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writes:For some reason we have put sex in a category of being something "special" that happens between two people. The insane part of that is you are letting someone else define what's special to you. Will you QUIT doing that please? There are no acts that are inherently special. Special is defined by the people involved in the act.Of course, sex CAN be special and intimate, but so can thousands of other acts. Sitting at my favorite sports bar drinking a beer with a girl can be special for us guys. Taking a bubble bath can be special for us. Sitting down to dinner can be special. Stop letting OTHER people define things for YOU. Just because someone wrote a book 2000 years ago that says sex is joining of souls and reserved for love and marriage doesn't mean that's a fact, a woman is once again allowing someone ELSE to define acts for them. Sex is exactly what you make it, WE define sex. Sex can be out of frustration. Sex can be from love. Sex can be intimate. Sex can be for recreational fun. Sex can be just for excitement. Sex can be just because you felt like it. But the constant that does not change is, it's for pleasure. People make such a huge deal about sex. "If two people had sex and they just met, they are disgusting!" Really? Explain why.Ok, sex is reserved, it's special, it's for when two people really get to know each other. No, actually the only definition for sex is: to engage in sexual intercourse, so where is one getting they're definition of the intent behind it? Well, that's our intent for sex. Ok, and again what does ONE intent for sex have to do between two people? God invented sex to be special. Hasn't one lied on their taxes for 6 years in a row? So basically, once again, ignore the parts of the bible that aren't convenient for ones's life and follow the ones that are? Do not judge people due to One's or GOD's definition of sex, dont people realize how simple minded that makes them? To me, by itself sex is a physical act for pleasure, just like a massage. It in no way physically or emotionally changes the make up of ones mind or body after they have sex. We do not have a limited amount of fucks before they are all gone, if we did then yes one would need to be strategic. If we had a fuck bank of 300 then one might want to save those for special times, but since one don't, why not use them? Because one will feel like a slut? Really? Engaging in a consentual act for pleasure that one would enjoy will actually lower the way a person think of them self? Are we that fragile? Is the foundation for your self esteem really that weak? Yes I am aware that chemicals are released in the brain during sex that can lead to attachment, etc. Those are also released when a person eats cotton candy or get a new puppy, some come on that excuse is used up. They say, sex is so much better if two people are in love. I agree, but pizza from a brick oven in Italy is also better than pizza hut but you dont see me just throwing that shit away. This excuse is also played out, we accept 2nd 3rd 5th and 18th best ALL the time in our life, we operate in a state of mediocrity but now one are going to tell me they aren't going to have sex because it's better if we are in love? So now she decides to only accept the best? bullshit. If she were more full of shit it would be coming out of her nose like the soft serve ice cream machine at Shoneys. Guess what, 3rd best sex is still really really really good. I had sex with someone this weekend literally less than 5 minutes after I met her. We are both sexual people, we had an immediate chemistry and flirtatious nature. Guess what there were no butterfly kisses, or heart shaped cards or joining of souls, I bent her over her living room coffee table, held her hair, told her she was the best I have ever met and fucked her until she wanted an escape button or thought death was eminent and it was god damn amazing. We got dressed and got some drive through broccoli and chicken and will never speak again. It was an act of pleasure because that's what WE made it, we didnt let the bible or society DICTATE the intent of an action, that's just about the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard.Also the double standard of guys being able to have random casual sex and girls not being able to is the biggest pile of horseshit I have ever heard. I was on a date the other night and the numbers game came up, before I answered she said well I'll tell you mine, she is 28, I think about 125ish. I said, you are my new hero. Why? Because you dont give in to double standard bullshit and because you admit to it. There is nothing I love more than people that admit to things at the risk of being judged. She said, basically if I plan on masturbating anyway, why wouldnt I want to hot guy with a big dick and a six pack that can make me sweat and squirm doing it instead? Holy shit, did someone just use LOGIC and think for themselves? I felt like I had just seen the haleys comet, twice in one day. The double standard is complete bullshit and if you give in to it you are a weak simple minded follower, PERIOD. Why can't a woman who feels like having sex, just have sex?, it's that easy. So, tell me, without quoting the bible or quoting what someone else told you was the intent behind sex, why sex is different than a massage? They are both physical acts that bring pleasure.Also don't take the easy way out and bring up STD's. That completely goes against the point of this posting and everyone knows it. But yes, engaging in sex for pleasure will increase person chance to get an STD even with a condom, any more basic facts you want to bring up captain obvious?To ALL Women: How about if you drop a wine glass on concrete, it will break, or if you put a stick in a fire it will burn, equally as beneficial to this discussion as you bringing up STD's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): You are truly hopeless and beyond help, good luck with your random sex.
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reader, Mr.Bisteeya +, writes (20 July 2009):
Mr.Bisteeya is verified as being by the original poster of the question Quiet-Echo...FiNALLY someone seeing it from another point of view. It's better to understand...than to become defensive of the question posted. I'm amazed at how the previous responses from other females actually DOES support what mentally goes on. LOGIC is good. :-)
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (11 July 2009):
I do love how in your last article you did state that one reason the relationship did not work out is because basically she gave it up too quick. So, by that I'd gather you would want someone to withold it to make it special, mean something, however that would make this article a huge contradiction. I think you'd like to believe that sex isn't special, just for fun, & I'm sure you do have sex just for fun, but I don't think that's what you're really looking for, maybe you've settled for it & this article was your attempt of seeking confirmation that life isn't so bad having sex with a bunch of random strangers. But, in all honesty, with the way you talk about women, you don't deserve to have a good one for more than 5 minutes. You, are a pig, you're views are a disgrace and you should be embarrased to even air them, and if you want to improve your life you're going to need to make big changes in your attitude, and don't tell me that your life doesn't need any improvement because your unhealthy relationship and views on women say otherwise.
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reader, Hasden  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 Sorry, English is not my 1st langauge.Hmmm..... What's the English words I'm looking for ?Ahh I found it !!!" Grow up !!!!! Get a life !!!! "The more you have sex with randomsThe more you are worthless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): What is your education level? What makes you the expert that sex is merely for pleasrue and that we should keep score for a limited amount of f_cks in our life or bank as you call it.
This is a moral and religous topic for most and certainly a biological one.
You are sorely uneducated in the differences biolgically between men and women.
Sex is primarily for procreation. Because of modern science, women no longer have to be a slave to their biolgy and can have sex for pleasure without the fear of pregnancy. However, when you put the human element in there many are too uneducated to use proper birth control or do not think abou the consequences their casual sex for fun can bring.
Each person has a certain value system and emotional psychological readiness for sex so for you to tell us that sex is not special is just moronic and pointless.
The differences between women and men is that women can still become pregnant even when protection is used. Women can not walk away from their biology if pregnant, but are forced with hard choices. Men on the other hand can walk away except for being financially responsible if court ordered.
The other difference between women in men is that women actually are chemically different in their brains and hormones which doesn't allow many of us to be detached about sex. We bond chemically to our sex partners, and if it is a one night stand, we can feel pretty used because of the bonding process, it's chemical it is in our brain and it is not the same as eating candy of petting a puppy!
Ther rest of your diatribe is too simple minded for me to even argue the point. Perhaps you need to take a class on sex and the biolgy of sex and on STD, HIV, and Cervical Cancer that is caused by the HPV virus that is ONLY contracted through sexual intercourse. If you would possibly die by having sex, it you had a cervix, would you be making this a war against women?
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