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writes:my best friend (a guy, im a girl) is on love with me and i dont feel anything back. its not just him i dont feel anything towards anybody or anything. i just dont care, im so apathetic. its horrible to see what pain i am causing him but he has said he doesnt want me to go away so he can have a chance at getting on with his life. i dont know what to do. im hurting him but he wont let me go.
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reader, T-Marie +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Hey,
Have you tried speaking to him to explain that the feelings he has for you are not mutual?
If you have, and that hasn't helped you just need to somewhat distance yourself a little emotionally. Take into considerations things you may say or do which he could take as more than they are, such as hugging him etc. to you this would be a friendly gesture but to someone in love or infactuated there is a chance they will read into it a little too much.
As for you saying you are apathetic and feel nothing towards anyone or anything, the only thing i can suggest is that you need to take a little time for yourself, try and find something or think of a time that you thoroughly enjoyed or which made you feel fantastic. If you struggle to do this I honestly think you could do with discussing this a little further with your doctor, as such feelings can be an early or mild indicator of some forms of depression.
I hope this helps xxxx T
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reader, theaboo  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 If he's your best friend then doesn't he know how you don't feel much for anything or anybody? He should see how you are/ have been with other relationships and realize it's not personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): Oh Boo woo! you know you dont like him,yet subconsciously i think you enjoy the attention from him and are flattered by his feeling for you, if you were a real friend do yourself and him a favor and let the poor guy know you have no interests in him. As a guy i know he aint gonna be happy if you tell him now but if you dont and lead him on (even if you dont think you are- HE DOES) and then get into a relationship with someone else later on he will eventually end up hating you and you will end up losing a friend.
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