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*urious0hot
writes:Tonight, I was playing a game on my boyfriend's cell phone. A private number called, so I handed him the phone. He pressed the ignore button, which ended the call. I went back to my game, and the private number called back about a minute later. I pressed the talk button, and said "Hello". A woman's voice said "Um, who is this?". Before I could reply, my boyfriend snatched the phone out of my hand. He hung up the phone, and proceeded to flip out on me. In more colorful language, he basically said: (1) don't answer his phone, (2) he doesn't answer private numbers, (3) it could have been a bill collector, (4) he has had his phone for 7 years, and (5) if someone isn't in his phone they shouldn't be calling him.Do you find his behavior strange?Was his anger justified and/or typical? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Sadly if you have only been with him for a month then my humble opinion is that he may or may not be on the same page as you are if you two are exclusive. sadly people like to play semantics with that.
So in this case if you are pursuing a relationship with him..
Follow the rule of three lies which I will post for you now. I try to live by this and it works for the most part.
When considering a relationship of any kind, practice the Rule of Threes regarding the claims and promises a person makes, and the responsibilities he or she has. One lie, one broken promise or a single neglected responsibiltiy may be a misunderstanding instead. Two may involve a serious mistake. But three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchipin of conscienceless behavior. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly. Do not give your money, your work, your secrets or your affection to a three-timer. Your valuable gifts will be wasted.
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reader, curious0hot +, writes (31 January 2010):
curious0hot is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the replies!Posting this question has been bittersweet.I'm glad to know people agree that I was not in the foul.But, it hurts to see your fears be reaffirmed.I will talk to him again, and consider all the factors before deciding whether to leave or stay. We have only been together for about a month. I don't want a foundation built on confusion and mistrust.
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reader, sick  +, writes (31 January 2010):
he is definitely hiding something, but i can't tell for sure if he is cheating. most guys who cheat wont allow you anywhere near their phones. trust me, if he is cheating he most likely would have put his phone far away from your reach. but yeah, he could be in trouble, and that's still not good for you.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 He's up to something. He got angry cos he's scared of being busted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): He definitely has something to hide...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 January 2010):
He's cheating on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): He is obviously cheating
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reader, camrcam2 +, writes (31 January 2010):
 well this isnt really a justified anger at all. me personaly along with alot of my friends dont care who calls us privite or not, or who uses our phones.I dont want to tell you to confront him saying stuff when you not completly sure because of this, but you should try to get the real facts. see if you can calmly ask him why your both confortable about why wouldnt he let you answer the phone. i dont have to much advice for this but that his actions where not normal. i hope this helped.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (31 January 2010):
Well if someone said "who is this" I would submit to you that he didn't want you to answer the phone. Instead of invading his privacy...looks like you invaded his secrecy.Trust your gut. where there is smoke there is fire.
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