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writes:I have a very good friend of mine, we stay in college all day together, even now when the college is off, everyday she calls me atleast once. But the thing is she is scared to meet me off the college coz she is scared that someone might see us together and get a wrong impression. I tried to make her understand but still she doesnt listen. Also, I want to know that whether she likes me or she is just a friend of mine. How can i get to know that?? What should i do to get that answer. I want to be with her, but even i dont know how i feel about her. Please reply. Reply to this Question
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reader, pjroberts +, writes (29 March 2010):
pjroberts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with you anonymous but my point is to find out whether or not she likes me or not. She might like me but she is scared to say or do anything with me because of her parents fear and the community fear. So how should i find that out. Please let me know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Hi. Dating her under the circumstances youve described could cause her all sorts of problems at home and within her community. Unless you are sure you are in love with her and she is with you. It is far better to leave things well and truely in the friends zone. She may be from a culture that frowns on dating different partners and thinks women should be virgins when they marry. In which case they wont be happy with her dating you unless you are intent on marrying her. And even then they might still be prejudiced against you based on your faith ect. As you seem undecided i would advise just being friends.
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reader, pjroberts +, writes (29 March 2010):
pjroberts is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Auntie E
Yes, you got it right....she is not allowed to keep boyfriends and stuff neither can she date anyone. Infact, his father says there is no need to talk to boys in college.....this is a religious as well as a social issue for her.
But, we did use to go to college together and comeback walking which was around 1km. So that did matter her but she ignored and kept doing that with me. Now, when i ask her out she says my mom ask me this and that so i cant come and things like that. So, please tell me whats the best way to deal with this kind of situation.. I am still not sure whether i like her or may be her close friendship is making me think wrong.
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reader, kaiti30  +, writes (28 March 2010):
 hmm, well you could always just ask her out? that should really fix the problem... or well give u an answer, but if you dont wanna jump into that, gradually get closer to her, start hanging out more... you know?
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Well the only way to tell for sure if she likes u more than a friend is to just have a talk with her about it. However u mite not want to do this if u dnt have any interest other than being friends cuz this could make it a lil akward and maybe ruin ur friendship. Good luck.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (28 March 2010):
 Dear PJ: She is concerned about you being seen together and giving the wrong impression? What does that mean? Is she not allow to have a boyfriend or date? Is this a religious or social issue for her?
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