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writes: Dear Cupid,I am having a problem. I have broken up over 2 months now. The first month I was a wreck as I was the one to keep calling him and try to make him see I am actually worth keeping. As I realize that I no longer mean anything much to him, I stopped cold.The thing is, after a month of doing a good job of avoiding him, I now find myself calling him again. I really want to get over him. I know that he is still single and apparently he too been keeping himself busy all the time like I do. Even once, he said that he went to a movie by himself. He also said he is not searching for anyone.It will be great if all that is true. A big part of me does believe it as I know he had always been honest with me. But I don't want to believe it cuz it hurts so much.The reason I broke up with him is that our relationship had not been moving forward for a long time (2 years). I am not asking him to marry me by end of the year. Or even a proposal. I just need to know if he really want me as part of his life now and in future. FYI, he doesn't want to get to know my family or even my sister.I am heart broken again. I am very tempted to call him again later, but I have this feeling that I will get even more heart broken.Honestly, I don't even know what my question is. I simply want to share and hope someone will give me their opinion. I am kinda confused too actually (not sure what I am confusing about).Thanks..
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reader, theaboo  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Girl, it sounds like he wants a bare minimum relartionship.. Are you the one putting in all the work and effort? Does he have a legitimate reason for not wanting to meet your family? That is a HUGE sign that you're relationship will continue to go no where. The first three months are impossible and filling your time with other stuff only makes it bareable.. After 5 years, my ex kicked me out of our house because he wasn't ready to get engaged or keep moving forward.. You'll end up in that spot too if you keep feeding into his game. I know you don't wanna hear this, but it will hurt a lot worse in the long run if you don't just cut him out of your life now. If he can't live wothout you and is willing to meet your family and compromise on your needs/ wants.. then he will show you that. But you need to put the ball in his court and walk away.. If you need to call him one more time to tell him you're done with the games, then let that be your last call to him.. I can almost garuntee though that if you're the one to end it.. it will drive him crazy and he'll styart callign you again in no time. But if he doesn't ever compromise and meet your family, do you really want him back?
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