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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Love is more wider concept than sex. It start from the concept of 'liking' and begin to develop in to admiration to loving to worshiping etc. But, basically it is feeling/emotion, so one can learn nothing from loving, save it give the idea that " I like it' but why? is always remain in confusion. Love is also related with its negative,'hatred'.
So, advisable rule is this: Heart should follow the head. Love which is worthy of love.
Sex is metaphysical fact. No one can make choice about to have or not to have sex. If some one try to make such choice, then he will meet with some psychological problem like 'personality disorder' It is sex, that demand 'love'. Sex cannot be felt taste full without love. So, generally people choose to have sex with the person to whom love is possible. It is always good and moral to preserve sex drive for lifelong time. It is possible. It required some learning, and it is easy also. Without learning it is like impossible to save relationship for good.
But, please remember that it is sex, that demand highest understanding, so do not degrade sex by saying that it is cheap, or it is only lust, it is religious vision that degrade sex by saying it as morally dirty.
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reader, visione  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Oldersister puts it pretty well. Every relationship starts out in the infatuation stage, a lot of people refer to it as a the "honeymoon" stage. You know, where you get those butterfly feelings, increased happiness, sweaty palms when you see them, etc - you constantly think of them and want to be with them. It's attraction, and it's needed in the beginning of relationships. Eventually this dies down and stabilizes, a lot of relationships end here. People feel like once the "high" is over, that their "love" is over so they break it off. The honeymoon stage typically lasts the first 2-3 months.
Love is a choice, you can choose to respect someone, you can choose to deeply care about someone, to forgive them for their mistakes and flaws. You choose to be with them and have no problem working things out. You have good compatibility and similar values and goals. And of course, you trust that they won't hurt you. It usually takes a long time to develop (up to a year), because you can't really accept and understand someone until you've been with them and around them for that long. If these feelings are reciprocated, congrats! :)
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