonic? Is it because you're together every day? I've seen in time and again and even ...
A. 28 March 2010: Its just because ur around eachother all the time and u both know u can do it whenever which takes the excitement out of it. Next time ur watching a movie or something go down on him and that will start up the foreplay and lead to sex...it gets him ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to act round about a guy you really like?
Q. Hey all, I'm 14 and i'm confident, ive been told im okay-looking etc. But when im around a boy i like, i get very uncomfortable and awkward. classic right? I'd just like some help, whats the best way to attract him, keep him thinking about m...
A. 28 March 2010: Just make sure u look cute when u see him. Act flirty and confident but not obsessed or snobby. Find things ur both interested in a start a conversation. good luck girly.... (read in full...)
Friend or more than that?!!
Q. I have a very good friend of mine, we stay in college all day together, even now when the college is off, everyday she calls me atleast once. But the thing is she is scared to meet me off the college coz she is scared that someone might see us ...
A. 28 March 2010: Well the only way to tell for sure if she likes u more than a friend is to just have a talk with her about it. However u mite not want to do this if u dnt have any interest other than being friends cuz this could make it a lil akward and maybe ruin ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is getting late night phone calls and texts!
Q. Okay, My girlfriend and I use to have problems with her texting and calling guys late at night. I told her I was uncomfortable 3 times with it but she has done it again. Even though we both never cheated on each other and been together almost 4...
A. 26 March 2010: Your message is perfect. You made sure to tell her that u love her but feel uncomfortable with the late nite calls and texts. u made it clear u are putting ur foot down which is what u need to do. Hold ur ground. good luck.... (read in full...)
Wondering if he likes me..should I hold back and be patient or ask him?
Q. I don't get to understand this guy! Once he said he likes me and feels possessive about me! And then he used to msg and call regularly! But now i don't know what is happening! I feel i'm the only crazy one to be liking him! I feel embarrassed ...
A. 26 March 2010: Just give him time and be patient he should come around but dnt just sit there holding ur breath, check out other guys and keep ur options open. ur too young to sit around waiting on one guy.... (read in full...)
Am I out of line to be angry at this?
Q. my bf went to a friends tonight and said they were going out for dinner. I called him around 8 because i had been upset about an argument we were having and he was out so i said well do you want me to let you go? He said yeah ill call you when i get ...
A. 26 March 2010: Ur not out of line. U need to talk to him about it. sounds like he would be mad if he were in ur shoes. the least he could do is call. good luck.... (read in full...)
6 months together and sharing a bed is STILL causing petty arguments. What should I do?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 6 months now, and from the very start of our relationship we've had problems sharing a bed. I tend to move around a lot when I'm trying to sleep, and it bugs her. I don't blame her, but she tends to lash out ...
A. 26 March 2010: Well it sounds like shes making too big of a deal about it. She obviously needs to grow up...how immature to think ur doing it on purpose. try putting a body pillow between u at nite. good luck.... (read in full...)
Why would he sleep with men when he loves this girl?
Q. im a girl i have a really good friend and hes a boy. he has been with his girlfriend for a year now, and he recently told me hes sleeping with men behind her back... what i dont understand is he doesnt act gay, look gay, i have known him for ages ...
A. 26 March 2010: Im with you...that is cruel and sad for her. You should talk to him about it and tell him how unfair it is to her. it sounds like he could be bi but i think hes gay and using her for a cover up which couldnt be anymore sick and wrong.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife to stop mailing the guy who has a crush on her?
Q. Hi everybody, My wife of 6 years went on vacation with her aunt for a week recently. Apparently she met another guy (I don't think anything happened between them, at least that's what she told me) but that guy had, and still has, a crush on her. He ...
A. 26 March 2010: She is way wrong to be doing that and u have all the right to tell her to stop because that is very disrespectful to u. U need to put ur foot down. good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm going to the club without my boyfriend, am I doing anything wrong?
Q. me and bf have been together for 2 years, in the past couple of months he has decided he no longer wants to go clubbing. i still enjoy going out and dancing, i really enjoy dancing with him but he says he will no longer go. we came to an agreement ...
A. 26 March 2010: You are deffinately not doing anything wrong and you have compromised alot. He needs to learn to trust you. He cant just follow u around all the time. U need to have ur own time and so does he. So go out for ur friends bday n have fun, dnt just ... (read in full...)
My family doesn't approve of my boyfriend and I fear I will be all alone if we break up!
Q. I feel so alone! I've been with my bf for just one year and we're quite happy. Lately though we've quarreled more and more. Nothing too serious though, and he's always very sad afterwards and we make up quick. Anyways, this quarreling is making me ...
A. 26 March 2010: That is ridiculous. family can usually tell though if uve changed and it does seem like they just care about u and want what is best for u. U need to tell them that u are happy with ur bf and they need 2 learn to except that and they will. dnt ... (read in full...)
I am scared confessing my feelings will ruin our friendship.
Q. Right this is really picking my brains and is rather silly to be honest but i need an answear. There is this girl who i have been friends with for absolute years now and iv always had a little crush on her but nothing id bother moving on, she is just...
A. 26 March 2010: Yes u should explain ur feelings and ask her. she could be the one and u dnt want to spend the rest of ur life wondering wut if. good luck.... (read in full...)
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