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writes:is true love and romance dead ? is it just becoming a myth a dream that can only exist in ones head ? humans are so horrible to each other its truly disgusting.. this world has become so dark it truly makes you think why are you still here! then they say its depression are you sure that their not trying to pawn off reality reality of what an existance we have come into..how are you ment to have faith when this world has become so dark that your not sure if you can see your reflection because the evil intents of our race has gotten so bad ? are you only happy because you dont think of the darkness to our world ? why do we ignore whats going on ? i feel like im slipping like im slowly fading away ! like the ultimate question what is the point ? LA Reply to this Question
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reader, visione  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 I also disagree with Sarcy. Love can come from one person, but a relationship requires two. For example, someone can love and be completely selfless and give all that they can... yet receive nothing back. How can one be happy in a situation like this?
You can't describe darkness without describing light - what is darkness? A place devoid of light. Well what is light? When it isn't dark... The same applies just about everything human. Love is a choice and love can be risky, there is no doubt someone will get hurt. But what keeps us going is that we can learn from mistakes and we can hope for the best.
The way society has evolved so far has generally made a negative impact - people feel distant from each other, people lose the need to act nice towards one another, people make bad decisions... But if you think of everything in a negative sense, you are giving up, and thats the worst thing you can do. Because that means you are letting the darkness win. The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
I often admire people who can smile at strangers, I wonder if they realize what an impact they can make on some of those strangers? I wish I could thank them.
There is no "point" and there is no "goal" - you can't objectify something like this, people should do GOOD because they FEEL it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): you must believe true love is real because without love there is no hope and hope for a better tomorrow is what gets us through today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): i have to disagree sorry but i and im sure many people have given everything to a special someone, doing this often leads to people taking advantage, it is very sad and i know what the poster of this question is saying, dare i say that the reason that romance and true love is dead because all this womens lib and girl power has gone just that little bit too far sorry, x
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (30 January 2010):
I'm sorry Sarcy, I couldn't disagree more!
Selfless sacrifice and giving, with no thought to onesself is a one way ticket to misery!
Trust me, been there, done that. Wrote the book, made the move, sold the T-shirts!
I spent 10 years married to the love of my life. I lived for her. I breathed for her. I gave her the moon and stars.
She cheated on me. More than once.
Is true love dead? No. Is it hard as hell to find. Yep. What's the point? That's a little harder than one word...
There's joy, and love, and laughter in this life. There's good to fight for, and bad to supress. There are children to play with, teach, and watch grow. Old people to learn from. Songs to dance to, flowers to smell, and hot baths to soak in. Thre are incredible flavors to taste, and long, exhausting love to make.
Aren't all of the wonderful things in life worth the sacrifice and pain found in their pursuit?
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (30 January 2010):
 True love and romance is not dead but exists only if you are prepared to be selfless. If you give without expecting to receive then you will receive true love. Loving someone above yourself and putting yourself out constantly for that other person with no thought for yourself will give you true love and romance. Selfishness and resentment will ruin it.
I think a lot of people chose to ignore the darkness in our world to maintain a false sense of happiness or they are afraid acknowledging it will draw them down into it.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (30 January 2010):
 I have felt as you do, at times in my life. And you are right, the world has changed, and there is a lot of pain and suffering all around us.
I have found that we can't take that on our shoulders. We have to take action to make our lives better. We just have to keep on keepin' on.
To wallow in misery is not the answer...then we become part of the problem rather than the solution. If you look back at history, there have always been horrible times in the world, the great depression, the hulacost, and even futher back. People didn't give up! The did their best to survive!
The last few generations have been spoiled by an easier lifestyle.
All I can do is the best I can do! For myself, my loved ones, and charities (when possible)
As for your question, "Is love and romance dead?" NO! It's not! It is alive and well! But that's not to say, there are there won't be tough roads ahead...there always will be.
I have experienced plenty of pain and suffering and feelings of "what's the point?" but usually it is caused by poor choices in my personal life!
I will never give up on happiness, and joy! And if I hadn't been through the pain and suffering, how could I possibly appreciate the joy???
Make the best of what you've got...and go out in search of more!
God Bless!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 The world is a dark place if you choose to see it thay way. The media is full of violence, disasters and celebrities' mishaps because bad news sell. We ignore what's going on because we can't do anything to change it. To try to understand the world requires reading tons of books, by different authors, and people argue about who has the true theory. I am happy because I know that the physical world is not all that there is. The point is to realize darkness, go through the dark night of the soul if you want to call it that way, then slowly detach yourself from it. To evolve to a higher state. To only want things that are real, not just imitation happiness such as material things. True love and romance is not dead. It is inside you and waiting for you to tap into it. It is up to you to help other fellows to get out of their darkness and see the hidden beauty of everything.
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reader, samehere +, writes (30 January 2010):
 The dark side of humans has always been there - since the beginning of this world , the creation (or whatever your beliefs are in regards to how the world began). True love and romance can still be found, however the expectations we have for those two concepts are way off reality as we are basing them on novels and movies. I hope you find your "one". I thought I did - but hey, it's all about your attitude towards how to set your expections and embrace the person your heart chooses. Good luck :)
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