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*ankeefan13
writes:Ive been best friends with 2 girls, who are also best friends with each other( girl a and b)for a few years. I got intimate with girl A, long story short it didn't work out, i feel like we left off on a good note and are still ok friends even though we dont hang out anymore. (I only see them at fuctions now, parties, birthday etc.) The main reason is because my girlfriend now, she wants me to shut this girl out of my life completely because shes uncomfortable with me being friends with an ex, which i can understand, but not the problem. Problem is Im still great friends with girl B, so if i ignore girl A, then girl B will resent me. Its also hard because some of my other male friends are friends with A and B. So girl A will be at parties, BBQ's etc. I know people say when a girl asks you to choose between her and your friends, its time to let her go, because shes a control freak. But i can understand her point here, because of my history with girl A.But for example if I throw a party i cant invite Girl B and all of our other neutral friends and just not invite Girl A, that seems harsh.I feel like my girlfriend believes that girl A still has feelings for me, or vice versa, But that is honestly not true at all. Please Help, this seems to be the only speed bump in our otherwise excellent relationship.Is there some sort of compromise here? How do I make my girlfriend happy without losing friends?
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reader, theaboo +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Well I think you're gonna have to give up your friendship with A for your GF.. But your GF shouldn't be upset at your friendship with B. After you get out of high school, you don't really have an excuse for having girl drama liek this anymore, ya know? Like "No you can't be friends with her or any of her slut friends!" That's what I imagine your GF saying.. So, if you don't think you're gonna marry your GF then A & B will wait around to have their buddy back. My best friends is a guy and his GF hateddddd me... just had to wait til they broke up (which took two years) but now we're right back to being best friends. Just trust that your girls A & B will hold it down for you liek they always have and they'll be there for you when your GF isn't around anymore. :)
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reader, yankeefan13 +, writes (10 August 2010):
yankeefan13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNoo, girl A and B are best friends, I was good friends with both of them... I guess my girlfriend would be girl C
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reader, theaboo +, writes (10 August 2010):
Is Girl B your current GF? Your question is confusing..
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