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I'm a college student who likes analytical thinking (sadly I'm not a philosophy major), but I also sympathize (and empathize) easily. I figure I would be decent at giving advice since I can take a rather neutral third-party stand point. Hope I can be of some help~ |
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Got this crush on my female teacher-I know it's wrong! Help!
Q. Hello! I'm 16 and female and I have a crush on one of my female teachers. Well, I haven't got her in any lessons at the moment, but she was my German teacher for two years. She seemed to like me and so it happened that we got to talk in lunchtim...
A. 17 February 2010: Take time to sort out your emotions, it never feels good to be rejected like that. But at least now you know what it feels like, and rejection in the future won't be as bad!
Respect her wishes though if she says no, look for positives in other as... (read in full...)
I cant get motivated to go to school.
Q. I never want to go to school. I mean, when I get there, the lessons aren't so bad. I just can never motivate myself to get up and go! It's not becuase I'm tired in the morning, I just feel whats the point? And I know I should go, I really ...
A. 9 February 2010: I was in the exact same case as you, I didn't want to go to class, even though I knew it would be fine and I should go (even if I don't pay that much attention). I would keep up with class work but only show up for important things like turning in ... (read in full...)
Would you prefer a real rose or a fake one?
Q. Valentines help! I've been with a girl for a couple of weeks and have planned to take her out for a meal on valentines. I just wondered though, I'm planning on giving her a single red rose, but wanted to know on whether that rose should be real or ...
A. 4 February 2010: Real of course. Unless it's a very good quality fake one (don't forget to spritz with perfume). Actually now that I think about it, either would be good!... (read in full...)
Do all men only worry about how good a woman looks?
Q. How important are looks to men? The ones who show an interest in me seem to only ever care about the way I look. I had one boyfriend who even said he loved how anywhere we went together, all the guys would be jealous of him because he'd got me and ...
A. 4 February 2010: Well its how we were made.. how else are strangers supposed to be attracted to each other? Humans are engineered to find attractive mates so they can create attractive offspring! :) Physical attraction needs to exist for a relationship to work. Guys ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks she has to stay thin or else guys won't like her.
Q. My friend is in her mid 20's and she has lost a lot of weight within a few months. She says that guys give her attention that she never got before when she was heavier. Guys that rejected her in the past are now asking her out, but she just likes ...
A. 4 February 2010: Well when you cut down on the amount of food you intake, of course you will start to lack energy. This lack of energy then lowers your mood. But you keep up with it because of irrational thoughts (guys will only like me if I'm skinny) and ... (read in full...)
Why do guys keep falling for me???
Q. So, I have a problem with a few guys. That totally makes me sound like a slut, but I'm not. The first one is my ex. We had liked each other for years before we finally got together, and I was really happy while I was with him, which is rare. I'...
A. 4 February 2010: You're going to have to be blunt to those who are falling for you, but you have no interest in them. It's better to break it to them sooner than later, help them move on by telling them it won't work. :) It'll save them a lot of misery, trust me.
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Should I just call it quits? Or am I an idiot?
Q. In a nutshell: I've never had a relationship with a girl, but I'm now in one with someone. She's wonderful and things have been great. But I feel like it won't work and that she should just see other guys. I partially want to do this because I n...
A. 4 February 2010: I don't feel like you have provided enough information for us to tell you what to do in your situation. Why exactly do you feel like the relationship won't work? Do you think you are too good, or that you think she's better off with someone else? Or ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to drop out of school and I feel it will affect our future together! What can I do?
Q. My girlfriend is currently home schooled and her mom is planning on signing her out i ask her all the time not to drop out to finish school and also meet better ppl while shes in high school i dont want her missing out on the experience, I feel like ...
A. 4 February 2010: This would be a relationship breaker for me, but it depends on your views... does education mean a lot to you? It does to me, so something like this would drive me away. If she continuously avoids the subject, I'm sorry but there is not much you can ... (read in full...)
How does religion affect a relationship?
Q. Well most people think that religion is everything, I don't know about that because I am an atheist, I need to know if religion plays an important role in relationships or not, if so can you explain to me how. Also for all of you stereoty...
A. 4 February 2010: What about agnostic atheism? :) That's what I am! You don't believe in a deity but you don't really want to disprove it either.
Religion is a pretty big compatibility factor - you want to seek a relationship where your partner either has similar ... (read in full...)
I can't tell the difference between love and infactuation
Q. What is love? And how do you tell the difference between love and infatuation?...
A. 4 February 2010: Oldersister puts it pretty well. Every relationship starts out in the infatuation stage, a lot of people refer to it as a the "honeymoon" stage. You know, where you get those butterfly feelings, increased happiness, sweaty palms when you see them, ... (read in full...)
I need to change my wardrobe to help gain some confidence
Q. umm well im tired of myself not feeling good wen i dress up, i want to feel good when i get outside with my frends, so my question is how do i feel better? new clothes? and i do have very minnimum clothes to wear and i do try to make th...
A. 4 February 2010: Are you sure its the clothes factor that changes your confidence? Sure nice clothes makes some people feel better, usually confidence comes from within.
As for new clothes, it depends on what you think your "style" is. Do you like the preppy l... (read in full...)
Do I have to be alone so that everybody else can be happy?
Q. hello. havnt quite done this before. so growing up I've had a couple girlfriends. nothing serious or anything. I havnt had a girlfriend in quite a long time. almost a couple years. I met a girl at my work. we are extremely close. she knows I have a ...
A. 4 February 2010: How long has she been with her boyfriend? If their relationship is rocky and she has to come crawling to you for comfort instead of confronting her boyfriend... maybe something is wrong with her relationship. You shouldn't really just tell her to ... (read in full...)
What exercises can I do to lose the fat?
Q. hello. well i am 15 and weigh 11 stone 3 pounds at the moment. i feel so fat as i used to be 10 stone 5 pounds so i have put on weight in the last couple of months. i feel horrible. is there any ways to lose fat, (without mentioning diet...
A. 3 February 2010: I just realized I wrote latter when I meant former, sorry about that. :)... (read in full...)
What exercises can I do to lose the fat?
Q. hello. well i am 15 and weigh 11 stone 3 pounds at the moment. i feel so fat as i used to be 10 stone 5 pounds so i have put on weight in the last couple of months. i feel horrible. is there any ways to lose fat, (without mentioning diet...
A. 2 February 2010: Ok first of all, you should go into this thinking "I want to become healthier and more active" not "I want to lose fat"... the latter sounds and feels a lot better because you are doing it to make yourself well!
You should just go outside and take... (read in full...)
What is wrong with being friends with an ex? Need opinions please
Q. Hi everyone, i have so many times read about exes on this and the advice given to such problems. But I have a question... What is your opinion about being friends with an ex? Well, I know it is best to just forget about them totally but what...
A. 2 February 2010: I think its fine as long as the period of no contact was long enough that both parties have gotten over each other completely. Like pinktopaz mentioned, most people forget or can't be bothered with it by that time though.
I think most people w... (read in full...)
His parents won't let me see him...
Q. Ok. i have met this guy on the internet because it's really hard to find someone who wants a relationship. well the thing is im 19 and he is 16 and no matter what i do, his parents intervene they say tht he is a minor an ill call the police on you ...
A. 2 February 2010: If he means that much to you, you can wait until he is older. At that age his parents still have a say in his actions.... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of talking on phones!
Q. I hope this question doesn't come across as pathetic, as it is a genuine problem. I have a phobia of talking on phones, i've done a little research and have come across other people who have the same fear. I'm okay with talking to some of my close...
A. 2 February 2010: I have the same problem as you, I hate calling people and I hate picking up my phone, it actually is constantly on silent. If I am forced to have a phone conversation, I try to make it short as possible. I don't even like picking up calls from ... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 2 February 2010: Oh by the way, I'm not defending your gf's actions by any means, I think what she did is insensitive - but your reaction to this isn't the best way to deal with the problem either, which is what I'm trying to show.
She might not realize how much... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 2 February 2010: "But I will eventually recall them when I need to make any serious judgement on the future course of this relationship."
Really? For something like this? I find both parties a bit silly. You should tell her how you feel when she talks about "h... (read in full...)
Should I go with him to the dance?
Q. ok i found out from my friend that my boyfriend is going to ask me to a dance for valentine's day. By that time it will be five days before our one month but i have known him for almost a year now. Should i go with him to the dance and if so what ...
A. 2 February 2010: Of course, he is your boyfriend and you guys have known each other for awhile. What would you do if you said no? Sit around at home? Of course you should go!
What would he expect from you? Just dress nice and have a good time!... (read in full...)
What are the signs of being used as a place-holder?
Q. What are the signs of being used as a place-holder? Ive recently felt like my gf isnt as energetic about talking to me as she used to be. she is usually sad, avoids me on msn, when i am round hers shes not as cuddly, blames her parents for it b...
A. 2 February 2010: It's never ever a good sign she's spending time with you... on the phone with her ex! And then snaps at you. How rude, especially since you have asked her to stop. You obviously have nothing to hide so you feel comfortable introducing your female ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him, without hurting his feelings too much?
Q. Hello. I'm in need of some advice here! My boyfriend and have been dating for a month, which is a pretty short time. I just don't feel attracted to him, no "spark". I've felt a spark when kissing my other ex-boyfriends...not my current one. I feel ...
A. 2 February 2010: As long as you aren't rude or insensitive, or break up through IM/text/email, you'll be fine. There is no real way to break up without hurting someone, especially if they are the one who likes you a lot. Just be gentle and appreciative of the time ... (read in full...)
I feel stupid and unable in everything I do!
Q. Hello, I feel for a few years that Iam stupid and unable. I suffer from a social fobia and I go to psycholog and also have here pills which I can take. I am trying to overcome this in small steps. For example I found a job where I have to communic...
A. 2 February 2010: Is it social phobia or social anxiety? If its social anxiety, many people have worked through it and lead normal lives. It's good you are getting help on this asap because if you leave it alone it will only get worse. Social anxiety sets in randomly ... (read in full...)
Internet love...
Q. I am 18 and i have been talking to this guy on myspace for a month or so and i like him and i think he likes me but we live very far away from each other. We are the same age and every time i talk to him my heart rate increases and i get ...
A. 2 February 2010: If both parties really wish for it to happen, it can. But be prepared - it will be a difficult trip. Are you only exchanging messages over myspace/IM? You should try phone or skype or even webcam to keep things interesting.
The biggest factor o... (read in full...)
I'm a bit stuck! What to get him for valentine's day?
Q. im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 months, we love each other so much x and its going so well... its coming up to valentines day and have thought of some stuff to get him but dont want them to be too mushy..., i was thinking about ...
A. 1 February 2010: Whats wrong with your current idea? It is pretty cute.
What are his hobbies? Maybe you can get him something related to that. Guys usually like something practical, so if you can think of anything to get (even something very simple) that will mak... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from falling for him too fast?
Q. My current situation is I am dating a guy. After every date and the following day I am constantly wondering if he is going to call/text me. He always has. I grow very worried that he must not like me, which then snowballs into me overanalyzing what ...
A. 1 February 2010: Just be content with yourself. What if he doesn't like you? His loss! If he is worth your time, he will like you. I'm also a person who like to analyze things, and think things over and over - and nitpick over things that have already happened. Just ... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 1 February 2010: Stop playing games with each other, your age range says early 20s... should be past this 'they wronged me so I must wrong them, let me get the last word in' stage right?
If you care for her I doubt you would ever think those thoughts that you have... (read in full...)
Am I in love?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months now, and things are going so great for us. I enjoy every moment we spend together, and when we're apart, she's always on my mind. This is both of ours first relationship that's been even remotely serious. I ...
A. 1 February 2010: Ooh how lucky. :) You should definitely continue what you have now and it take it slow when it comes to saying "I love you"... there's no rush!
I hope college goes well for the two of you!... (read in full...)
Do gut feelings mean anything?
Q. Apparently when it comes to love, we should follow our gut instinct. I've heard that a lot. Many people say that they just 'know' when they meet Mr Right or Miss Perfect. I've always believed this too. But now I've fallen for someone. This is the f...
A. 1 February 2010: Sometimes its the whole package that makes you enjoy being around someone, all the small things put together. You don't have to pinpoint a certain trait just to like someone!
Yes gut feelings are important, if you pair them up with emotiona... (read in full...)
Am I in love?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months now, and things are going so great for us. I enjoy every moment we spend together, and when we're apart, she's always on my mind. This is both of ours first relationship that's been even remotely serious. I ...
A. 1 February 2010: If you question whether you love her or not, then you should wait awhile before saying anything. When you feel it completely you should have no doubts. It sounds like you are very much 'in like' with her, and like you said, 3 months is not a long ... (read in full...)
How can I score girls who are 8's and 9's?
Q. SO recently ive been working out as hard as possible for football and ive been running but for some reason i am not getting cut and im starting track today, and i was wondering how i can get what i want so i can score 8s and 9s (girls) cause ive ...
A. 1 February 2010: Acting shallow will only attract shallow people. ;)
You should figure out what kind of girl you are looking for, and act accordingly. If you just want a girl who is "hot" and looks good next to you then I don't think you should try relation... (read in full...)
On a sale of 1-10 she rates me 3, I rate her 9. How can I get my rating up?
Q. Well me my girlfriend we been dating for about a month and couple weeks now. Our relationship is great it's going by good I love her a lot, but when I ask her how much she loves me she said she only loves me a little. From a scale from 1 to 10 one ...
A. 1 February 2010: You shouldn't have to work that hard to make someone 'love' you. Relationships involve two people who appreciate each other - how can you have a relationship with someone who just likes you a little bit? 3 is so low on the scale! Maybe it's too... (read in full...)
Would a man keep texting and talking online for 9 months if he was not interested in something serious?
Q. I met this awesome guy online 9months ago. we met in person 5 months ago. he is not the kind of guy who expresses his feelings opening. he hates talking on the phone so we mostly text. we text each other all day everyday with occasional phones calls ...
A. 1 February 2010: He may just see you as a very good friend. Does he flirt with you?... (read in full...)
I feel afraid of being ridiculed behind my back, mocked and never taken seriously...
Q. I am socially withdrawn. I have gone through alot of changes the last couple of years. The changes started with a move to a different state, which was a good thing and I was very happy. I got into a relationship and that went downhill. It was hard ...
A. 1 February 2010: I agree with par0dy, you should seek counseling if you can - it will help you change your way of thinking. I was in a similar situation until I realized how negative/pessimistic/irrational my thoughts were, and my counselor told me the best thing to ... (read in full...)
Is true love and romance dead
Q. is true love and romance dead ? is it just becoming a myth a dream that can only exist in ones head ? humans are so horrible to each other its truly disgusting.. this world has become so dark it truly makes you think why are you still here! then ...
A. 30 January 2010: I also disagree with Sarcy. Love can come from one person, but a relationship requires two. For example, someone can love and be completely selfless and give all that they can... yet receive nothing back. How can one be happy in a situation like ... (read in full...)
Are my braces to blame for me not getting dates?
Q. Are guys afraid of braces? Seriously, I have never dated and I want to know if it's something to do with me or if guys are afraid to date me just because I have braces. ...
A. 30 January 2010: Anyone who doesn't date someone just because they have braces is pretty shallow and probably not worth your time anyways! Assuming your age range is listed correctly (13-15) I remember when I was at that age and I knew people with braces who had ... (read in full...)
Does he regret dumping me now Ihave a modelling contract, or does he really hate me?
Q. I've just been dumped by a Pakistani boy who I've been with on and off for about a year. He's tried to dump me a few times before, but he'd always come back to me. Anyway he told me he'd met someone else and he wanted to be with her, so he dum...
A. 30 January 2010: How long has it been since you two broke up again? Usually after break ups you want to try to remain in no contact. He might be reacting because it wasn't expected and he doesn't really want to be contacted - he thinks you are only saying that to ... (read in full...)
I accept his views but don't like him pushing his religion on me.
Q. I am currently dating a guy who I have gotten to know through work. At first glance, he seemed shy (or antisocial). I don't work with him often but when I did I realised he was a friendly person, and after a few weeks, we started hanging out. We get ...
A. 29 January 2010: Religion is one of those huge compatibility factors that you can't change. Both parties have to accept each others views, or it just will not work out in the long run. People who are very religious usually have it up there as one of their higher ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell b/f of previous relationship problems
Q. I was in a relationship for 7 years. I was very young when we started dating, I ws 16. He ended up being very mentally abusive. Were no longer together, but due to him my self esteem has taken a huge hit, and I no longer feel pretty, and worth ...
A. 29 January 2010: Only when you really trust him should you tell him about this. By that time he should be very understanding and the possibility of you faking it would not even cross his mind. Some people do not know how to react to information like this, so don't ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex even though he treated me like dirt and I have someone new
Q. Me and my ex have been together for a year on and off he treated me like crap and I still took him back everytime. He cheated and broke up with me millions of times and he even kissed my sister and I still love him. I can tell he doesn't want ...
A. 29 January 2010: But what about him makes you still "love" him? He has done a lot of things to hurt you yet you still hold on? I'm glad you have found someone new who treats you right, but you should respect your new bf by forgetting about your ex. How can you still ... (read in full...)
Got this crush on my female teacher-I know it's wrong! Help!
Q. Hello! I'm 16 and female and I have a crush on one of my female teachers. Well, I haven't got her in any lessons at the moment, but she was my German teacher for two years. She seemed to like me and so it happened that we got to talk in lunchtim...
A. 29 January 2010: I think it's alright to have a crush on a teacher, but you shouldn't go any further than that. You two should respect each other wishes on no hugs. People change as they grow, you are still young. What you feel may just be a fantasy feeling, and ... (read in full...)
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