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female
age
26-29,
*roblemmaganet
writes:My best friend (I'll call him J) likes this girl even though she's turned him down (kinda harshly). She thinks he likes me cause we hang out a lot. Rumors are everywhere and people come up to us asking us about them and it's just getting really annoying. I am putting up with it better than J is, but we just can't seem to get it to stop. So today, while I was at basketball practice, J was there the whole time watching, when this girl who helps spread the rumors comes in and they talk for a long time. When I ask him about it later, that she said that the reason why people didn't like him was because he hangs out with me. He told me that he likes me better than those other people so he's still gonna hang out with me, but I'm afraid that he's gonna start avoiding me to get a little more well liked. If he's happy, I don't want to get in his way, but if he does start avoiding me I know I'll feel really hurt. And he knows that I like him so I can't think of a way to talk to him without making it sound like I want him to myself. What should I say to him? I don't know what he feels like about me, so I don't wanna look like an idiot, but I also don't want to lose him. Thanks for reading this and any help greatly appreciated! Thanks
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reader, sick  +, writes (25 January 2010):
i think that girl bad mouthed you not because she liked him but more because you have become the object of her envy. obviously people won't start talking about you if you weren't worth talking about. i really don't think you should worry, though, it seems to me he is a good, loyal friend. but if he does not turn out to be so, i'm sure there are heaps of other guys out there eager to take his place.p.s. if you're really that close, you can tell him anything
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