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writes:[OP original title]I need help? Ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and love him to bits im 19 and hes 3 years older then me. When i first started seeing him there were rumours about him and his ex girlfriend having a child together. I asked him upfront about this and he promised me that it was not true. The girl in question had just had a child at that time but u might say she had an history around the town. So we carried on as normal until about a year and half into our relationship when his ex made contact claiming that the baby was his. So my boyfriend took the paterntiy test and it turned out to be his child after all. Ever since then he has stepped up to the mark and been a brillant father to the little boy. At first i started going out with him and his son and it was going really well, until his ex started having a problem with me seeing the child. Ever since then the little boy has never been the same with me. So a few months ago i decided to stop seeing him until he gets a little bit older so he can understand what is really going on. The only problem is since not seeing the child ive realised that i dont think i can bring myself to see him again and i dont think i can ever except him being part of my boyfriends life. I would never make him chose between me and his son because i know that his son is number 1 in his life. I dont know what to do? I love my boyfriend so much??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): If you love your boyfriend you will be a part of his and his sons lives.
This child is HIS.
Really, al you have to do is suck it up, put on a smile, and be as nice and fun as possible to the little boy.
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reader, theaboo  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Your boyfriedn should have stood up to his baby's mom and said "This is my new girlfriend, and she WILL be a part of my life as well as my son's"... Just becasue she's the mom DOES NOT mean she gets to determine who the baby's dad is allowed to bring around. Find a guy who's not willing to let his ex push him around.. she's just manipulating him to keep you guys apart.. and he is letting her!
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