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writes:My boyfriend moved in with some friends on a 12 month contract not long before we met. After 4 months of living with them, (though he didnt really as this period was over summer break from uni so he was at home) he moved in with me but still paid the rent on his place as he was tied to a contract and didnt want to be harsh to his friends.He also put in for the bills up until march, even though he only slept in the place once or twice and didnt contribute to running up the bills.Anyway... The point is he went back one day to the place and his room mates had got a key to his room and had been using his room without asking him, letting people sleep over etc, working in there storing their stuff etc. They hadnt asked my BF and he was still paying for the room and had stuff of his in there.Well now everyones gone home for summer and my BF has finished his contract (They renewed their contract for another 12 months) and they want money for the final bills from him. We really cant afford to give them the money as the little we have we need to save for our baby thats ue in August... Plus the way I see it, they took over his room completely and used it for themselves and then expect him to pay for bills... when he didnt even have a room in the house. Also they were realy harsh to him and didnt get him a birthday present or even say happy birthday when he made a huge effort for all their birthdays and got them presents, went to parties etc.Am I wrong in thinking he shouldnt have to pay? He feels abit guilty about it, but we really cant afford it, we have about £400 in the bank between us to last the forseeable future as he cant get any work.His roommate sent him a message requesting money, what should he reply?Thanks for reading.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (1 July 2009):
 ur bf sounds like a good bloke as he paid his dues.
however he shouldnt let people walk all over him!!
if u cant afford to pay write them a polite email detailing what u have said here (that u kept up the payments despite them using his bedroom for other purposes)
and be prepared to lose some friends!
if your really worried contact the citizens advice bereau and they will give you the full lowdown on rights.
but i dont see u doing anything illegal here.
good luck
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (1 July 2009):
I'm assuming the bills were not inclusive in his contract? He does not owe them any money, however if his name is on the bills and was not taken off when he moved out, then legally it is his liability, however, this can be changed on the basis that he was not living at the property, the energy companies may wish to see proof that he wasnt living at the property at the time (but it's not likely) however, the process for this to be changed can take quite a few months. If his name was never on the bills, and it was not part of their contract, he doesn't owe them a thing & it's not his problem.
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reader, mitta +, writes (1 July 2009):
mitta is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts for utility bills like gas and electric... which tbh are really extortionate as they leave the heating on all the time and stuff. He fulfilled his duties of paying his share of the rent, and the bills up until this final request for money we just ont have.
I just dont think its fair that they want money off him and hes has nothing in return, not even a room to keep his stuff as they took it over without even asking.
He doesnt plan to keep in touch with them as they had already fallen out over his birthday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): If his end of the contract is done I dont see why he has to pay. Although I am not exactly sure what the money is for...it is for his "final bills" when he still had his contract or is this to the contract that they added? If he has money to pay in his contract then he should even though he didn't use anything and it is rly not fair, but you should never have loose ties over money with these kinds of things. If he does not have the money he can say to his friends "well I dont have any money now, all of it went to my baby i am having soon so wait until I get a job and i'll pay you guys back, its not like I am there to use my share anyway so you guys can manage".
As far as "friends" go you can tell him for me that these aren't friends, and are just buddies. I have real friends and they wouldn't treat me like that lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): Well this is a legal issue just as much as a relationship issue. They really don't sound like very good friends. I think that no matter what you do, the friendship is at its end.If your boyfriend signed the apartment lease and has fulfilled his obligation on the lease (paying his portion of the rent) that is enough. Usually what apartments will do if they don't get the full rent sum is go after the other co-signers. However, if those co-signers don't pay, they could file a report that would lower your credit score.If his friends just want him to pay for apartment utilities, which he didn't use, then you are not liable for any of it. In America, his roommates could take him to small claims court but it would be more expensive to do this than to just let it go and pay for the expenses themselves. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): i think a simple reply along the lines of " you tell me what i have used and i will pay for my share" im sure they will get the picture.
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