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writes:HiI have a question, why guys never respect the girls who are nice to them and always go after the girls who treat them like trash. Reply to this Question
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reader, taylordrew  +, writes (9 March 2011):
its all about the chase..nice girls are too easy and can get a bit clingy
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): It's the old backhanded nice guy that can make a girl come at the touch of a one pinkie but is so polite that they eschew mind blowing sex and home cooked meals to get held down and man handled only to be tossed a fiver and told to pick up take out on the way home. I've seen it a zillion times.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (6 March 2011):
 I'm a "nice guy" and generally wind up with cheating, lying, girls that treat me like dirt (after the initial honeymoon phase where I'm the most important thing). Why? Well, whenever I go after the nice girls, they reject me to go be with jerks that treat them like dirt.Nice girls only date jerk guys. So nice guys can only be with jerk girls. (Admittedly a stereotype, but accurate so far in my life.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): They don't start out treating them like trash. Or else we wouldn't take it. They are nice and sweet and by degrees start using us for a door mat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): lol i ask the same thing about some but not all women.
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (6 March 2011):
Right now im in a relationship with someone who treats me like trash for one reason. Sex. She doesnt treat me well but she loves having sex with me, and even though im a guy and the social norm says i should be fine with that, i really dont like it. However, to be a part of the social norm is unfortunately nearly a requirement for a college student thus i suck it up.But mostly, if a guy is with someone like that its probably just for a physical relationship
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reader, shawncaff +, writes (6 March 2011):
 I think a guy might stick with a girl who treats him like trash for a number of reasons:--he has a poor self-image and when the girl treats him badly he might feel, "Wow, she knows I am not worth very much. So finally I have met someone who knows me and is honest about it!"--he sees her as a challenge. "She may treat me badly now," he thinks, "but in a little while I will win her over, with enough effort."--he feels he deserves the mistreatment. --he feels he is lucky enough to get even a little bit of her attention, even if it is usually bad.Unfortunately, I speak from experience, as I have felt this. But I will also say from experience that eventually something inside a person will rebel against this and seek out love and appreciation, rather than manipulation and degradation. So, don't envy those women who keep their man by mistreating them; it won't last for a long time and neither person will be happy.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 They don't. Not more than girls go for guys who treat them like trash. Some people don't know whats in their best interestest, some are stubborn and too blindly in love to see. But at the same time you have plenty of guys who love their girlfriends who treat them right, and who have their alert system on full and only go for the stable, good hearted ones that they know they can trust. If you find yourself surrounded by men who go for girls who treat them bad then I suggest you change the crowd you hang with. It's certainly not a rule that men only want women who treat them bad.. they rarely do.
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reader, yankit +, writes (6 March 2011):
Well, I disagree with your premise. It may seem that way right now because it sounds like you may have just been hurt by some dolt that didn't really deserve you in the first place. There are plenty of sensitive loving men out in the world. Keep looking
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Always ? Not always. That only happens with guys who are immature - or , deep down, insecure. If a person has a solid sense of self worth his / her only reaction to people who treat them badly will be impatience, rejection or indifference.
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