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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I've got myself into a really stupid situation, i thought i might like one of my guy friends but decided it was nothing, just one of those random thoughts i get, then the next day he told me he was stuck between me and one of my friends, so i just came out and told him that i thought i might like him.We chatted for hours that night and he kept saying how nice i'd looked that day because we'd had a non uniform day, we arrange to meet after school tomorrow to talk and he said he is going to kiss me and I said I was fine with thatThe next day we talked again for hours and he asked if he could touch my boobs and bum when we met after school, I said yes thinking he was just joking about, but then he asked me to go back to his house after school to help him study, but any idiot would know that he wanted me to do a lot more than study. Now i've realised to only reason he started liking me in the first place is because i have big boobs and wore a low cut top to school, and the only reason he wants me is in a sexual way.I still like him as a friend but how do i get myself out of all this?
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reader, sick  +, writes (24 January 2010):
you are obviously very young. boys your age are usually more aggressive. Not like they are most likely to change in the next couple of years, but at least they become more "sleek" in inventing ways to get close to you and your "lady parts" as they grow older.
but you are obviously very smart and recognized this early. i have to admit, i am proud of you! congratulations, you are now a real lady!
truth of the matter is little boys are not as naive as we think they are. reject them once... or twice (or make an excuse to excuse yourself) and they get the picture. you don't really have to explain yourself. next thing you know, they're bugging the next chick.
when this happens, don't behave like a jealous chick and don't chase after him. trust me, he will never forget about you, and you will always be "that girl." instead, go ahead and do the things you regularly do around him. pretend nothing happened. in a day or to two you'll be back to being "friends."
for now it is better not to talk about it. no matter what you say, he will definitely feel rejected. talking about it might only make him bitter and resentful(this is were it all starts... turning potentially good boyfriends/husbands into monsters.. lol). don't worry, in time when your friendship flourishes, you will be able to talk about it. and maybe when that time comes, you never know, he might have developed genuine feelings for you. so don't waste it. this just might be the guy who will be right for you in the future. so be kind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Hey....its not that bad. You are girl. You get to change your mind. It's okay.
Next time he brings it up, laugh out loud and tell him, "You are kidding, right!?" And say that he is a great friend and you would not like to ruin the friendship for a grope :)
If he keeps calling you to his house to "help him study", you need to tell him that you think it was a mistake to consider turning a good friendship into a sex type thing and that you are not okay with the idea. give him a hug after that :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): Oh, god. That's a sticky situation. I know a guy a bit like your friend, and he seems to be obsessed with my 'lady parts'.
If I were you I'd just ask him straight out whether he just likes you in a sexual way, or thinks of you as more than that. You can't be too hard on him about this, it's not fair on you.
Good luck! :)
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