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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Someone please tell me how to overcome my insecurity issues! This is so stupid!Most of the guys I dated in the past left me without as much as a phone call. Usually they'd stop calling or not make further plans to go out. Therefore I soon learned that if a guy stopped calling or if he didn't make further plans to see you, that was the end.I've got a BF now and we've been together for just over 6 months. He's really great, treats me well and always keeps his word.Many times we make further plans to see each other but sometimes we don't. He ends up calling the next day anyway and we make plans then. What bothers me is when we don't make further plans on the spot. I leave his place thinking that something's wrong and I get all paranoid and upset.I haven't told him about this because I think it's crazy. And there really is no need to have to make concrete plans each time.I just don't know how to stop being so insecure and paranoid? I really want to change!!!
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reader, micpets  +, writes (4 March 2010):
Best answer is, be honest, telling him exactly how you feel and how you come to have developed that experience. If he loves you enough he will understand hopefully by helping you deal with that situation while reassuring you. Try it and as time goes by you can only get better, hope that helps.
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reader, sick  +, writes (4 March 2010):
being able to talk about it is one way of healing from it. find a way to bring it up in a humble way... he will love you for it. trust me... this is how lovers become best of friends... and best friends become lovers. :)
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