Is there anything that I could/should do to convince him that it may work between us the second time around?

A female age 30-35, *hanelcarlyne writes:

I met a guy in college about 6 months ago. I was getting over trust issues and knew I wanted to take my next relationship REALLY slow and not rush ANYTHING. He knew my issues and I knew his. His issue was that he has been taken advantage of, was not appreciated, and he gave too many 2nd chances that should have never been given. After a few months of dating, I began to see that he was a true gentleman and that he was genuinely interested in a serious relationship with me. He was always supportive, encouraging, and very affectionate among other qualities. Anyone would say he was perfect, but I was a realistic and knew that nobody is perfect. I wasn't trying to play hard to get, but I wanted time to pass so we could both see how we would interact with each other after the hormones dried out. He had always said that he was "patient" and had "all the time in the world" to give me to be ready and that we would take it slow. It started out that way, but then began to speed up to the point where I saw that we would be married in a year or two if I didn't slow things down. Months of me slowing things down, I guess got to him and we broke up our romance. It was a very emotional decision for the both of us. I miss him and want him to give us another chance to try and build something beautiful. He says he felt sometimes that I wasn't interested in anything with him. That wasn't the case. I didn't want us to say or do anything through our hormones. I want to try again, but he says he was hurt and "used up all his 2nd chances on the wrong girl" and has no more chances to give. He says he hates himself for that. How can I convince him to give us another chance?

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