Past has made me insecure and I need help to overcome this.
Q. Someone please tell me how to overcome my insecurity issues! This is so stupid! Most of the guys I dated in the past left me without as much as a phone call. Usually they'd stop calling or not make further plans to go out. Therefore I soon...
A. 4 March 2010: being able to talk about it is one way of healing from it. find a way to bring it up in a humble way... he will love you for it. trust me... this is how lovers become best of friends... and best friends become lovers. :)... (read in full...)
"Fake" friend hitting on girlfriend - what should I do so she doesn't speak to him?
Q. im an 18 year old male. i have a girlfriend and my friend is so messed up and says stuff to her behind my back. he asks her to send him sexual pictures. he asks her for kisses to cheer him up. and to bite her ass and stuff. the thing is i promised ...
A. 31 January 2010: i hate to mess up your head but here's my take on your issue: if i knew my bestfriend was still in love with a guy and he was he was hitting on me, i would avoid him and cut all contact with him. so take it from there.... (read in full...)
He flipped out when I answered his phone. Is his anger justified?
Q. Tonight, I was playing a game on my boyfriend's cell phone. A private number called, so I handed him the phone. He pressed the ignore button, which ended the call. I went back to my game, and the private number called back about a minute later. I ...
A. 31 January 2010: he is definitely hiding something, but i can't tell for sure if he is cheating. most guys who cheat wont allow you anywhere near their phones. trust me, if he is cheating he most likely would have put his phone far away from your reach. but yeah, ... (read in full...)
24th girl shot me down in a row, please help me!
Q. this question is for the woman reading. I dont know whats wrong with me im a nice guy, very patient, understanding, and good listener. but all the girls i hang out with awile then become good friends with them, i ask some of them out, but i always ...
A. 31 January 2010: maybe it's time you take interest in what is in your own backyard. you'd probably be more comfortable there and someone in that circle might actually like you. if they don't, i'm sure they'll tell you the real reason why.... (read in full...)
I quickly ruled him out, but now am wondering if I was too harsh
Q. There is this guy that is interested in me, however I have ruled him out on after two dates, an informal meeting, and two chats online. He gave me a pretty tough first impression to get over as he didn't seem like he cared about others feelings or ...
A. 31 January 2010: first impressions are usually right. i know many won't believe this but when it comes to bad behavior, there are no excuses and a first impression is more than enough to say enough! you are young so don't be too in a hurry to find mr. right. mr. r... (read in full...)
I got my sis to speak to my wife about sending money to another man. Now she says I can thank my sis for her dirvorcing me.
Q. Hi everyone...im in alot of confusion and disbelief... ok so on monday the 26th my wife used my credit card to send money to some guy names Ivan...so i texted my 2 of my sisters and asked them to ask her what was going on cause i tried texting ...
A. 31 January 2010: hey, like you said, everything just happened today. all of you are just upset and talking non-sense. like you said, all you guys need is time to cool off. so cool off. she will call you when she is ready. believe me all that talk about divor... (read in full...)
Should I take police advise and sue my ex?
Q. I have an awful ex - he abused me emotionally and sexually for years (physically only right at the end, when I was finally getting out). I'm wondering if revenge is worth it at all? I could either do nothing and continue working through my issues, ...
A. 31 January 2010: i don't think you should press charges just yet. i think what would be best is to file a report to keep him from doing it again. i'm under the impression you are not completely over this person and somehow, there is still a hurt there that ... (read in full...)
I'm worries because I repeated something my ex g/f told me in strictest confidence.
Q. Ok i broke up with my girlfreind and i really took it bad, she had revealed lots of intimate secrets to me(about sexual abuse in the past) i promised her i would not tell a soul. During the break up I became a real mess. I had to speak to somone and ...
A. 31 January 2010: i want to be very honest with you, what you did was a terrible thing and it may be difficult to find a way out of it. the only step i think you can take right now is to tell her what you told the other person. believe me, if you don't, in time, ... (read in full...)
She said if we broke up she would probably kill herself!
Q. I would like to be objective, but I realize being in the relationship makes it impossible. That said here it goes... I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3.5 years. Were both 23. It has been pretty good save a few big blowups ...
A. 27 January 2010: to be honest, this sounds conspicuous. from your narration, it looks like, it's all her fault. maybe you should ask yourself these question:
are you being completely open with her or are you indifferent? have you been completely honest with her... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 9 years has been cheating on me with another woman for more than 2 years. WHY, do you think?
Q. Hi, If you've ever cheated on your partner, then I need your advice. I found out a week ago that my boyfriend of nine years has been cheating on me with another woman for more than 2 years. Other than feeling like I've been hit by a bus...
A. 27 January 2010: quarter life crisis... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my best friend will start avoiding me so he is liked more by other people!
Q. My best friend (I'll call him J) likes this girl even though she's turned him down (kinda harshly). She thinks he likes me cause we hang out a lot. Rumors are everywhere and people come up to us asking us about them and it's just getting really ...
A. 25 January 2010: i think that girl bad mouthed you not because she liked him but more because you have become the object of her envy. obviously people won't start talking about you if you weren't worth talking about. i really don't think you should worry, th... (read in full...)
Advice on what to do after an intense breakup
Q. Hi everyone, I've been dating someone for a year now that i wanted to spend my life with. I wouldnt classify our relationship as perfect, but we loved each other intensely and we're really like best friends, doing almost everything toget...
A. 25 January 2010: sometimes the best thing to do in situations like this is to stand still and let nature take it's course.
with the way she is going she is bound to get herself hurt. but again if you think about it, if you genuinely love this person, i guess it... (read in full...)
She's four months pregnant and I'm not the father...should I break up with her before things get any farther, or just support her?
Q. I'm a senior in high school, and recently started seeing this amazing girl, who's my age. She seems perfect for me-smart, funny, and really sweet. We get along great. The only problem is that's she's about four months pregnant. The father is her ...
A. 24 January 2010: i really hope when you say you are "seeing" this person,you are just really seeing her and nothing more.
to be honest i don't believe you are "adult" enough to be deciding on this. getting yourself involved with a pregnant woman who has not told... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 7 years broke up with me 8 months ago but we still live together. Please, please heip me.
Q. Il keep this short, my bf of 7 yrs broke up with me 8 months ago, I was heartbroken.. He said he didn't think it cud work he wasn't in love with me anymore and wanted to do his own thing.. He is 5 yrs younger than me and we always and still do get ...
A. 24 January 2010: he may or may not love you. but you will never know until you break all ties affecting your relationship. sell the house.... (read in full...)
New thing, or one time fling?
Q. I met a girl for a drink, in a non date setting. we hadn't known each other before hand. I ended up going to her place and we kissed and cuddled. she was about to move out of the country, and we both knew it, but I really liked her so wanted to be ...
A. 24 January 2010: you are sweet... but you have to look at this discerningly.
LTRs are great but LDRs are quite a different story. i have been there and it can get difficult.
first getting into a relationship with someone living so far away takes a whole lo... (read in full...)
How do I read his signals?
Q. There is this guy and he -stares at me and smiles (my friends tell me when i don't see, so it not like i am just a stupid teen thinking he is) -when i am around him, he fixes his hair and bites his lip. -i don't talk to him. He is shy and so am...
A. 24 January 2010: say "hi" and everything will follow. ... don't forget to smile while you're at it.... (read in full...)
How do I set boundaries with my married boss and work to keep them? We have already kissed...
Q. I need help....I let something happen with my boss when one night we were out after a long day out of town we were sitting in the bar having drinks and one thing lead to another. I really thought something weird was going on but thought it was just ...
A. 24 January 2010: get a new job. trust me, this will get ugly.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to commit but there "could be" a future?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for around 4 months now, i really like him and everything and he says he likes me too but doesnt want to commit to anything, so at first i was a little gutted but then i was cool with that, so we kinda slowed things down ...
A. 24 January 2010: four months is not too early to commit. there are no rules as to when you should commit. it clearly depends on how deep your relationship is. if you are absolutely sure you've reached that point and he hasn't come around, then he has commitment ... (read in full...)
Why the double standard with him?
Q. Ok the other day my bf and I were checking some sites on my pc. He jokingly wanted to see my web history. I refused but he said if I had nothing to hide then why fret? So I let him see it. He also checked my files. Of course he found nothing. Today ...
A. 24 January 2010: ahhh this is ugly.
if you ask him, he will surely deny it. there is also no point in looking through his stuff because whether you see something there or not, it will only make you feel terrible about yourself.
the question here should actu... (read in full...)
Is it normal to stay in a relationship if the constant arguing makes you feel awful?
Q. I recently got out of a long term relationship because I was so fed up with how are arguments were destroying me on the inside. The resson I felt like I wanted to get out of this relationship, was because sometimes he would make me feel like shi...
A. 24 January 2010: it's hard to tell when all we are hearing is your side of the story. remember, arguing is something that both of you contribute to. it wouldn't turn into an argument if you yourself didn't participate in it. people say really bad things when they ... (read in full...)
How can my ex's rebound last when he's already cheated?
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend got into a "rebound" 1 month later after we broke up maybe even before then. So two months into his new relationship we became friends and he just made out with me. So hes already cheated on this new girl only 2 months in, do ...
A. 24 January 2010: why do you want to know? to begin with you shouldn't be making out with someone else's boyfriend. obviously you are not over him and you need reassurance that your not wasting your time trying to win him back. to be honest, i don't think he l... (read in full...)
LDR: where do we go from here?
Q. Just met with a woman for the second time in two months. She's from Russia, I live in Hungary. She has a 9 year old boy, she is 27 and I have a 6 year old girl, I am 40. I like her a lot. We have made love, slept in the same bed. We hold hands to...
A. 24 January 2010: oh if you really like this girl.. don't play games. tell her how you feel and be ready for whatever she decides on. it's the only mature way to make things work in a relationship.... (read in full...)
I think he only likes me is in a sexual way...how do I get out of all this mess?
Q. I've got myself into a really stupid situation, i thought i might like one of my guy friends but decided it was nothing, just one of those random thoughts i get, then the next day he told me he was stuck between me and one of my friends, so i just ...
A. 24 January 2010: you are obviously very young. boys your age are usually more aggressive. Not like they are most likely to change in the next couple of years, but at least they become more "sleek" in inventing ways to get close to you and your "lady parts" as they ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt this lovely girl who is crazy about me...but I cant forget my ex...what should I do?
Q. a few years ago i broke up with the love of my life, and meet a lovely girl within weeks. i chased my ex for over a year and finally we got back together. during this time i was seriusly ill and told my ex to leave me cause she was too young to deal ...
A. 24 January 2010: I think you are cruel. In the first place you have no place being in a relationship, be it with your x or with this "lovely girl." If you really loved your x, you wouldn't have found yourself in this situation. If you really cared about this ... (read in full...)
I date on the internet and now I am in a love square!
Q. I date on the internet and im currently in a love square!My boyfriend is *J* and the 2 other guys are *M* and *N*. *N* is an ex who i thought cheated but didnt hes funny and cute and we get along, *M* is a boy who just decided to love me out of the ...
A. 24 January 2010: M is a sick liar. He is obviously taking advantage of your naivete. Get him out of your list immediately. He will break your heart eventually.... (read in full...)
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