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writes:I am married for 6 months now and I feel very pathetic. I regret everyday to why I got married. There's so much emptiness in my relationship. I feel ignorant. My husband hardly discloses anything to me. He never shares any good/bad things that happen in his life. I don't know how his business works, who his friends are. He has never introduced me to his friends and hardly talks about anything to me. I go to school and when I come back home, I see him only browsing and being on his own. When I approach him, he says he needs his space. I really don't feel happy with this relationship. I feel I'm living like such a dummy wife. I am not sure what I should do. I have also tried talking to him about it, but in vain. He is nice for a day but gets back to his old ways. Pl advice what I should be doing! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): HiI am sorry to hear about your situation. How could you get married to a guy like that in the first place. Did he show interest in you before marriage. Have you not met any of his friends before marriage ? If this was an arranged marriage then this situation is understandable.I would suggest talking to his and your family about this situation if it was an arranged marriage ( Given that families are very closely involved in arranged marriages.)It is possible that he had an affair before marrying you and is finding it hard to let go. However you can only help him if he is willing to share the cause of his indifference.Bottomline I don't think there is much that can be done except for you to move on. You deserve a compassionate life partner who loves you and wants to share his life with you. Find the courage to move on.Best of Luck.
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reader, sam44 +, writes (9 February 2011):
hey, i find it hard to answer your question without more information.
How did you end up with him, how did you met him and how long have you known each other for before getting married? This will help you get objective answers.. add more info. Btw I am sorry for your marriage and goodluck!
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93  +, writes (9 February 2011):
Urmm, hold on, how old are you? Surely you should of been with him for quite a while before you became wed to him, that you should of known that there wouldnt be anything interesting about your life with him. Im not trying to sound or be horrible to you, but you say here that he says that he wont talk to you about it and he needs his space. Wouldnt you have known that your life would be like this if you had been with him for ages before your marriage? Wait, how long had you been together before marrying? Ask him. Ask him if he truely loves you. If he says yes, tell him to swear on it. If he hesitates, or says no, then i will leave you to figure that out!Right, lastly, and this might sound harsh but it is true. You made a commitment to him, you said your vows. If he loves you, truely loves you and you are telling the world you dont love him, that would crush him if he knew. Overall, i dont think you should of married him if you knew this is what you would be like for your life. You should of been togehter for a short time if you didnt know what you were getting yourself into!Well, im sorry if i offended you, but its my opinion and i hope that i helped you (:
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reader, ashley187  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 You really need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If he won't listen to you, suggest counseling. If it continues down that path you will live such a lonely life and that's not fair to you. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and wants to include you into his life. My significant other is a lot like this, doesnt really care too much if I'm around or not, and when I am around he doesnt say much. It starts to make you feel worthless. Either you make a change together; or think about another path. Don't regret staying with someone who emotionally isn't avaible for you.
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