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writes:Hi, Theres two guys, one of them is my ex boyfreind, we were together for about twwo years, and shared soo much together. I broke up with him, because i felt that we went getting along, and i wasnt happy at the time. When we broke up, i started to party a lot, and do stupkd stuff, and my ex witnessed a lot of this ( by following me around places) he would shout at me etc, so i basically hates him so any feelings that i had for him were just shadowed by the anger that i felt. I then met this new guy, with him everything was so different ( he is the complete opposite of my x) , he brings out a different side of me, and i was truely happy and liked him a lot up untill recently. I started to think about my ex, and we met up a few times, to talk. I know he still cares about me. I cant bare the thought of him with anybody eles (even though im a hypocrite),and ive started to think abut him alot recently. I also think that if we got back together, then things would be so much better then the last time, as we both know what went wrong, and we would both improve and change.So due to the fact that I kept on thinking of my ex, me and my boyfreind were distant and Im currently on a break with him. I know that he reaaly likes me to, they both really like me, and i dont want to hurt any of there feelings. I seem to like them both..they both have there positives and theres negatives.My closes freind thinks that i should forget about my ex and either be single or stay with my current boyfreind. I guess im just scared of making the wrong decision, and loosing somebody who i really care about. Im also scared about hurting them. Please somebody give me some advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): Well, somebody is going to get hurt. My best friend was in a very similar situation, and well she even took her rebound boyfriend's virginity, who was 23 and waiting for marraige. Although he was a very sweet, fun-loving guy and was devastated, she could not imagine her life without her ex, and could not bare the thought of him with someone else. So, she broke up with her rebound bf of a year and a half, and has been incredibly happy with her ex ever since. He used to be a jerk, but after he had to face the reality of losing her, he changed into a nice, sociable, caring person almost magically. He proposed to her this last year, and their wedding is in august. She still talks to her rebound (more current ex) and he is dating somebody, happy right now, and happy for her. Whatever you decide to do, good luck. But think about- who you would like to have more as a friend, who you have more history with, and who you cannot imagine your life without.
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reader, Tbonex  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 It's up to you but if you with somebody be with that person and don't half step with it. You may feel that strongly about it but he may not feel the same as you do. He is your ex for a reason, after all.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (26 June 2009):
neither, you're running back and forwards because neither is right for you, you're just going to keep settling for the other one.
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