I love my B/f, but is it enough when you feel you're a burden to the person you love?
Q. ok, ive been with my bf for 3 years. First off we are complete opposites. he works alot and is very social and outgoing whereas i work part time because of my health (doctors dont know what i have, i have headaches 24/7 for 14 years now) so after ...
A. 29 November 2011: you're not ruining his life! he should be more supportive and understanding! having said that, i know 3 years seems like a really long time to just call it quits, but if he can't be more thoughtful and forthcoming with his feelings, he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I don't want my children going where I can't get them back!
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice. My ex husband and I have been seperated for almost 4 years. We have 2 beautiful children together and things are now much friendlier than they were when we first split. My husbands long term girlfriend ( ...
A. 28 November 2011: If he really wants to take them, then checking flight ticxkets won't stop him. Nothing you can do, short of hiring a lawyer, can really stop him if he wants too. Are your children very young? ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with an abortion at 21 weeks?
Q. im 21 weeks pregnent with no family around me they all live in australia and my partner has decided to leave me and now wants nothing to do with my child and me i dont think ii can do this whole thing on my own so have recently thought about ge...
A. 28 November 2011: 21 weeks is REALLY very late to get an abortion. You will probably have pretty serious physcial effects from it, like nausea, cramping and pain. Have you considered adoption? ... (read in full...)
Does he simply need space or doesn't he want to be with me anymore?
Q. hello everyone... I have a bit of a problem :\ me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year, at the beginning of our relationship we used to spend a lot of alone time together which was lovely. Now after nearly a year he doesn't seem to ...
A. 28 November 2011: At your age, I would have a tendancy to believe he just isn't interested anymore. If days go by without him texting you and weeks go by without you seeing eachother, then he's just not that into you. The moment you start focusing on something (or ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that its over should I leave everything alone? Will she ever come back?
Q. Hi my name is vincent Ive been going with this girl for 3 years since our junior year in high school and we had some problems off and on 6 months after we started dating we broke up and she had sex with her ex she came back to me apologizing saying ...
A. 28 November 2011: Aunt Honesty is 100% right. You deserve better. You'll probably always love her and care about her and that's okay, but if you keep letting her walk all over you, you'll resent yourself one day for being weak willed! ... (read in full...)
What does "I like it when you are strong" mean?
Q. Hi everyone this is my question what do you think my boyfriend of 8 month meant by this he said to me last night when we were talking he likes it when I'm strong what can he mean by this thank you ...
A. 28 November 2011: background info on this, please? what were you talking about when he said it? texting or on the phone?... (read in full...)
I am totally messed up when it comes to relationships/sex/dating.
Q. Hi! I really need some advice and input from all of you wise people out there! :) I am 19. I've been in two relationships. The first one was at 15 and lasted for 2 months. The second one was at 17 and lasted a month. I dumped both of them. I ...
A. 28 November 2011: You don't have daddy issues unless you think you do. Most dads suffer from pretty serious "divorce guilt" and just aren't sure what to do with themselves and their relationships afterwards. I don't even think you should feel "hurt" that you had to ... (read in full...)
I miss him terribly, how can I get him back?
Q. Today would be my ex and I's one year 4 month anniversary and I miss him horribly. He has said he still loves me, but doesn't like me, to his best friend, who is also a very close friend of mine. How can I get him back? ...
A. 28 November 2011: Supermum is right. You need to focus on other aspects of your life. Not only will he see what he's missing but it will get your mind off of him! ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that I could/should do to convince him that it may work between us the second time around?
Q. I met a guy in college about 6 months ago. I was getting over trust issues and knew I wanted to take my next relationship REALLY slow and not rush ANYTHING. He knew my issues and I knew his. His issue was that he has been taken advantage of, was not ...
A. 28 November 2011: Keep taking it slow! He isn't going to cut you out of his life and until he starts really liking another girl, it sounds like youre his #1! If he's keeping you around anyway, next time its a little flirty between yall, just kiss him! Just don't miss ... (read in full...)
He's not as affectionate anymore.....
Q. My guy and I have been together for 6 months, and generally I'm very happy with him. Without giving the full story of how we've bonded, I'll give a little background by stating that we are friends as well as partners, we have a lot of fun together, ...
A. 28 November 2011: The minute you find yuorself something else to focus on, he'll come around. That's the way guys work, even the nice ones. They ALL love the chase. He just needs to feel like he's got to work for it a little bit. I'm not saying be mean or curt or ... (read in full...)
Controlling mother of adult son
Q. I am dating a man who is 23 and I am 31, I am divorced with 3 kids and he has never been married and has no kids. We both know this is not the ideal situation and neither expected this to last but after 2 years we are very much in love and can even ...
A. 28 November 2011: The truth is that the issue isn't you at all. She doesn't like what her son is doing, and it isn't personal against you. Your boyfriend needs to stand up to his mother if he feels that strongly about you. I was with my ex for 6 years and my par... (read in full...)
Is he going to come around and realize he can find a way better looking woman?
Q. This may be a little long,but hopefully people will still take the time to read it. A couple of months ago I had decided to start online dating. I was tired of being single,and being a single parent didn't allow me to go out and meet people in the ...
A. 28 November 2011: Oh my goodness, girl! Relax! He has his own baggage and he's probably been hurt before, just like you. Just becuase he's gorgeous doesn't mean he thinks he's too good for you, or that he ever will. He has probably already dated women as attractive ... (read in full...)
Were these bad questions to ask?
Q. I started dating this woman. She has asked me these questions many many times. "Why do you love me?", "Why me?" Why do you find me attractive?" I easily answer them. Early in the am, I texted her cell phone with some questions of my own. I ...
A. 28 November 2011: Well, some of the questions you asked her point to low self esteem on your part. By asking her "Why me when you could have a lot better?".. you're basically telling her that you have confidence issues.
Her questions were only "Why do you find me ... (read in full...)
I want to believe he likes me. Does he?
Q. HI, This could be a long one. I known this guy for years, but we lost touch for a couple of years. He kept all my photo's and emails I sent him. WE got chatting a while ago and I realised that I still liked him. I told him I liked him and that I ...
A. 21 April 2011: It's hard when you're far away from each other.. a lot of your "relationship" plays out in your mind when you aren't dating in person, so it's hard to guage his sincerity. If he's really into you, he'll make the trip sooner rather than later. You ... (read in full...)
The communication between us has gone way down...did he lose interest?
Q. I met a guy on Plenty of Fish, we texted back and forth for a month with pretty standard 'get to know you' questions, e.g.: what would you bring on a desert island, what are your parents like, etc. After a few weeks of texting and establishing that ...
A. 20 April 2011: Oh no, I appreciate the humor :) I seriously think he's trying to "train" me not to be so needy! Not needy, but I do get kind of paranoid if he doesn't text me back after a day or so. I haven't heard from him since he texted me Sunday after I was ... (read in full...)
How do I develop better self-confidence?
Q. I currently work for an agency as a healthcare assistant,i go to the local hospitals in the community. I do lack confidence and i find that i dont deal to well with authority,in the sense that i get really nervous and stupid around ppl who i...
A. 20 April 2011: Do you have any friends at work that can support you? You need to start small: congratulate yourself for the things you know you're good at until you're so 'cocky' about it that a blind person could see that youre in charge.. Do that in small steps ... (read in full...)
I may be falling for him, but I am confused, help??
Q. basically i dumbd my boyfriend and 3 weeks later he wanted to meet up with me and he begs to accept him and appolises for not treating me right. i felt weird when i saw him like i wasnt sure that me and him were right. there were moments wer he felt ...
A. 20 April 2011: Don't go back to your ex.. That is A LOT of pain to go through for a guy... How did you get pregnant twice? Were you going to keep the one you miscarried? How did he mistreat you? How long were you together? ... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me strange text messages. What do you think she's trying to do?
Q. I'm not sure what to do about my ex. We broke up nearly two months ago after four and a half months together because I was leaving university and she wanted to adjust to life at the town where we study without me. She is in her first year and t...
A. 20 April 2011: Why didn't you just google Rebecca Black? That would've cleared that up for you instantly, she was just making a joke. Rebecca Black has a really annoying song called "Friday".. It sounds like she was trying to relive and inside joke with you about ... (read in full...)
I want to believe he likes me. Does he?
Q. HI, This could be a long one. I known this guy for years, but we lost touch for a couple of years. He kept all my photo's and emails I sent him. WE got chatting a while ago and I realised that I still liked him. I told him I liked him and that I ...
A. 20 April 2011: Don't get completely carried away, but if he says he likes you, believe him. He wouldn't ask about your Mom if he wasn't trying to kiss your ass a little! What do you mean "I told him I liked him and that I understood if he decided that was a ... (read in full...)
Is our age gap too great? I look much younger than I actually am.
Q. I am nearly twenty and he is thirty one. Is that too much of an age difference? I know others that are his age and older and I would regard them as scarily older than me at times but with my boyfriend that's never there. I feel almost as though ...
A. 20 April 2011: You guys were friends before you dated, so I'm sure it's not about how you look. He's attracted to your personality, and if he hasn't expressed any concern about your age difference, then it doesn't bother him. ... (read in full...)
I'm facing all kinds of peer pressure...I definitely need help dealing with this!
Q. I'm feeling really pressurized to be 'normal' at the moment. I don't understand why I'm being treated like a freak just because my interests are a bit different from other people I know and I didn't even think they were that weird. For example I ...
A. 20 April 2011: Screw everyone! You are wise not to be interested in partying and boys! I understand how feeling different and isolated because of your interests can be hurtful, but in reality, the people who make fun of you are jealous that they have the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does crack and swears he doesn't cheat on me. Is that even possible?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend that is a crack cocaine binger. I am very naive about what goes on when my boyfriend is in this lifestyle. I heard that every time a man smokes this drug that they are promiscuous and can not be alone. My boyfri...
A. 11 August 2010: No, it's not possible! I mean, it's possible that he didn't cheat on you.. but it is NOT possible that he is not lying. Drug addicts do whatever they have to: lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, scam, burn bridges, hurt people... the only thing they are ... (read in full...)
How to do I cope with this unrequited love?
Q. I'm a classic hopeless romantic. And it's the classic case of unrequited love. And to make a long story short, I was rejected by a girl who I thought was the world. I've tried moving on with my life, like any sensible person. There's a girl ...
A. 11 August 2010: Focus your energy elsewhere! Don't spend too much time alone, rely on friends to hang out with you and keep your mind off it it.. or to talk about it when you need to. Try picking up something new that doesn't remind you of her.. Like if she was ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a son.
Q. [OP original title] I need help? Ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and love him to bits im 19 and hes 3 years older then me. When i first started seeing him there were rumours about him and his ex girlfriend having a child toge...
A. 11 August 2010: Your boyfriedn should have stood up to his baby's mom and said "This is my new girlfriend, and she WILL be a part of my life as well as my son's"... Just becasue she's the mom DOES NOT mean she gets to determine who the baby's dad is allowed to ... (read in full...)
I love her but she says she's not ready to say it yet, what does that mean?
Q. Okay, so i have been dating this girl for a few months and im convinced that i love her even though im still kinda young. I told her and she said that shes not ready to admit that she loves me yet because its a big deal, she did say that she likes ...
A. 10 August 2010: Give her time! You guys are very young! Consider yourself lucky you found a girl with her head screwed on straight who isn't willing to just say it to appease you! :)... (read in full...)
He wants us to get a place together but I'm not so sure...
Q. hey im 18 and iv been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years. we started seeing each other in high school and tbh he wasnt my type of guy. i dont no whether i have trust problems or whether its him :/ the thing is i worry a lot but he texts girls ...
A. 10 August 2010: i wonder why he wouldn't add you? maybe friend a few of his other friedns to make it look more legit?? although, if he's deleting texts.. then you already know what he's up to. i dont think you can trust him... ... (read in full...)
Can we be friends or do I have to choose?
Q. Ive been best friends with 2 girls, who are also best friends with each other( girl a and b)for a few years. I got intimate with girl A, long story short it didn't work out, i feel like we left off on a good note and are still ok friends even though ...
A. 10 August 2010: Well I think you're gonna have to give up your friendship with A for your GF.. But your GF shouldn't be upset at your friendship with B. After you get out of high school, you don't really have an excuse for having girl drama liek this anymore, ya ... (read in full...)
I want her, she wants me, her best friend wants me, but I don't want her, So confused! please help!
Q. Four years ago I met this girl. I was in grade 8 when I met her and she was in grade 10. She told me she thought I was cute, so like any young boy, I got excited and went crazy. I started asking her if she liked me and telling her how much I liked ...
A. 10 August 2010: Be patient! Eventually, Girl B will come around and realzie you are perfect for each other! ... (read in full...)
We're on a break and I need to stop feeling so attached
Q. My boyfriend says i am getting too emotionally attached. For our first five months everything was great, and we hung out like every day. Finally he realized he's just graduated and needs to get his self in line, get a job, and start school up so ...
A. 10 August 2010: Focus some of your energy on other things.. Hang out with friends, do things that DON"T remind you of him. Get some space for yourself and after a month (which is hard, I know) you'll know whether it's him your in love with or the idea of him. You ... (read in full...)
He wants us to get a place together but I'm not so sure...
Q. hey im 18 and iv been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years. we started seeing each other in high school and tbh he wasnt my type of guy. i dont no whether i have trust problems or whether its him :/ the thing is i worry a lot but he texts girls ...
A. 10 August 2010: Okay, this is really sneaky but at least you'll have your answer. Make a fake myspace or facebook. Use a pic of a girl he would be attracted to and make them have some similar interests.. then friend him. Say your new to the area or whatever.. and ... (read in full...)
Confused by my guy's behavior
Q. Hi! I met a guy about 2 months ago. The very first week, we got really close. We talked about being together long term, we said I love you, (he was the one who said it first) and he was very sweet and always saying how much he liked me. I will admit ...
A. 10 August 2010: Practice some patience! He told you he was freaked out by the quickness.. so let him come back to that on his own. 2 months is still fast to be saying I love you. So if you really feel he is worth it long term.. then you have to let him be the man. ... (read in full...)
Can we be friends or do I have to choose?
Q. Ive been best friends with 2 girls, who are also best friends with each other( girl a and b)for a few years. I got intimate with girl A, long story short it didn't work out, i feel like we left off on a good note and are still ok friends even though ...
A. 10 August 2010: Is Girl B your current GF? Your question is confusing.. ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but have a crush on a friend!
Q. Help, I love my husband but have a huge crush on one of my friends. I am tempted to cheat only because my husband cheated on me, but Im not going to act upon those feelings I dont wanna stoop that low; the problem is everytime I kiss my husband I am ...
A. 10 August 2010: I thought I could get away with cheating because my boyfriend slept with one of my friends.. but when he caught me text messaging my ex.. he kicked me out of our house. Seems unfair, right? So, don;t cheat.. cause he'll blow it out of proportion. ... (read in full...)
Did he just pretend for 3 years that he loved me?
Q. id been with my bf for 3 yrs and he showed me affection.love and cares,, also to my family...can you tell me if a man can just pretend for 3 yrs that he really love me? his breaking up with me on the phone because i add some of his realativ...
A. 10 August 2010: Being friends with his family on facebook seems like a lame excuse.. That can't be the real reason he broke up with you. If you never had a fight, then it is possible that he fell out of love. Sorry. ... (read in full...)
We moved too fast and now he just wants to be friends, will anything come of this relationship now?
Q. I was dating a guy and we hit it off and we really emotionally connected but defianetly moved too fast. The end result was that he freaked himself out by moving so fast and said that he wants to be friends and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. ...
A. 10 August 2010: Be careful!! This exact same thing happened to me! When Andrew told me he wanted to just be friends, I said "fine" and played it cool. Whenever he had a problem, I would help him with whatever.. even if it was just telling him a silly joke to cheer ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like she might be interested in me?
Q. so a couple of weeks ago I met this girl. I have an account on one of these LGBT community sites and occaisonally I get random messages from lesbians or bi girls who mainly live in the same region coincidentally lol and we like talk once or twice ...
A. 10 August 2010: Yes! It def sounds like she is! Maybe she doesn't even realize it.. but it sounds like you have a great, solid foundation for a really healthy, loving relationship! Chances are she is feeling the exact same way you are- and is probably also scared ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and a rash?
Q. Is It normal to break out into a rash while pregnant?...
A. 10 August 2010: Where is your rash? I never broke out when I was pregnant. My skin actually cleared up a lot. I did feel hot and sweaty a little bit sometimes... but I never had a reaction on my skin. ... (read in full...)
After two years he still didn't want to meet my family so I broke up with him
Q. Dear Cupid, I am having a problem. I have broken up over 2 months now. The first month I was a wreck as I was the one to keep calling him and try to make him see I am actually worth keeping. As I realize that I no longer mean anything much to...
A. 10 August 2010: Girl, it sounds like he wants a bare minimum relartionship.. Are you the one putting in all the work and effort? Does he have a legitimate reason for not wanting to meet your family? That is a HUGE sign that you're relationship will continue to go ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a condom splits?
Q. I feel a bit embarrassed asking for advice but here goes, I have been seeing this girl for a few months and we both want to sleep together, she has had a lot of boyfriends where I have only slept with a girl once when I was drunk and cant really ...
A. 10 August 2010: Yeah, you can definitely tell. She should be able to feel that there's is less friction, as should you. To avoid this, I suggest not using brands that fit too snugly. ... (read in full...)
I'm hurting him but he won't let me go
Q. my best friend (a guy, im a girl) is on love with me and i dont feel anything back. its not just him i dont feel anything towards anybody or anything. i just dont care, im so apathetic. its horrible to see what pain i am causing him but he has said ...
A. 9 August 2010: If he's your best friend then doesn't he know how you don't feel much for anything or anybody? He should see how you are/ have been with other relationships and realize it's not personal. ... (read in full...)
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