I found porn on my 53 year old dad's computer
Q. My dad is 53yrs old.. a very simple, sober and decent man who practices meditation daily. But today when I went on his laptop, there were loads of porn (hardcore) websites in his browsing history. Is it normal for a person like him to be looking ...
A. 22 March 2011: "Son, mind you own business" - that's going to be your dad's answer to your question.... (read in full...)
He texted his ex a happy birthday. WHY?
Q. I have a question : If you are with a man for 7plus years and find out he text his x girlfriend(mother of his 4 children) who he has no contact only ever other weeked to drop of and pick up kids with a Happy Birthday(and what ever else was said) at ...
A. 22 March 2011: Whats wrong with wishing the mother of your 4 children Happy Birthday? Now get serious.... (read in full...)
I don't think I can fulfill what my girlfriend wants from me!
Q. My girlfriend said that I am selfish and a heartless person, because I don’t think about her first. She began to list all things that caused her to be upset. 1. Week 1: Saturday to Friday - I go to work full time from 8 to 5pm and take one class o...
A. 22 March 2011: She doesn't have respect, that's the first thing, and she is not grateful. You have to dump her for goodness sake. she will not change, you have to leave that woman... i know its hard but imagine if you made pregnant a girl like that?... you don'... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 17 March 2011: Thanks for elaborating your story. From the tone of your message, you seem like a really nice lady who just got caught in the wrong place, which i believe is forgivable if you really go all the way to your knees to show how much you are sorry. don't ... (read in full...)
My family life is beyond miserable!
Q. Hi, so im 20 years old, and my family life is beyond miserable. at age 13 i learned my mom was cheating on my dad, so i told him thinking it was the best idea. It wasn't, instead he started to rape me and use me sexually as a way to get back at ...
A. 15 March 2011: My tear got teary after reading this, not only because you were raped by your own dad for being loyal to him.. but also for carrying this for years all by yourself.
Now here is my advise: GET OUT THAT HOUSE NOW!!! You have nothing to lose and ever... (read in full...)
He blew all his chances with me -- is it right to cut him out of my life?
Q. Okay ; ijust need to know if idid the right thing. Ibeen talking to " AR " for about a year now. it may be too early, but ifell for him HARD. IConsider him my first love. Right now, he's in newJersey and I'm in Florida. Well, a couple months a...
A. 15 March 2011: I am sorry but forget about that troll, he is not worth it at all. You deserve better... keep away from him even if he decides to come back! From waht you said.. he doesn't love you and doesnt have any respect for you... move on with your life. you ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 15 March 2011: What did you do, its hard to give objective advise without knowing what you did. You are not the internet, no one knows you! Until then you will be lost because no one can help what they don't know... goodluck however!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants us to stay in different rooms for a month!
Q. my girlfriend turned round to me as i was about to get into bed last night and said she wanted us to stay in different rooms and not have sex for a month so she can work herself out and that it wont be a problem if i love her. Someone tell me how i ...
A. 9 March 2011: Did you control her, cheat or abuse her in any way? No one can really know what exactly she is going on without that knowledge.
But one thing is certain, if you over react this will make your situation worse. Be a cool and agree to it. Ask poli... (read in full...)
They all warned me about my wife - but I'll feel guilty if I leave her
Q. First of all, let me start this by writing that I appreciate everyone's time you spent reading this and sharing my experiences. I will not bore everyone into every detail of my marriage; it won't encompass everything, and everything has two ...
A. 7 March 2011: I read your story. I will be honest with you, not to hurt you but in an attempt to open your eyes. You're too nice, and insecure and you have a low else esteem.... which explains why you are compromising your dignity for someone who makes you ... (read in full...)
I met a guy at a party and we've met up to have sex several times. Now he is ignoring me. What did I do wrong?
Q. I met a guy at a party 6 weeks ago, we chatted for ages and ended up sleeping together. We exchanged numbers and texted each other during the week. At the weekend I went out drinking with friends and ended up sending him a text to meet that night. ...
A. 6 March 2011: To me it looks like he enjoyed the sex and now he's gracefully moving on with his life... you're now yesterday to him. is there a lesson to learn? yes... Dont jump into sex before you get to know someone.... (read in full...)
Too wet during sex?
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life - I'm a pretty tight girl but i get extremely wet during sex to the point where my boyfriend complains that it doesn't feel as good! Does anyone know what I can do?...
A. 27 February 2011: I used to date one girl who used to get so wet during sex, i still think of that girl to this day. She used to soak my sheet with her cum and it amused me. Its a rare occurrence with many woman. You're fine, if anything.. you're a man's dream in ... (read in full...)
How should I tell this guy I love him, without him mocking my wheelchair situation?
Q. Okay, there is a boy who is 16 and is amazing. I'm 14 and for this current stage in my life, I am in a wheelchair. I’m not sure that if I should tell him that I really love him. Will he understand, or just laugh at the fact that I am in a ...
A. 27 February 2011: redbutterfly said it best, but i will add on. Love have to boundaries.. true love that is. If he is a well brought up person, he will not judge you because you are on a wheelchair, i wouldn't... he will treat you with respect. Dont expect him to ... (read in full...)
Can't forget about wife's past lovers
Q. Before my wife and I were married she was close friends with my sisters and I would occasionally meet her with her boyfriends or hear stories through my sisters. I personally met three of her ex-boyfriends. She also had a brief couple night stand ...
A. 27 February 2011: That sounds hard to swallow especially the ankles behind the ears... thats too graphic to brush off, but still i will be very honesty with you.
Why did you married her, if i may ask? because now all you can do is keep it moving and take it like ... (read in full...)
My perfect boyfriend is becoming too emotional for me?
Q. I've known this boy for 7 years, we will call him Joe. We made an extreme romantic connection 2 years ago, but both of our situations prevented us from being together. We were crazy about each other, and perfect for each other. But he was scared ...
A. 26 February 2011: Why dont you say i love you too when he says i love you? You seem to be a bit complicated.
Don't have too high expectations from man, they are humans not iron machines that can take anything. Man have emotions, the only difference is that som... (read in full...)
Husband texting his ex personal info on facebook, should I be worried?
Q. My husband and I will be married 15 years tomorrow. We have three beautiful children together and are expecting our fourth this summer. Today, he received a friend request from a girl he used to date in high school on Facebook. He once told me that ...
A. 26 February 2011: People down here have some good advice, try Lucy Lee's advice it sounds best, if its not good enough go for Abella. Tracking him down sounds like a good plan, dont let this go away without thorough investigation.. it might get serious between them, ... (read in full...)
Smoking, drinking, sex, parties, the wrong crowd, failing in my class ...My life is a nightmare. HELP!!
Q. My Life is on the border of disaster.! I'm a 15yr old sophomore and i need serious help. since my mom had her 2nd child, I've been getting away with a lot of stuff lately, sneaking out to go have sex, drinking at parties and smoking with guy...
A. 25 February 2011: First, its a great thing you know you are heading towards an oncoming train. You can change, but one thing i need to tell you, and please pay attention: Stay away from drugs at any cost, its counter productive to try to change with drugs in your ... (read in full...)
I don't want him in my baby's life, am I right for feeling this way?
Q. So I got this problem, I moved 4 months ago out of the country to study some courses. Before I left I had a guy (we weren't dating), we did sleep together. But just a week or 2 before I moved, he left on a trip for a month and I didn't hear from him ...
A. 24 February 2011: This is one time you'll have to learn to be selfless. I am sorry but you have to accept his financial help, its not about how you feel and how you justify why he is doing it. He is the father, and it mean a lot to the child to learn that his f... (read in full...)
How can I stretch my vagina?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been wanting to have sex. We've tried a a couple of times, but my vagina just was too small for his penis. How can I stretch my vagina a bit to enable him to enter?...
A. 21 February 2011: There are 2 possible situations;
1.you are too dry when he tries to enter you or 2. he is not aiming on the spot at a good angle. Try to use tonnes of lube and hold it whilst sitting on him and direct it inside you yourself. Goodluck
By the ... (read in full...)
I have a large labia. Is that unattractive?
Q. This is kind of embarrassing for me, but I am very self-concious about my vagina. I have a rather large labia and fear that men would find it unattractive. Though I've never had sex, I've been sexually involved with a couple of guys in other ways ...
A. 21 February 2011: im a guy and i dont mind at all, if you find a guy who has a problem with that, get rid of him quicker that a lightning. ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by different types of porn?
Q. Hey guys, basically i am concerned about my mental health as recently i have been thinking about all the porn i have viewed in my lifetime im 19 and started watching it when i was 13, basically i have gone through a variety of it some of which is ...
A. 18 February 2011: First off, the reason why porn stars act in those porn is because people actually enjoy it. Look at it this way... are people who like horror and gruesome movies horrible serial killers? of course no. its just thrilling to their senses right!, p... (read in full...)
Married 6 months and I regret it every day
Q. I am married for 6 months now and I feel very pathetic. I regret everyday to why I got married. There's so much emptiness in my relationship. I feel ignorant. My husband hardly discloses anything to me. He never shares any good/bad things that ...
A. 9 February 2011: hey, i find it hard to answer your question without more information.
How did you end up with him, how did you met him and how long have you known each other for before getting married? This will help you get objective answers.. add more info. Bt... (read in full...)
I kniow she is bad for me, but I am so attracted to her!
Q. Hi,so there is this woman,she is stunning,charming,with a great laugh,very smart.Problem is she has never had a long term relationship,just a strong of affairs,she has no loyalty,has a past involving porn and prostitution, etc.She is manipulative ...
A. 9 February 2011: Leave that girl my friend, dont let your emotions blind your decision making ability okay? Think logically. Ignore how you feel and stay away from her no matter what! Dont wait for disaster to happen before you start acting. The bottom line is that ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to try and not love him?
Q. I've been having issues with my husband of 2years. I've been sleeping in another room for the last 3 nights. The maid had to work early today so i moved back into the bedroom i played on the computer for a bit being tired i went into our bed he just ...
A. 29 January 2011: Its not wrong, you want him to change his behavior, but you also need to make it clear why you are acting like that... or else he might think you are seeing someone else. Communicate your problem first so he's know whats wrong. goodluck... (read in full...)
I could treat him so much better than his girlfriend!
Q. well basically to start off,im 16 i may seem young to some people on here but ive had to grow up real quick, quicker than other teenagers so im really machore and i need some advice, i dont normally ask for advice myself because im the type of ...
A. 28 January 2011: He likes her girlfriend so there is not much you can do. intervening will make you look like a bad person, did you ever thought of that? Being a boy snatcher! Just let them be and look for your own guy... i know how you feel but in life learn to... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said he still loves his ex
Q. My boyfriend (who is 34) and I have been going out now for 5 years. He regularly tells me he loves me. His last serious relationship also lasted 5 years and he split up with that girl about 18 months before we got together. I asked him today, ...
A. 28 January 2011: I think you are over reacting or over reading things. I mean after 5 years of dating someone its hard to not care for them[ex] or say i completely don't love them unless if they treated you really really bad. I still love my ex in some way but that ... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm black?
Q. I'm 14 and on the ending stretch of my 8th grade year. I really like this girl and she is really nice to me and I Am nice back. I was thinking about asking her out but I'm black and she's white. I don't have a problem with white people all of my ...
A. 28 January 2011: It doesn't matter... all you need to do is be confident of who you are and be nice to her. Haven't you seen biracial couples around? Its all about love, okay? So now start being confident, black or white... we are all people. Good-luck... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing two brothers
Q. im 23y/o female and im having sex with both my bf and his brother..my bf doesnt know but his brother knows and told me not a say anything..im really having fun..should i stop seeing them both or continue having fun.....
A. 27 January 2011: Sleeping with brothers?? seriously? and you even think its fun? these are the kind of heinous behavior were your life ends up in a serious wreck 10 years later, bad luck after bad luck, failure to accomplish anything in life; then you start asking ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty for cuting off a friend.
Q. Hi, I feel so guilty and awful. Quick story is that my relationship with this girl I know who I have become friends over the past year or so, got to the point where I could not be friends with her anymore. She is a difficult personality. A...
A. 27 January 2011: Why feel guilty for cutting off a selfish, undependable, liar, take take friend? is it because she is attractive? come on now bro. Keep away from people who ave the potential to destruct you from focusing on your goals. Dont feel guilty... what you ... (read in full...)
does he think I'm a whore and he is just a really really good liar?
Q. ok,this is really confusing me-I have this new boyfriend-we've been seeing each other for a couple of months and he is saying that he loves me and he wants to have a serious relationship and he sounds really genuine and when he says what he likes ...
A. 27 January 2011: Don't judge him with that... understand it was the first night.
I have seen friends call their fiances whores this and that...then later on marry the same girl... you understand? but lets get one thing straight... you should confront him about it... (read in full...)
Help, I'd like to close this dark chapter in my life!
Q. I recently broke off a long term relationship with a man I was seeing for a while (about half a year). He was the first man that helped me bring my guards down and taught me how to love. I invested heavily into this relationship which eventually ...
A. 27 January 2011: You observed something i love, "he is insecure". Good catch and observation. Now here is the story, i have dealt with a girl like this guy...He is not going to call, why? he is so insecure and lacks confidence to even apologize... i know what i am... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always cranky!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now and we love each other very much. I love him and I know he loves me but he has some temper issues that's usually caused by him being tired, busy, stressed, pressured, or uncomfortable. ...
A. 26 January 2011: Try to tell him how you feel, i mean tell him it affects you. I used to date someone like that. Usually this kind of a person uses their better half as a outlet for their stress. Trust me, with time you'll start to resent him if he doesn't change. ... (read in full...)
Is this a joke of a relationship?
Q. My bf took his female friend to dinner, and picked her up from work after he finished work. Yet he made me pay my way to work today (he drives me extremely rarely and he had the day off today so I didn't think it was a big deal). He called me quite ...
A. 26 January 2011: I will be honest with you here!
It is a joke of a relationship, why? Because you allow him to treat you like that. I understand if he needs gas money support once in a while but a boyfriend should not ask payment for a ride from a girlfrie... (read in full...)
I'm leaving my abusive partner, but should I give my children the chance to say goodbye?
Q. hello, about a month ago i posted a question about wanting to leave my abusive fiancee and needing help. i have decided to leave, and have a plan in place to get out of here as soon as i have the money saved .. probably mid april or so. i have ...
A. 24 January 2011: I can relate to your situation because i once moved in with someone like this, but it was a woman. When i left, i just quickly packed my bags whilst she was at work.. and called her saying i left the keys in the house, i am sorry but goodbye. Its so ... (read in full...)
I think my in laws are stalking me online
Q. I think my inlaws are stalking me online. A few years ago I posted a story about how awful a certain in-law had behaved towards me and how upset I was and asked what I could do about it got a few replies but the in-law it was regarding found out and ...
A. 23 January 2011: I rare to have such a coincidence, i believe they know your account name.
Someone must have seen your account logged open from your computer or if you ever logged at their house or someone around them... it might have left a cookie(to make it ... (read in full...)
I've never met a more irrational, selfish person... and I stick around!
Q. I have been with my husband for 4 years. 3.5 of the 4 years, I have been unhappy. I want to leave him and have tried so many times, but I always keep coming back. Why do I do that? Hes mad all the time about everything. He really believes that ...
A. 21 January 2011: Your husband needs to find peace with himself... I know people like him. The unfortunate truth is that he will never change until reality slaps him in the face... some people even die fighting themselves. Let's hope he will take all steps possible ... (read in full...)
Do I come across as a bitch to my ex?
Q. I had stopped communicating with my ex some 6 months ago after I had tried to see him and I was already dating another guy. The thing is, I was not able to say no to him and he forced me to have anal sex with him. This I regretted big time for 2 ...
A. 21 January 2011: I don't know you, but I am proud of you for standing your ground. This guy wants sex from you, I will suggest to back up from him before he forces himself into you(i don't like using the term rape). Now focus on your new boyfriend and leave your ... (read in full...)
She helped me get a job before we broke up, and now I feel guilty for leaving!
Q. Me and this girl dated for just over a month(but felt like a year). She was extremely verablly and emotionally abusive, and i still dont understand why she insulted me, belittled me and harassed me so much because i treated like a queen, gave her ...
A. 21 January 2011: Thank you Caringguy and Blonde68, i will just focus on my life. Thanks again.... (read in full...)
Is Love Enough?
Q. If you Love someone, is that enough to sustain a lifetime relationship...til death do us part? After being with someone for over 20 years with so many bumps along the way. Hurt feelings, mis-trust, doubt, anger, bitterness. How do you ignore ...
A. 21 January 2011: Love is not enough to last, if it was about love alone most people could still be with their ex right now... because even in breaking up you still love them but because its not enough, you let go. You need respect, happiness, sanity and of course ... (read in full...)
How do I improve the appearance of my breasts?
Q. I am so embarrassed by my breasts. All my girlfriends have nice ones with smaller areolas, but I'd describe mine as fat man boobs. They're pointy, with big aereolas and they sAg to the sides :( is there anyway to make them look better, and no I'm ...
A. 20 January 2011: I am a guy and i seriously dont have a problem with size and shape,... dont stress.... (read in full...)
No sex, arguments and I think he is planning to leave.
Q. Ok, this may be long but I'm desperate for help. Me and my husband have been together for nearly five years and have two children together. Ever since I had found out I was pregnant with out now 7 month old son he seemed to change a bit. We went ...
A. 18 January 2011: I am still in shock after reading this.
First off, i am really sorry you're dealing with a maniac like your husband. I know we all go stretches for love but quit him. Your husband seem to have gotten too comfortable on your tolerance and patient ... (read in full...)
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