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female
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30-35,
*weetSmoochy
writes:My guy and I have been together for 6 months, and generally I'm very happy with him. Without giving the full story of how we've bonded, I'll give a little background by stating that we are friends as well as partners, we have a lot of fun together, and we're attracted to each other. The issue I've been having lately is that he's not as affectionate. I'm a very physical person, but I'm not pushing for sex. We both agree that there are just too many risks right now. What I'm pushing for is physical affection. I love to cuddle, I love to smooch, I love physical contact. And I'm not getting enough. He's definitely not as much of a physical person as I am in the sexual department. I understand that, but lately it's been feeling like even non-sexual physical stuff like snuggling isn't something he wants. I don't get it. I mean I understand that he is an 18 year old guy, and not wanting to be attached to me 100% of the time is normal, but hell. Maybe he's ok with just knowing that I'm his and seeing me and such, but I needs me some affection. I've tried to talk to him and tell him how I feel. Now, much as it pains me, I'm going to give him space. Maybe he doesn't want to meet between classes as much. I really don't like feeling unwanted in this way and it upsets me. I really don't think that he wants to break up, but if giving him space doesn't work, I'll talk to him about whether that is what he wants or not. Right now I'm just upset. Can anyone think of anything else I can do? If your advice is for us to break up, I respect your opinion, but please say it nicely because this guy means the world to me. I really want to avoid that and fix this instead. Reply to this Question
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reader, theaboo +, writes (28 November 2011):
 The minute you find yuorself something else to focus on, he'll come around. That's the way guys work, even the nice ones. They ALL love the chase. He just needs to feel like he's got to work for it a little bit. I'm not saying be mean or curt or short with him, but just don't always be available. Let a few hours pass before you answer his texts. Make plans that don't involve him with your girlfriends or family. Get your mind off him and I promise, you'll be all he can think about. I know that's not what you want to hear and right now, you just want to feel close to him but it sounds like he just needs to miss you a little.
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