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writes:Dear Cupid,I have a boyfriend that is a crack cocaine binger. I am very naive about what goes on when my boyfriend is in this lifestyle. I heard that every time a man smokes this drug that they are promiscuous and can not be alone. My boyfriend told me that when he went on his binge that he was alone and did not cheat on me. I am not sure this is possible. Is this possible? Please help.
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reader, Manipulated1 +, writes (25 May 2012):
My boyfriend tells me the same thing. I know he can't get an errection while he is using, but after his use he doesn't seem to have a problem. I don't know what to think... say... do... or anything anymore. All I know is I don't use drugs and I have crack cocaine in my life every damn day. Its taking over my life and I'm not the user. I'm pissed and hurt... stressed out lose sleep and he's just like tra la la la.... I just think its complete BS that I feel worse about his habit than he does. How can someone be so irresponsible and careless? I'm just about done trying to understand this. We never will because we aren't addicts. They are. I'm tired of knowing he's lying and lying about lying. Really? If you can't trust someone... is there really a reason to stay? We know that we should leave them. But we don't and that I'm sorry to say is our habit... them.. the hurt I'm sooo sorry bullshit boyfriend. I hate Crack and all its forms. Its the DEVIL!!
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reader, bluegriffin +, writes (20 May 2011):
first of all you SHOULD be worried. If he has cheated on you or not and whether or not he used protection! he could give you hiv and that could kill you. i just dumped my boyfriend because I found out he was smoking crack when he told me he had quit. i am very nervous he may have had unprotected sex with unclean women. its extremely likely he cheated. when my ex was clean he told me stories about his drug days. he said he couldn't fall asleep without getting one off after using crack. i really don't know if thats true for every crack user but its something to consider. hope you got away
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reader, dirtball +, writes (11 August 2010):
 It is possible, but the bigger problem is the fact that he is going on crack binges. I have watched friends go down that road, and it is ugly. One friend came home to find her fiance sucking his dealer's dick for more coke. That drug is serious bad news. If you stay with him, expect him to steal, and lie, and not quit. He needs help, but he has to want to change, deep down in order for help to do him any good.
There is the term "crack whore" for a reason. Often though, the promiscuousness comes when they run out of money, and will do anything (and I mean anything) for another fix.
Want something to open your eyes. Do a google search for "Crackheads gone wild." It's a street documentary about this drug. One of the scenes that will always stick in my head is him interviewing two people, a man and a woman. He's asking them what the craziest thing they've ever seen someone do for crack. He's asking them this while she's performing oral sex and then sex for a hit from the guy. "Oh this, this is just, you know."
I hope you can find him help. If he doesn't want it, then run.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I don't think it's wise to trust or be with someone who frequently does crack cocaine. I don't think cheating should be the biggest concern. The illegal highly addictive mood altering drugs should probably be your top concern.
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reader, theaboo +, writes (11 August 2010):
 No, it's not possible! I mean, it's possible that he didn't cheat on you.. but it is NOT possible that he is not lying. Drug addicts do whatever they have to: lie, cheat, steal, manipulate, scam, burn bridges, hurt people... the only thing they are in love with is their drug habit. Whether he actually cheated on you with a woman is not the point.. he cheats on your with crack cocaine. He puts that first.. not your relationship, not even his own health. Is that the kind of guy you want to be with?
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