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writes:I'm not sure what to do about my ex.We broke up nearly two months ago after four and a half months together because I was leaving university and she wanted to adjust to life at the town where we study without me. She is in her first year and this is my last. Since the break up, she has made it clear that she wants us to remain friends. I'm willing to do that and want to do that, but at the moment I'm just trying to give myself some space from her. I still have feelings for her which is natural. I know we can be friends eventually, I just need more time to heal.Anyway, since then anytime we have been in contact it has been because she initiated it. I've been advised by people not to contact her until I am fully healed. I am tempted to contact her sometimes, just so that she isn't the only one making an effort. Eventually she'll get bored and may not want to contact me any more, that's what I worry about the most. But the past couple of days have been strange... And please forgive me, this next part of the question is going to include a lot of details that probably aren't important, I'm just trying to give all the details.Yesterday was pretty normal. She contacted me just to ask how I was doing, I said I was fine and asked the same. All casual stuff. She then asked if I would still be around in May, and I said that I was and asked why she was enquiring. She said that it was so that she could see me. I said of course she would and that I wanted to see her too. And that was that, she didn't text back.Then today she was very strange. While we were together we had a little in-joke around how my eastern-European housemate says the word "Really", and she text me just to say that her mum had just said it in the same way. That seems so random, I honestly didn't know how to respond! Whether to just laugh or try to be invested. So I went with the latter and asked how her mum was, and she messaged back saying "Goooood (yesterday was Thursday)". I was like, what does that mean? She said "Friday! Rebecca Black!" as if that was suppose to clear everything up. I asked her "What are you talking about?? :P" and she goes "What the fuck?! Have you not heard of Rebecca Black?!". That still didn't tell me much, so I said "No... should I have? Explain! Use sentences! Lol"... I got nothing back! So I just sent one more text saying "You're weird" and left it at that.Now I know a lot of that is just detail, but what the hell is she doing? Is she just trying to be friendly? This seems like such a stupid reason to contact me, and then to be so vague in her messages as if I'm supposed to know exactly what she's talking about, it just sounds crazy to me. What do you think? Is she just being friendly? Is she contacting me because she's missing me and doesn't want to lose touch?I'm probably an idiot for thinking so much in to such stupid messages and wanting to analyse them, but some outside perspective would be brilliant, and maybe some advice about what action to take now or in the future! Thank you for your time!
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reader, theaboo  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Why didn't you just google Rebecca Black? That would've cleared that up for you instantly, she was just making a joke. Rebecca Black has a really annoying song called "Friday".. It sounds like she was trying to relive and inside joke with you about your roommates manner of speaking, but you aren't taking her bait. It sounds like you're inadvertantly palying hard to get and making her crazy..
It also sounds like she is trying to maintain an open line with you. She wants to break up, but isn't committed to losing you, ie: eat her cake and have it too... Have you without having to be committed to you.
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