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writes:In a nutshell: I've never had a relationship with a girl, but I'm now in one with someone. She's wonderful and things have been great. But I feel like it won't work and that she should just see other guys. I partially want to do this because I now feel like I have to keep the relationship going just so I don't feel like I've lost something. She can get any guy she wants and I can't get a girl to look at me. I think I'm turning this into a fight to defend my pride...Should I just call it quits? Or am I an idiot? Reply to this Question
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reader, visione +, writes (4 February 2010):
 I don't feel like you have provided enough information for us to tell you what to do in your situation. Why exactly do you feel like the relationship won't work? Do you think you are too good, or that you think she's better off with someone else? Or do you just not *feel* anything for her? All 3 are very different cases. If it is the last one then you should break it off before the relationship goes on any longer - you'll just create more pain one way or the other the longer you drag it on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): What?? She's wonderful and things have been great. Stay with that while you can. Contrary to popular belief, certain girls can't get any guy they want. Besides, YOU'RE the one she wants, so keep her and keep your great relationship great.
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reader, lost!!!!! +, writes (4 February 2010):
If you don't think it will work the best thing to do is call it quits. The sooner the better. You don't want to lead her on anymore if you really are not feeling it. Yes you will feel lost for a bit but you will get over it. It is more prideful to stop things early than to let them go as they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): Well u should talk to her and let her know that u want to make her feel like shes in the sky but that u need to know what makes her happy in bed. Like kiss at the neck would be good.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 This is called hurt her first so I won't hurt that bad. To do this is to accept defeat because you are saying other guys are better. How is this defending your pride? What are you going to do? Date an average girl so it would be less work?
Go to the gym. This is not just for girls. It's healthy for you and you will feel more confident.
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (4 February 2010):
Take it from someone who has been in that boat for many years with a gorgeous woman who can have any man. KEEP HER IF YOU LOVE HER! Ask yourself why you think it wont work. Be honest with yourself. If you are unhappy talk to her and sort it out, but take it from a man who knows do not think you know whats best for her, because woman are an incredible enigma of emotion and everything that men dont understand. lol. let her make that decision, if you lover her, hold on to that girl
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