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writes:I have had confidence all my life. I've never really been able to build a relationship with anyone. From my point of veiw, I've always felt that people have just put me down, including teachers. I went to a religious primary school, and a lot of the teachers there were always horible to me and always singled me out and told me that I would fail in all my GCSE's (Thats the truth), and that doesn't do much for a childs confidence. I was bullied too, even by some of my friends, which has made me socially withdrawn, and of course that made me a target for more bullying. I didn't fail my GCSE's, I got above average on most of the results, and now im at college studying art. Because I don't talk to many people, they most all think im boring and not worth the effort, which makes me even more depressed. Am I really that boring? Just because I don't talk much doesn't mean I have nothing to say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): When I was younger I was in a extremely similar situation as you. I was depressed for years and other events lead me to very even more depressed.
Eventually, over a span of a few years I really just stopped caring what people say/think about me as in my case I enjoy being on the computer and being at the gym and that isnt something anyone can take away from me.
The conclusion I have come to is, sure everyone has their opinion about things, but WHO are they to dictate to you how you're supposed to feel? they are nobody.
I know it may not* make much sense to you now and I dont know what your interests are but from my point of view and past (which as i said isnt much different from yours) other people are really not worth the heartache.
Best of luck
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reader, betty_black +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Im exactly the same as that, it takes me a while to be able to get talking to people and im always way too scared to make the effort to talk to them! But what you have to do is just take a deep breath and realise its gonna be absolutely fine, and spark up conversation with some people in your class. They wont bite! Just ask them how their weekend was or what they think about so and so artist etc. Im sure they dont think youre boring they just may think you prefer to be left alone!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (25 June 2009):
 so why not try making a conversation with some people in your art class?
i mean you say you don't talk much so you talk a little perhaps you talking to someone making a conversation can help you over come all these fear and depression you've got towards what happend to you in high school... perhaps this is what you've been waiting for all along someone to talk too and cry out too rather than have them all bully you. that is why you won't talk to anyone because you're afraid the minute you start talking to them they'll pick on you put you down and what not.
but believe it or not, not everyone out there are complete a** holes some people do want to listen to you and do want to know you.
it'll be tough for you i'm not denying that but hun if you don't give it ago you'll be trapped within yourself for many years to come and that's not healthy you need to open up to someone and let them know who you REALLY are.
hope this helps pop me a message if you need anymore help with anything... good luck hunny :) x x x ilovebowsandcherries x x x
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (25 June 2009):
not boring, i dont think, shy more like, there's no shame in not being very talkative, but people may find it harder to interact with you because you'll come off as withdrawn. but if you give it time, if you're not comfortable enough to start a few conversations, other people will start making the effort with you. However, I understand that you were only a child but we can't be basing our confidence on what other people think, life's not about what others think, it's about what we think about ourselves, and how well we think we've done. congrats on your gcses btw.
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