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writes:i've been through some shit in my life. i've pushed through drug addictions, an abusive father, promescuity, terrible decisions that ive had to live with. these things made me depressed and hurt at the time, however, they are all in the past now. right now my boyfriend is far away from me and has been talking to me less and less, and i am so afraid of losing him. i am more depressed then i ever was with any of those other things and i just cant seem to push past it even for a day. i want to cry 24/7 and cant enjoy ANYTHING that i used to. its so stupid and i promised myself i would never let something as simple as a relationship do this to me...but it is. is the fact that i'm so depressed by his absence and the thought of losing him telling me that i really, truly am inlove with him, or does it mean that there is something really wrong with me?
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reader, xcharlottex  +, writes (22 October 2009):
There's nothing wrong with you, however it does seem you are feeling really co-dependant now. Thing is, if this relationship does end, it's not as big of a loss as it seems riht now, i do sympathise though, been there myself. Talk to him about the lack of contact, most men don't even notice. You may think this makes you sound whiney or needy, but if this relationship is going to work out you should be able to tell him when something bothers you. If he's still reluctant to talk, tell him you want a break. I know it seems like you won't be able to do it, and the very thought of it makes you cry but you can't be afraid to have a failed relationship with this man, alot of relationships fail, at different stages for different reasons. The key is not to fear it.
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reader, Sophiea12 +, writes (22 October 2009):
Ive been depressed in my life also and i swore to myself i would never get like it over a man. I dont think your depressed about it, i know i'm not, your just going through that feeling that love can bring. Your worried and anxious and afraid and you no what your in love. Its natural to feel sad over love, i wouldnt worry yourself there is nothing wrong with you, and you are not the only one. We all get down over relationships, and people ca tell you its not worth it, but to you it is. So don't panic, you love him, you are not mad
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