Depressed by his absence.....is there something wrong with me?
Q. i've been through some shit in my life. i've pushed through drug addictions, an abusive father, promescuity, terrible decisions that ive had to live with. these things made me depressed and hurt at the time, however, they are all in the past now. ...
A. 22 October 2009: There's nothing wrong with you, however it does seem you are feeling really co-dependant now. Thing is, if this relationship does end, it's not as big of a loss as it seems riht now, i do sympathise though, been there myself. Talk to him about the ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if I forgot to take the pill?
Q. Hello, i had unprotected sex a week yesterday (13th) and i forgot to take two pills (contraceptive pill), today i have been getting small craps and little heartburn and i felt sick and faintish this morning, im due on my period in 9days. Also when i ...
A. 22 October 2009: you could be pregnant, however as it was that soon after your period it's unlikely that you are. Even if you are the symptoms you're experiencing are way ahead of the time they're meant to be, so you're most likely only experiencing them because ... (read in full...)
I wish I was asexual.
Q. Is there any cure to help me with this disease that's called "hetrosexuality"? Can it be cured by medication or psychotherapy? This is not a joke, I hate my sexuality. During my teenage years I often thought about being castrated, to cu...
A. 8 September 2009: how can you possibly hate the human race? & still have the ability to live among us? Your dislike of humans is actually a scary characteristic. What if this escalated to homicidal tendencies? Even if it didn't I would ask you why haven't you gotten ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex boyfriend reading my emails but not responding?
Q. ex boyfriend of 15 years, that I lived with, dumped me two years ago. I loved him very much! more then i could express in words. he ended up marrying a foreigner. His third marriage. blocked me from his email, won't talk to me. Pretty much disowned ...
A. 7 September 2009: I think some of these answers here are very hurtful, people are using the phrase "move on" as if you can just switch off. you were with him for roughly a 3rd of your life, you take however long you need to move on, allow yourself to feel the way you ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake?
Q. I was seeing a guy (not officially) for 4 and a half months. For the past month I'd been arranging everything, initiating most contact, whereas before he did everything. Last friday he told me he wanted to take a step back and he didnt know if ...
A. 21 August 2009: Thankyou for all your help. I don't think he was using me for sex. We had a few talks about it. I'm just gutted that it went from him taking me places away and telling me that he really likes me and i'm growing on him & that if he hadn't just gotten ... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: If you read your question, I'm sure you'll get your answer. You're a narcissist. The only reason children are showing interest in you is because they are naive and find it hard to understand the arrogance in people like you, which is a huge turn off ... (read in full...)
I like him but he likes someone else and now he's talking to me less and less. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I really like this guy and he told me that he liked me but also likes someone else alot and he might get together with her. before he told me this we used to talk alot but now he barely even talks to me even when i try talking to him, He's ...
A. 28 July 2009: Thank you to everyone who's helped, this question was posted 2 1/2 years ago things ended between me and him january sometime after this question was posted. He did not get together with the other girl in this question, whom if i remember correctly ... (read in full...)
She stopped answering her other line calls from me, what could this mean?
Q. what does it mean when a women you known for a long time say a year ...stops answering your calls or when she is talking to someone esle doesnt stop what she is doing and pick up call waiting and let you know she is on the other line ...and w...
A. 24 July 2009: It simply means you're not a priority in her life (anymore). Either she's gotten comfortable, is just busy or has found someone else. you could stop calling and let her call you, or next time you speak to her ask her directly if she has any interest ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? - Is there anthing I could do to help this situation?
Q. I have another question. Could I tell you about my current feelings? On Monday I started my new job and we planned to go to the cinema today. I booked tickets yesterday. At work I get a message from her saying she had received a call from (an ex) ...
A. 22 July 2009: You said you understand all people need their space & that's exactly what you must do, just give her a little more space. These are people she knew years ago, you're not going to know any of them, sounds like she just wants a night out like the good ... (read in full...)
Is it pathetic of me to forgive my back-stabbing best friend?
Q. Hi A few months ago I was betrayed by my (female) best friend in the worst way that she knew how. We have always hung around as a 3, and she knew that I was a bit obsessed with the guy that we hang around with. We had a thing a while ago, but he e...
A. 17 July 2009: I wouldn't forgive a girl like that.... (read in full...)
I want to get closure and say what's on my mind
Q. Things ended with my girlfriend on a bad note. For all we talked, we stopped communicating a long time ago and left too many things unsaid. The last time I saw her the pressure got to me and a lot of them came pouring out. I've tried apo...
A. 14 July 2009: leave things as they are. Write a letter, but don't send it,(just pretend you're writing the letter to her) with all your feelings and things left unsaid, to get it out of your system. Don't speak to her, let her come to you if she wants to ... (read in full...)
I love to pursue men, it's a part of my personality, yet I am afraid of how others think
Q. I've got a guys (player's) mentality towards sex and relationships. I'm ashamed to say i sometimes have more than one guy on the scene at once. Just for sex. But i don't get much emotional attachment to them. I make them feel like princes treating ...
A. 14 July 2009: there's nothing wrong with having a men's mentallity when it comes to sex, think samantha off sex and the city. You just think alot more logical than emotional, and that's great, if I could I would too. There's nothing wrong with it, I think it's ... (read in full...)
My dream of being a model is shattered and I'm depressed!
Q. ive just turned 26 and feel like im in a rut. I work at a hospital in administration and the job is well paid but very mundane although it has a lot of reponsibilities and is quite a respectful job. My dream though is to be a model. I have tried to ...
A. 14 July 2009: keep trying for it, Tyra banks got turned down loads and loads, but she kept going and it only takes one company to say yes, don't give up. You could try adding a bit more diversity to your portfolio, that always helps.
Good luck!! :)
Let us kn... (read in full...)
At this point she doesn't even know I exist!
Q. Hey, I'm a guy, 24 years old and recently I started a new job. The place is great and most of the people are really nice. THe HUGE problem is that I'm a total looser. I'm one of those introverted melancholy type of people. Not to mention I...
A. 12 July 2009: you seem sure that this is who you are, and you're not willing to change your outlook, or attitude about anything, or try anything new and different. If this is the case my only advice is this walk up to her in the corridor and say "hey, I always ... (read in full...)
My ex fiancé is married, but I really want to send him an e-mail to get forgiveness and closure...
Q. what can i do ? ive recently come out of a very bad relationship with a guy who has bled me dry and made me feel like a sack of crap. before this i was engaged to my fiance had a house with him everything but in the back of my mind i didnt feel...
A. 12 July 2009: even so, you left him for a reason, (not including your latest ex, you dont leave someone you're happy with for someone else right?) there's no need to feel guilty about leaving him, even if you don't think so if he wasnt showing you enough ... (read in full...)
My ex fiancé is married, but I really want to send him an e-mail to get forgiveness and closure...
Q. what can i do ? ive recently come out of a very bad relationship with a guy who has bled me dry and made me feel like a sack of crap. before this i was engaged to my fiance had a house with him everything but in the back of my mind i didnt feel...
A. 12 July 2009: I think if you forgave yourself you wouldn't feel the need to send him an email. What you have to realise is none of this was intentional, and not your fault, not feeling loved enough by someone is a perfectly good reason to break up with them and ... (read in full...)
At this point she doesn't even know I exist!
Q. Hey, I'm a guy, 24 years old and recently I started a new job. The place is great and most of the people are really nice. THe HUGE problem is that I'm a total looser. I'm one of those introverted melancholy type of people. Not to mention I...
A. 11 July 2009: "how do I make myself not boring?" the most attractive thing I find in a guy is someone who likes to explore life, likes to take trips away, try new things, maybe even go bungeejumping, even if it's something like teaching yourself how to cook, ... (read in full...)
How do I give myself a Beauty Makeover?
Q. Hi i dunno if dis is a valid question but could i get tips on how to get good skin-lik totally pimple free n glowin?? n also my hair is neither curly nor straight-its wavy n quite frizzy! how do i make it look sleek n shiny without makin it look ...
A. 11 July 2009: nope it's surprisingly very good for the skin!!
here's a forum on so feminine about it
http://forum.sofeminine.co.uk/forum/beaute1/__f7_beaute1-Anyone-use-olive-oil-as-a-facewash.html... (read in full...)
Sex is not inherently special!! Am I right for telling a few dates this???
Q. For some reason we have put sex in a category of being something "special" that happens between two people. The insane part of that is you are letting someone else define what's special to you. Will you QUIT doing that please? There are no acts ...
A. 11 July 2009: I do love how in your last article you did state that one reason the relationship did not work out is because basically she gave it up too quick. So, by that I'd gather you would want someone to withold it to make it special, mean something, however ... (read in full...)
Believing in fate....The biggest LIE
Q. Do you know what the biggest lie is? The lie that people believe that our lives are shaped by fate thas the biggest lie. Everything we do is the careful path that God set us up to make our personal legends. What is our personal legend you ask? It ...
A. 10 July 2009: Personally, I believe the most ignorant thing I (or someone) could do is rule out an option without knowing the answer. It could be that we can't find an "answer" (god, etc) because there isn't one, our lives could be just sequences of choices we ... (read in full...)
At this point she doesn't even know I exist!
Q. Hey, I'm a guy, 24 years old and recently I started a new job. The place is great and most of the people are really nice. THe HUGE problem is that I'm a total looser. I'm one of those introverted melancholy type of people. Not to mention I...
A. 10 July 2009: alter your attitude and you can alter your life. remember that. You are in complete control of where your life goes, and you do have the power to make it anything you want, Most girls do prefer confident guys, but you do get some that prefer the ... (read in full...)
How do I give myself a Beauty Makeover?
Q. Hi i dunno if dis is a valid question but could i get tips on how to get good skin-lik totally pimple free n glowin?? n also my hair is neither curly nor straight-its wavy n quite frizzy! how do i make it look sleek n shiny without makin it look ...
A. 10 July 2009: surprisingly olive oil does wonders, even for oily prone skin, just give it a go, just rub it on your face and on the ends of your hair for a few minutes and wash off, obv the results aren't instant but it does work!!... (read in full...)
I don't want to use birth control and don't want her to get pregnant
Q. when is it ok for me to cum inside my girl???wit no pill and no condoms.. and please dont tell me to use a condom cuz its not the same and i dont want to hear .make her take pills.. ...
A. 6 July 2009: NO GLOVE NO LOVE!!
If you dont wear acondom at any time you can get her pregnant or get or pass on stds.
I know it's not what you want to hear but I don't care. If you don't want to get her pregnant wear a condom. Otherwise don't have sex at a... (read in full...)
I have to end it with this guy but not sure how...Opinions?
Q. I need to end it with this really nice guy as i'm just not that into him. but its going to be really unexpected for him and he is going to be heartbroken. i've never had to do this before and i really don't want to do it in person, as its g...
A. 6 July 2009: I think it depends how long you've been seeing him, over 6 months I think you owe it to him to see him in person, over 1 month, text him and tell him we need to talk then call him. less than 1 month, Just IM him or text him, but don't leave him ... (read in full...)
Can pre cum make you pregnant?
Q. What if a male produces a lot of precum, and he only inserts half of the head of the penis into the vagina... is there any chance that she is pregnant? or what if he has precum on his fingers and inserts his fingers into the vagina...?...
A. 1 July 2009: yes & yes. Pre cum can get a girl pregnant.... (read in full...)
Should he have to pay these bills?
Q. My boyfriend moved in with some friends on a 12 month contract not long before we met. After 4 months of living with them, (though he didnt really as this period was over summer break from uni so he was at home) he moved in with me but still paid ...
A. 1 July 2009: I'm assuming the bills were not inclusive in his contract? He does not owe them any money, however if his name is on the bills and was not taken off when he moved out, then legally it is his liability, however, this can be changed on the basis that ... (read in full...)
Dealing with his depression
Q. Hi everyone, I’m new here and have been milling around trying to answer folk’s questions. Well, here goes… My partner and I have been together for seven months and we hit it off from the moment we met nearly a year ago. We have pretty much e...
A. 1 July 2009: The only thing I can tell you is that in his current state, when you talk to him, speak with the intention to listen and learn him and what he has to say, don't blame him for anything, if he accuses you of something, agree and sympathise (even if ... (read in full...)
Do you date to find a mate? Or just sort of stumble across them?
Q. A mans love for a woman, or a womans love for a man. When people proceed to endure a relationship, why do they do it. What is the deciding factor that keeps us trucking the long haul. Why do we love. All these questions are simple but complica...
A. 26 June 2009: I don't think people are looking for "the one" anymore, I don't think there is any 1 person for someone else, some people are just more compatible & I suppose the easiest way to "not get burnt" is to love without ever expecting in return, throw away ... (read in full...)
Can I love two people?
Q. Hi, Theres two guys, one of them is my ex boyfreind, we were together for about twwo years, and shared soo much together. I broke up with him, because i felt that we went getting along, and i wasnt happy at the time. When we broke up, i started ...
A. 26 June 2009: neither, you're running back and forwards because neither is right for you, you're just going to keep settling for the other one.... (read in full...)
I thought he had changed but he's doing it again! Am I a fool to think he'll change?
Q. Advice needed please (would be interested to hear a male perspective too) - my bf and I have been together 8 years. Last year, I found out he was posting on adult dating sites, sending/receiving explicit texts (including photos!) to adult text ...
A. 25 June 2009: there was a post concerning the same situation a couple of days ago, but from the male perspective (I'd find it ironic if that poster was your husband) I think he can change if he really wanted to, i think you should give him an ultimatum n then ask ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy test came back negative but I'm still late, what else could be the reason behind this?
Q. hey im a week late for my period and i took a pregnancy test yesterday and it came back negative my boyfriend and i are always careful and responsible and we havnt had any problems with our contraception im starting to get worried now but sure...
A. 25 June 2009: stress would be the main cause. it's a funny thing because when we stress, we can belate our period, which is ironic, because then we get even more stressed out. Just relax, you know you're not pregnant, it'll soon creep up on you.... (read in full...)
Online guy now wants to meet me and I'm afraid because of my weight!
Q. I met this guy on a dating website, we exchanged pictures, emails etc its still early days but he wants to meet up for a drink the only problem is hes a personal trainer....and well im a curvy girl who doesnt exercise and doesn really watch what i ...
A. 25 June 2009: I'm studying to be a Personal fitness trainer. I can see why you'd think that, but honestly the reason this guy is in that profession will be because he's passionate about being healthy and he wants to help people become healthier, it's not a ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me in all this big mess?
Q. My boyfriend just jumped me for my best friend. He says she led him on and that he loves her buh he also loves me. He said he can not lie about it and hurt me any more than he already has and that he'd rather be honest wit me :( She told him s...
A. 25 June 2009: We don't know the reason he's said that to you, as we don't know him, we can only go on what you've told us in words, which you would've already known the answer, because you're the one writing the words! see how that works! he could very well love ... (read in full...)
Pornorgraphy against Religion!
Q. Hi I'm having trouble with my boyfriend watching porn. Sometimes when i can't satisfy him myself he wants to watch porn... I feel like he's cheating on me when he does this because he's looking at other women (prettier than me might I add) and it h...
A. 25 June 2009: Okay, I can understand where you're coming from, however i think you need to get it into your head that porn isn't real, he's NEVER going to meet these women, and even if he did he'd think they're disgusting whores, ask him, most guys do think that ... (read in full...)
Not very talkative with others. Do I come across as boring?
Q. I have had confidence all my life. I've never really been able to build a relationship with anyone. From my point of veiw, I've always felt that people have just put me down, including teachers. I went to a religious primary school, and a lot of the ...
A. 25 June 2009: not boring, i dont think, shy more like, there's no shame in not being very talkative, but people may find it harder to interact with you because you'll come off as withdrawn. but if you give it time, if you're not comfortable enough to start a few ... (read in full...)
I have no serious illness, so why is my hair falling out?
Q. This is kind of a health question. I recently cut my hair, because I had some of it falling out. I contemplated cutting my hair for some weeks. I know that it will grow back, but my question is this, is there any particular reason why my hair would ...
A. 23 June 2009: hair loss can be caused by serious health problems. It's important you get this checked out. It can also be caused by malnourishment so make sure you're eating properly.... (read in full...)
Having trouble with my mom, not sure what to do
Q. Well i need a little advice.My mom is very Bi-Polar(not actually diagnosed).She is always upset about something or shes happy one minute then shes cursing and yelling another.For example:we have a bishon frise(puppy) and he is locked up all day ...
A. 19 June 2009: when we criticise others, often we are pointing out what we think is wrong with us, we project what we think are our own flaws onto others. I think your mother takes things out on you to make herself feel better, as her life hasn't turned out quite ... (read in full...)
Why don't men get it?
Q. Why dont men understand? If men were the ones who had the babies and their bodies stretched and scarred how would they feel if their women were masturbating over buffed men 20 years younger than them...? I still don't get how men seem to think ...
A. 19 June 2009: Woah, woah woah. I may not have a boyfriend but I am dating a few guys & if any of us were to get serious I would be fine with them watching porn. I think women that aren't are the ones that aren't secure in themselves. It's just porn for crying out ... (read in full...)
Running out of time....
Q. Ok, I will try to make this as short as possible. I have been with my current boyfriend for about 8 years now. There was a period of time that we werent together and I was seeing another guy. This guy( who i will call romeo) was the perfect boyfrien...
A. 18 June 2009: I think this is a case of the grass is always greener on the other side, keep in mind, there's a reason you chose your bf over him, only you know what it is, but i think everything happens for a reason and you obv made the right choice for you or ... (read in full...)
Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: I've read this book called "how to stop your break up" it's an ebook and extremely helpfull. There's a section in it where the author writes about pride and how this becomes a bad thing in a realtionship, and about how when an argument starts, that ... (read in full...)
Is staying together for the kids going to hurt them in the long run?
Q. I have an issue with my husband, we don't really get along too well and it seems like we fight constantly. We got together very young. At 16 we are now both 24 and have two kids together. The fighting never stops we cant even have a conversation ...
A. 17 June 2009: marriage counselling?
coming from a child of divorce, i was actually relieved when they broke up, because they were finally happy.
If any of that helps at all... (read in full...)
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