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writes:ex boyfriend of 15 years, that I lived with, dumped me two years ago. I loved him very much! more then i could express in words. he ended up marrying a foreigner. His third marriage. blocked me from his email, won't talk to me. Pretty much disowned me and my kids, now grown. recently sent him email of youngest son's graduation picture. thought he would like to see the stepson he helped raise, be successful. I sent it from a different email address. he opened it a apparently read it. He knew it was me by the subject line. my question is, why does he open things from this email, but has blocked me from the other. If he hated me, why bother. He didn't know what was in the email. To experiment, I sent a funny joke and signed my initials, which he knows very well. He again opened it. Is he missing me, or does he not want his wife to see he's curious.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (7 September 2009):
 i don't blame you:)
but you have to move on!
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reader, smkiismoke +, writes (7 September 2009):
 i know where ur heart is but u have to understand where his heart is. he may not be in love with you anymore. move on one day while he wakes up next to the stranger in the bad with him... he will remember you as the biggest mistake he ever made. n u should give him reason to. life is short take advantage of ur youth and move on... go bang some smokin' hawt guy who absolutely adores u and u absolutely adore him... goodluck hun*
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (7 September 2009):
I think some of these answers here are very hurtful, people are using the phrase "move on" as if you can just switch off. you were with him for roughly a 3rd of your life, you take however long you need to move on, allow yourself to feel the way you feel, so you can move past it. Libra 1963 is right though, it's a 2 way street and wont happen unless its a natural process. Anything's possible but dont waste time in the present on someone who left you. If you could put this energy into starting something new, findiing someone new, you should, you never know what you could be missing!!Take care x
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I am feel your pain. You must still be hurting after all this time. Things must have been going wrong in your relationship prior to him leaving. Maybe if you reflect on the bad things, you may find the pain easy to deal with.Its takes a special man to take on a woman with another mans child and he sounded special and I can see why you are trying to hold on. However, there are still many more special men out there. Look after yourself and get back out on the social scene. Dont make yourself look desperate by trying to contact him. When you look back in a few years time you will see how silly you were behaving. Be strong.Its funny how life goes - often things go around and come right round again. You are getting on in age... dont waste any more time on him. If you were to be... you will be. Its needs to be natural and a two way process. He does not want to be at the moment.Wish you all the best.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (6 September 2009):
 Umm...are you really serious?
I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I think you're making yourself look very immature & very childish by doing this. And I also agree with everything Quiet-Echo said below.
It has been 2 years & you need to really, seriously move on he's married now, and you need to respect that in itself...leave it be. Stop trying to test the waters with him,if he missed you or still wanted to be with you he would be with you now & he would not have left in the first place...bottom line, case closed! Yes you may have had a long relationship with each other & a lot of history together, but it's done away with, he has committed himself to another woman & you need to respect that. Just because you sent an email and he read it does not mean that he misses you. It's an email: he can read it & he does not have to respond!
You need to focus on your own life & not on his, let him be. Make YOURSELF happy, do other things besides playing email games,focus on your own life. And move forward, let the past be the past, create a brighter future for yourself and be happy!
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (6 September 2009):
 It sounds pretty bad both ways. You want him for whatever reason, and he's reading your emails but maybe he has no interest in responding to them.
It seems to me that the best thing to do is find someone else for your life. 15 years is a very long time. And it takes a long time to get over someone you were very much in love with.
Sorry to say that, and its sad. I hate to see people going through this dilemma. I think probably he misses some parts of your relationship, but seeing how he found someone else to marry, its rather hopeless to keep contacting him. All it does is disturb him and make you upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): let it go, what you are doing is driving yourself crazy. he looked because of curiousity or to use whatever you may send to print and get a restraining order out on you. leave him alone. he made it clear he wants you out of his life, then bow out like a lady. he doesn't want you, why would you want him? don't waste your efforts.
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