Do you need to have sex to love somebody?
Q. I am a virgin. My boyfriend of 22 months is not. I love him to bits but he has said he cant love me until we have sex. He says theres an emotional connection there for him when it happens. I have always wanted to wait til i was married but he tells ...
A. 20 April 2011: hang on to your values not his...it sounds like he wants you for one reason. you can be a virgin as long as you want. love has NOTHING to do with it, well,not the way it's being posed to you.... (read in full...)
Do I deserve to be alone because I'm picky with men?
Q. Please pardon my anxiety filled letter. But I am desperatly seeking some honest perspective on this. Anyone taking the time to read or reply, I greatly appreciate it. I'm just 22 years old, never dated, and already feel like I'm one of those ind...
A. 17 April 2011: First; I'd like to respectfully disagree about the 90% of all men cheating number. I've no idea where you pulled that from but as an older man, I'd have to argue that probably 90% Don't cheat ( they may have fantasies) but they for the most part ... (read in full...)
I asked him if he loves me, he said no
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 6 months. We've been having frequent fights lately and two nights ago we had a big fight. We then attempted to sort it out but because we were in a group, we sort of just brushed it off and went about as...
A. 17 April 2011: He's probably not lying so catch a clue and find someone that will say he loves you(and mean it).... (read in full...)
Love don't live here anymore
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 9yrs.We have 4 boys, but i know i dont love him in that way anymore. He says he still loves me, but yet he cheated on me? I know he stays for income reasons, he has none. Is it wrong and selfish that i want ...
A. 17 April 2011: In this man's opinion you've waited too long to tell this genius to "please move out".... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to want real cock
Q. I started out with my gf sticking her finger in my ass well she had a dildo and she said if I could take her dildo all the way in my ass I could fuck her in her ass(she said this jokingly) so I brought her the dildo and told her to do it. I took it ...
A. 17 April 2011: No it's not really "normal" in the technical sense it may just mean you have very strong homosexual tendances.... (read in full...)
I feel horrible about masturbation. Is it wrong to do every day?
Q. So i'm 18 years old and i masturbate often. It ranges from 2 times a day every day to 3. I can't help but feel that i'm destroying my life every time i masturbate. I've been trying to reduce the amount of time i masturbate and to no avail, nothing. ...
A. 17 April 2011: You're not alone the whole world "pleasures themselves" many refuse to admit it but we all do it several times a day...especially after thirty or so years of marriage.... (read in full...)
Any advice on who to pick or what to do?
Q. I am currently single, and I have to decide between two wonderful individuals. The first is my ex and the second is the young lady I broke up with (for other reasons). I love them both and I really cant decide who I want to be with. Any advice on ...
A. 17 April 2011: By virtue of even having to ask, you've already decicided that niether is "right" for you so do the obvious thing and bid them each a fond fairwell and move on to other :adventures".... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is awful at oral sex!! How do I tell him this without hurting him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2years. i truely love him.but he's awful at oral sex. I don't know how to tell him this without hurting him. What should I do?...
A. 17 April 2011: Never say he's bad at it or he'll "opt out" just suggest some new and more "explosive techniques... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont talk to me about his feelings or worries any more.....
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for Four years and we live together, but he no longer talks to me about his feelings, worries etc anymore. When we first got together we would talk about anything and everything (We've both had quite turbulent up bri...
A. 5 April 2011: Guys DO NOT enjoy talking about their "feelings" as opposed to gals who love to chat on and on about how things make them "feel" Don't worry about it!... (read in full...)
Am I addicted to masturbating? Will this cause problems for my health? And will it reduce my sexual desire?
Q. i want to know if a can masturbation habit reduce sexual desire in males? i am 27 virgin but i masturbate almost daily from age of 14 with watching pornography, but watching porns is voyeurism (peeping tom), which is one of the type of sexual ...
A. 30 March 2011: Not qualified to answer this but my opinion is: Too much of anything is too much..try a month of celebacy to see what happens.... (read in full...)
Why does this otherwise nice guy turn into a jerk with me?
Q. perhaps this is a more general question: I know this guy from work, and I see him talking on all kinds of social networks, and I know some of his friends, and he is a really good person, two lovely children who adore him, but with me he was a total ...
A. 30 March 2011: Everything happens for a reason, perhaps you just got a glimpse of the future "mr. nice-guy"?... (read in full...)
No one knows how unhappy I am. I'd appreciate some advice.
Q. I have been feeling very lonely and upset lately. I have a boyfriend of 6 years and everything is fine with him, but in the last while I have become really self conscious about how I look and I feel really awkward around people. I think that people ...
A. 30 March 2011: You sound like an intellegent young lady that just needs an outlet for anxiety. You might try writing a short story or even a novel to vent. It is a real good way to let your creative energy loose on the world while still retaining some sense of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants us to stay in different rooms for a month!
Q. my girlfriend turned round to me as i was about to get into bed last night and said she wanted us to stay in different rooms and not have sex for a month so she can work herself out and that it wont be a problem if i love her. Someone tell me how i ...
A. 9 March 2011: Welcom to your third year of marriage. love it or leave it...it's your new normal.... (read in full...)
Is it midterms or is she just avoiding me?
Q. Me and this chick seemed to hit it off really well. Hung out a good few times, 4days in a row actually. However now she has big exams coming up so we can't really meet up.. and it's always me that initiates texts. I'm kinda wondering if the midterms ...
A. 9 March 2011: mid terms are WAY more important than you or any other distraction.. in this "new-normal" a great education is her ONLY hope of survival, lay low and be there to applauad her good grades later. You will be far more apreciated than if you hang ... (read in full...)
Why do guys always go for girls who treat them like trash?
Q. Hi I have a question, why guys never respect the girls who are nice to them and always go after the girls who treat them like trash....
A. 6 March 2011: Well, I disagree with your premise. It may seem that way right now because it sounds like you may have just been hurt by some dolt that didn't really deserve you in the first place. There are plenty of sensitive loving men out in the world. Keep ... (read in full...)
Now that we've broken up, should I ask her to return the expensive gift that I had given her?
Q. i gave my girlfriend a very expensive computer. after a month she broke up with me with an excuse that "she is very busy with all other stuff and she has no time for a relationship" is it ok if i tell her to give that computer back.? i gave her as a ...
A. 5 March 2011: a gift is a gift..you learned a lesson... (read in full...)
My husband pays full maintenance for his kids from his 1st marriage, and that leaves him with hardly anything for our household!
Q. My husband has 2 children from his first marriage, I don't have any and we do not have children together yet. He pays maintenance for the kids regularly and in full. The problem is that there always seem to be extra expenses and things they nee...
A. 5 March 2011: I don't think unreasonable is the term, maybe overly defensive. You do know you can go back to court for a readjustment of the settlement if you folks are in financial straights bu that just passes the burden over to the ex or makes the kids ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, and he is contemplating revenge cheating. How can we get past this?
Q. My boyfriend is trying to get pass the fact that I cheated on him and lied about it. The situation is that I kissed a coworker about 6 times and we ended up touching on each other. I lied about how the kiss happened and how many times we kissed. ...
A. 4 March 2011: At=re You Serious? You two shouldn't even be married. By definition you guys are not even remotely married as in faithfull. Sorry kids, after "I do!" It's all about "I won't" If you two want to mess around with others and get VD then get a ... (read in full...)
His 3rd date rule is too fast for me.
Q. I recently got out of a relationship about a month ago. I started seeing someone new who I have amazing chemistry with. Problem is he's 27 and believes in the 3rd date rule, I told him no and I believe in having sex after I'm in a relationship with ...
A. 27 April 2010: It's your body and YOU make the rules! Third date rule my god I've never heard of anything so self-serving. Tell him your third date rule is he go do it by himself somewhere out in the backyard... (read in full...)
Why is it taking me so long to orgasm? And how can I make sex go from feeling good to feeling great?
Q. What do you think about when u orgasm? lately its taking longer than usual, the things that turn me on, really arent anymore...i feel like i need to concentrate on an image of something really sexy in order to orgasm along with getting oral done. ...
A. 27 April 2010: THe most powerful sex organ in your body is your brain...use it to visualize,fantasy is great too....a no-brainer is to use mirrors. watching yourself and your lover have sex is incredible amunition to get to the big O another thing to consider is ... (read in full...)
Why is it taking me so long to orgasm? And how can I make sex go from feeling good to feeling great?
Q. What do you think about when u orgasm? lately its taking longer than usual, the things that turn me on, really arent anymore...i feel like i need to concentrate on an image of something really sexy in order to orgasm along with getting oral done. ...
A. 27 April 2010: THe most powerful sex organ in your body is your brain...use it to visualize,fantasy is great too....a no-brainer is to use mirrors. watching yourself and your lover have sex is incredible amunition to get to the big bang.... (read in full...)
Porn is taking over his life! What can I do?
Q. My husband spends more time looking at and downloading porn than he does with me. He wont even let me watch it with him. What do i do? ...
A. 26 April 2010: Leave him and find a girl. Girls hate porn guys don't End of disscussion.... (read in full...)
Porn is taking over his life! What can I do?
Q. My husband spends more time looking at and downloading porn than he does with me. He wont even let me watch it with him. What do i do? ...
A. 26 April 2010: Leave him and find a girl. Girls hate porn guys don't End of facts... (read in full...)
Partner says he'll give me more sex if I dye my hair!!!
Q. My partner says if I dye my hair blonde, he will give me more sex but I don't want to dye my hair. He watches a fair amount of porn by the way, which I think interferes with our sex life already. But should I leave him or adapt?...
A. 26 April 2010: ome women should NEVER dye thier hair blonde for any reason on the planet(they know who they are) doing something for sex is as old as the hills. I guess it depends on how good the sex is vs how stupid you'd look with blonde hair...get a wig ... (read in full...)
2 men and I don't know what to do!
Q. Okay, I honestly dont know where to start.... well lets just jump in I have a 2 month old lil boy with a man i have been with for 3 years but for the past month i have been havin a emotional affair i have not slept with this new man but i have ...
A. 26 April 2010: Can you spell DNA? Once you know who's the baby daddy your enmotions will fall in place... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me not to go ahead and sleep with other women when she says it's ok?
Q. I don't know what to make of this. I have only had sex with one woman. She and I are together and we plan on getting married. Although we haven't set a date we are serious. She has had sex with seven other guys before. She keeps telling me ...
A. 26 April 2010: She is absolutely correct! I was a virgin when Imet my wife-to-be and she was well versed in the ways of the bedroom with many many men. She made that known to me a couple months before our weding and i gave it little thought at the time. In ... (read in full...)
How can I catch my wife out?
Q. i am in uk. my wife living in her mothers home in india along with her brother. i am suspecting she is doing sex with her own brother while i am doing phonesex with her. how can i caught her please help me....
A. 26 April 2010: OK let's say his name is Larry...Just as you get to a part where you 'know" she's about to get off. Say,"Can I speak to Larry?" If Larry comes on the phone and is panting heavily you'll know! Mystery solved.... (read in full...)
Are fetishes a normal part of a sexual relationship?
Q. Hey guys and girls, Are fetishes a normal part of a sexual relationship? ...
A. 25 April 2010: I guess they are my wife of 45 years has the fetish of seaking to be a virgin again by never having sex or a sexual thought. I on the other hand(pardon the pun) seek return of the good life... (read in full...)
Will I look back and regret sleeping with a 46 year old man?
Q. Hi, thanks for your time, I'm 17 and the guy I'm having casual sex with is man who is 46, with the benifit of hindsight will I look back and think what he is doing is wrong? It's just a pattern I've noticed throught life, as I get older I look bac...
A. 25 April 2010: funny you use the word 'guy" @ the age 46. Where I come from 46 could be considered dirty old man..depends on your perspective I guess. The age gap won't be a physical problem as far as I know. but intellectually there will always be a canyon.I ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old when I'm 16?
Q. Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old girl when im 16. No its not about sex thats completely retarded at this age. She admitted she liked after her mom told me....
A. 25 April 2010: I'd say no it's kinda wierd to think about dating at age 12. She's gonns feel like a fish out of water and be ultra self concious. Do her s favor and wait until she's older... (read in full...)
I don't think about sex when I masturbate?
Q. First of all, sorry for the explicit nature of this question. I'm just wondering if anybody else feels the same way. I'm a virgin (female) and when I masturbate, I can't think about having sex or doing sexual things with another person. Well, I ...
A. 25 April 2010: Don't worry about being aswxual. Self love is our first true emotion according to some phsycocologists. If it feels goodkeep it up. as long as you can "get there" it really isn't important how or what you think. You really should tryit with ... (read in full...)
I really need help with my boyfriend and his addiction
Q. Hello, I hear all the time it's normal for men to watch porn. My boyfriend won't stop watching it. He use to be very honest about it. So with him being honest I went to be honest on how it really effected me. It hurts me to know that I can not plea...
A. 23 April 2010: porn is a "guy thing" no women that i know of has ever thought porn was a good thing. Some even think it's like adultery. I'm from the older generation and see it as a diversion from the relationship that can amplify the in bed experiences BUT, ... (read in full...)
Will I look back and regret sleeping with a 46 year old man?
Q. Hi, thanks for your time, I'm 17 and the guy I'm having casual sex with is man who is 46, with the benifit of hindsight will I look back and think what he is doing is wrong? It's just a pattern I've noticed throught life, as I get older I look bac...
A. 23 April 2010: I tend to think you already are having regrets or you wouldn't bother posting the question. Ergo, find a 17 year old stud that has some experience(I asume that's what turned you on in the first place) have sex with him and re-evaluate the question. ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him rough sex hurts sometimes???
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a relationship of 3 years, we have sex very often, all the time he likes having rough sex and I don't know how to tell him that he hurts me sometimes without making him feel bad? What do I say?...
A. 23 April 2010: There's a great old song about "i like the man with the slow hands' maybe you could get that and listen to it with him...tell him that's what turns you on.... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation help!
Q. when i am doing sex my sperm out quickly so what i do?...
A. 23 April 2010: look up lingum massage for details on the start/stop practices for "training" yourself how to have more control over your Timing.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend told he his fantasies, and asked about mine. But I don't know if I have any! Help!
Q. my boyfriend has a few fantasies and told me them. he asked me if i had any. thing is he is one of my first boyfriends so i don't really know any. what are some of them?...
A. 22 April 2010: Explain that your fantasy is to have a faithfull trusting monogomous relationship with a man that respects our body. I'm afraid that will turn him off so be prepared for a break-up call. You can't control you fantasys any more than he can control ... (read in full...)
Is visiting a live porn room with cameras the same as watching porn videos?
Q. How do I interpret the fact that my boyfriend of over 10 years visits live porn rooms? I found out about the online porn videos and live rooms 5 o 6 years into our relationship and found it in my heart to get past it after he agreed not to visit ...
A. 22 April 2010: Well hello! Guys get off on porn, girls don't big surprise! I guess you could think of it as cheating if you are truly insecure in your relationship O you could chalk it up to guys being guys depends how far you want to take it. If it really bums ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend simply will not satisfy me in bed.
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have been reasonably happy except for in one regard: sex. He always wants a blowjob, but he never wants to go down on me or even manually stimulate me. He has only gone down on me 3-4 times ...
A. 22 April 2010: I was taught that it's a "ladys first world" Try that, say,"I'll tke care of you AFTER you do me!" There should be no hesitation in going down on a women. To me that is the best part of savy sex. There is nothing like a a good eat her moment. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to let me watch porn to get me aroused when we have sex?
Q. Been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years now... she's my second long-term girlfriend. Before I met her I was into porn, and lad mags, and generally just liked looking at women all the time. After I ended my relationship with my first long term ...
A. 22 April 2010: As much as we guys WISH women liked porn as much as we do...it will Never happen. they are "above it all" The sad truth is women are not really into sex like guys. They want intamacy and cuddling more than real physical things . We are visual ... (read in full...)
Is this heavy petting and will it lead to sex?
Q. My boyfriend whom i have been together for 2 months want to touch my breast and vagina when we are french kissing. Should I allow him to do that? Is that considered heavy petting and if I agreed to it will that be leading him on to sex?...
A. 22 April 2010: Yes it's "heavy petting" and trust me it WILL lead to other things. He needs to know what stop means. A women is only a virgin once. Save the experience for the wedding night. That may sound old fashioned but he will always remember the "gift" ... (read in full...)
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