For all of those people that have obvious flaws, how did you find your mate?
Q. Hey guys, I am 22 and I've never had a boyfriend. I have wonderful personality, I'm intelligent, educated, I love new things, having fun, and I am decent in terms of looks; I have a nice body, cute face...the blatant flaw is, unfortunately my...
A. 12 July 2010: Maybe I shouldn't be answering this question because I don't have a mate, but the main thing is to be happy with who you are. You will focus on your flaws more than others will notice. Be happy with who you are and confident that you are a beautiful ... (read in full...)
Men, would this turn you on?
Q. Here's a question for the male readers. You're at a bar by yourself one night, listening to a band and a woman comes up to you who is not really that great looking; short hair, big hips, kind of flat chested, has alot of tattoos and she walks up to ...
A. 12 July 2010: Umm, I'd pass. A: Don't lick me if I don't know you. B: I'm not a tatoo kind of guy. C: I like aggressive women, but that's a bit much. Flat chested isn't a big deal nor are big hips. Just sounds like a slutty move and unless the guy is crazy drunk ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is insecure. How do I reassure her?
Q. I'm in a cool thing with a girl, but she's so insecure about what I'm doing when I'm not around her. She's always asking did I sleep with her friend, or what I was doing at such and such a time. Or those little word traps they do, like, "do you ...
A. 19 February 2010: You just have to reassure her for awhile. If it still keeps up, then you and her may need to have a talk. Insecurity with women can be common if they have some issues with themselves. Usually I feel like the ones that don't trust, are the ones that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is cheating on me! Should I leave? or stay?
Q. hi, ive just found out my boyfriend is cheating on me. im unsure on what i should do. whever i should leave him or stay. please help... ...
A. 5 February 2010: Do you really think that you can trust him again if you stay? You have to ask yourself if it's worth it. You may have invested time with this guy and care a lot about him but if he can disrespect your relationship enough to cheat on you, I really ... (read in full...)
Feeling sad about my experiences in high school! Is this a precedent for the rest of my life?
Q. This is pretty shallow compared to a lot of people's problems, and all the chaos in the world, but it really bugs me after all these years. When I was in high school, I never went to prom. It's not a big deal, but it makes me a little sad becau...
A. 30 January 2010: Does missing prom mean you're destined to be a failure? Umm, no. I never went to prom. I was considered to me one of the "popular" group, and I was asked by a couple of different girls, I just chose not to go. All of my friends, girls and guys, ... (read in full...)
I know there are plenty of fish in the sea, but I want this fish
Q. Ok, Here goes. There is an attractive girl. We have really been talking recently and getting to know each other really well recently. I know she likes me. She thinks I'm nice, she even told me she thinks I'm cute. Today, we were talking and she told...
A. 30 January 2010: You have to decide what you feel is the best for you. You don't want to have any regrets so you need to follow your heart. But you have to ready yourself for all options.
Why have all her relationships ended badly? Is it always her doing?
And, ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. I was involved with a man and during that time we've had our ups and downs.. he used to tell me how I wasn't affectionate enough and that I was mean.. here's the thing , I care about him so much that I've been doing some self improvement both ...
A. 30 January 2010: I'm sorry. Give it some time and focus on you. Don't call or text or email, just do things for you to make you happy. It's time to be selfish. As long as you were true to yourself and said the things you felt like you needed to, you can't have any ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend get mad
Q. Me and my boyfriend started getting sexual but not have sex and I gave him a hand job but he asks me all the time to give him one and I just don't feel like it or want to and when I say no and why he gets kind of mad but it's not like he forces me ...
A. 30 January 2010: He's young and his hormones are out of control. If you don't feel like fooling around, that's ok, and you shouldn't feel forced to do anything you don't want to do, sexually or not. If he can't handle that, that's his problem. You are very young and ... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy? People tell me at 27 I am leaving it too late to find someone and settle down
Q. I had a serious relationship that ended 4 years ago (we were together 4 years). I could have married him had we met when I was a bit older, I wasn't ready to settle down then. He was no doubt my first love but we have remained friends and both are ...
A. 30 January 2010: Good for you to staying true to yourself and waiting till you find something that you know is right. People who are getting married when they are in their early 20's don't really have as much of a sense of who they are. There would be a lot less ... (read in full...)
We were dating, he was a sweetheart, we slept together and he went cold!
Q. I was dating a guy for a little while, things were going great then all of a sudden he went really cold - the day after the first time we slept together. I questioned what was up and he said he didn't feel ready for a relationship...His ex of 9 ...
A. 30 January 2010: I'm gonna go a different route, I think he may just be really scared. For some guys, sex changes things. It takes everything to a different level. He may really be having some serious feelings for you but whatever damage the ex did to him, it has ... (read in full...)
She keeps flirting with other guys but says it's harmless, it bothers me
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. Recently she has started to flirt a lot with other guys, and I don't know what to do. She said they were just good friends of her, but don't all girls say that? She even went to the movies with ...
A. 29 January 2010: Oooh, if she went to a movie with another fella, I'd probably be a little leary of her too. Do you know the guy at all? I'd want to know a lot more about that.
If you are having real trust issues, you should be able to talk about it with her with... (read in full...)
I am worried about my wife going to a wild hen do with male strippers
Q. One of my wife's best friends other girlfriend (not a friend of ours) got engaged then married this past summer. My wife's friend told her (and she then told me) that the bachelorette party was way out of this world. It was held at a private club ...
A. 29 January 2010: Your wife sounds like a great girl. If she is uncomfortable with it then she can tell the bride-to-be that she can make an appearance but once the strippers come or she starts to feel uncomfortable, she's heading out the door. There is no reason she ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? What would YOU do next?
Q. Hey everyone, I hope you can help me.. I'm just a guy that has never been in a real relationship and have never been kissed. A few months ago I met this girl through a friend of mine, we became friends and we talked to each other about personal t...
A. 29 January 2010: Move on. Get out there and meet some other people. You can find women everywhere, the hard part is stepping out of your comfort zone and asking one out. This girl sounds like she is playing games with you.
Trust me, there are a ton of ladies out ... (read in full...)
Does he still have feelings for me?
Q. I was involved with a man and during that time we've had our ups and downs.. he used to tell me how I wasn't affectionate enough and that I was mean.. here's the thing , I care about him so much that I've been doing some self improvement both ...
A. 29 January 2010: I'm sure he still cares about you. He felt like he was forced to move on so he did, as best he could, to do just that. When someone still owns your heart, you can't full move on. Sounds like he's been trying to move on but I'm sure hearing you tell ... (read in full...)
Three is NOT company...
Q. I'm in a horrendous situation and I need help. I'm living in the same apartment as three of my exes, two of which live on the same floor. I'm not on speaking terms with one of them and she's doing everything she can to drive me crazy because I ...
A. 29 January 2010: CaringGuy is right, MOVE. You gotta get out of there, it's not good for you and not good for the crazy ex who's knocking on your door. Also, here's a tip I learned the hard way, do NOT date/hook up with anyone who lives in your building. They know ... (read in full...)
What do his actions mean in guy terms?
Q. I'm On a break with my ex boyfriend. He wanted the break because he couldn't handle a gf and wanted to get back on his feet, which is ok i guess. But Im getting confused he says he wants me and he wants back together again. last Saturday we hung out ...
A. 28 January 2010: Yeah, he's using you cause you let him. Sounds like he doesn't want to have to deal with the girlfriend part but wants the physical stuff. You gotta cut him off from hooking up. But you gotta move fast before he starts to just view you as a hook up ... (read in full...)
My one and only is gone. Please help.
Q. im sorry if this is too long. a couple of years ago, the one girl i knew at the time i would spend the rest of my life with was murdered in a car accident. we dated since i was 15. i was on probation for a fight at the time. i got into a fight with ...
A. 27 January 2010: Hey man, first let me say I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure it has to be hard for you but you can't blame yourself. I don't want to go all religious on you, but I believe that God has a plan for everything. Sometimes he takes people home sooner than ... (read in full...)
I cheated and cheated and ...cheated and feel terrible!
Q. I have been with my guy for around 5 years on and off... on and off because of several reasons including me getting involved with other people. There are some serious flaws in our relationship like kids vs. no kids, religious things etc.. but ...
A. 27 January 2010: Too late, you already have crushed him. He deserves so much better than you will ever be able to give him at this point. Without trust and communication, a relationship is nothing. From what you've written, I don't think that you can ever get that ... (read in full...)
I just wanna have some fun but he's past it!
Q. I just turned 21 and my boyfriend is almost 29. I'm ready to party and get wild and just have fun! But he always says he had his time to party when he was "young and dumb" and all he cares about now is working working working! I wanna go out to the ...
A. 27 January 2010: I just went through this situation. And I got dumped. I'm 29 and she was 22. She still had a lot of party in her and I don't like the bar because I've seen first hand what happens at the bar and I want no part of it.
If you want to go out and "get... (read in full...)
Lately, my gf seems to be going off me'. What can I do to keep her?
Q. Ok so I dont really know where to start I am in love with my girlfriend, I really am. But lately I dont know...she seems to be going off me. And that put's me in a really bad mood which makes our conversations not as pleasent. We've never had ...
A. 21 January 2010: First of all, there is another one out there. There are about 100,000 other women out there that you would be very happy with.
I can relate, I was in love with this girl and did everything that I could to make her know just how much I loved her.... (read in full...)
He has NEVER gone down on me!!
Q. So, I've been dating a guy for about 4 months. I REALLY like the guy and we have a ton of things compatible. The sex has been pretty good as well. He is really good at the actual act, but he is not one for much foreplay. He NEVER once has gone ...
A. 16 January 2010: Maybe he had a bad experience with a girl that wasn't "fresh" before so now he's a little gun shy. Or else, and this is my guess, he hasn't had much experience and doesn't have the confidence to go down. At one time, I didn't feel like I had a clue ... (read in full...)
VALENTINES DAY HELP!!!!!
Q. I need help I am going to see my special friend for V-Day and I don't know what to do. I thought about doing an indoor picnic by the fire place. But I don't know how to get him out the house so that I can set up. My question is How do I set up for ...
A. 10 January 2010: How about having something special for him, but maybe you and him can make dinner together? You could do all the grocery shopping and have everything ready so you and him can enjoy some wine and good conversation while you make dinner. Maybe find ... (read in full...)
How can I get over the fact I love my friend's girl?
Q. hi everyone. im living a situation at the moment in which my best friend is going out with a girl ive been obsessed with since 2 and a half years ago. no matter how hard i try, i never seem to get over her since she is oen of my closest friends. she ...
A. 10 January 2010: Well if you were talking to your buddy about this girl and asking him for advice, and then he started dating her, he's an ass. There is an unspoken buddy rule that you just don't do that. He broke it. In these last two and a half years, why didn't y... (read in full...)
Is she interested in me or not?
Q. Foremost, I am a male and obviously can't ask friends for relationship advice if it doesn't apply to me "getting laid". A girl recently got in touch with me out of the blue and I was wondering if she may be interested in me. Ok, here's the sich. I ...
A. 9 January 2010: Dude. Suck it up. Hang out with the girl. You are thinking entirely WAY too much. Get together without expectations and just see what's up.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to this guy at work...but I am married!
Q. Hi I am a 30yo woman married for 4 years. Of late, I am getting attracted to a workmate who is 26 yo and unmarried. Whenever he is around I just can't seem to focus, my hands start to shake and butterflies in my tummy. Even he seems to feel the same ...
A. 9 January 2010: It's just a crush. I know you "feel" like it could be something more but really, it's just different than what you're used to. It's more of a fantasy to be with someone else. Have you had these feelings before?... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with him..but why is he acting like such a jerk?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up the last week of school before winter break. We have been dating for almost 5 1/2 months and before break me and him were still good friends. After break we came back to school and he is a jerk now. I asked him why he ...
A. 9 January 2010: He's just immature. I'm sure he still likes you but he doesn't know how to be your friend just yet. It takes us boys a long time to understand that kind of thing. I once was an immature jackass too. Just be yourself and don't let it show if he gets ... (read in full...)
Would he 'really' throw me out the window or was he joking?
Q. Hello all and Happy new year! Here's my question. What does it mean when you ask a man that you are involved with what he wants to do/be with you and he answers, "If I told you I would scare you" and smiles...nicely. We were cuddled up on the couch ...
A. 9 January 2010: Sounds like he was just kinda nervous and we say all kinds of stupid things when we get nervous. I once compared my gf to an ipod when we got in serious talk mode. Dumb i know but it just came to my mind. I would just chalk it up to that and try not ... (read in full...)
He's so tight and accuses me of taking money when I don't
Q. I have been with the same guy in a relationship for 14 yrs, not married, I raised my own kids, and they were grown, and then after 9 months after meeting him, I was put on the spot to stay with him and raise his kids, I could have said no, but I ...
A. 9 January 2010: Is 80% of the time good enough for you? I realize the pond for dating may be smaller at that age but I wouldn't be happy with that at any age. You and him need to have a real discussion and you need to lay it out for him that by him freaking... (read in full...)
How do I make things right with my husband after I fell in love with someone else?
Q. I am 20 years old and started dating my husband when I was 16 years old. We tied the knot when I was 18 years old. Since we have been together, we have only physically been together a total of 9 months due to his deployments. Because of his ...
A. 7 January 2010: "After being with another man and seeing what a healthy and desired relationship should be like, I can't stop comparing."??? I'm sorry but the guy you cheated on your husband with, that was not a healthy relationship at all. If you think it was, ... (read in full...)
How can I trust her after her fling?
Q. My girlfriend of three months, whom I've known for six years, chose to have a two day fling with her ex while he was in town. We have talked about what happened and I don't feel I got a strait answer of why this occurred. She has told me they are ...
A. 7 January 2010: Hey, I'm sorry. I know that it hurts and what she did isn't fair to you. You probably won't ever get a straight answer from her. The tough part is, I don't think you can ever trust her. I wouldn't. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She needs to... (read in full...)
What the hell does he want? I'm tired of being the one that always gets hurt!
Q. Me and my ex were together for 2yrs, and we have been split up for 4 months now. Well its not only the two of us, he has a daughter as well. We had plans of marriage and kids the big happy family thing... His daughter calls me mom beacuse I am the ...
A. 5 January 2010: Wow, this is tough for you I'm sure. I'm sure it's hard for him too. You both have spent a lot of time together and you have weaved your lives together so that's what makes this so difficult. No one likes change. But you both maybe need to sit down, ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps texting out of the blue.
Q. I broke up with my ex over a year ago. I have to admit, she is the only girl I have ever loved. But I don't mind being single and she never seemed to really commit after a year and a half. Early on after the break-up she would ask me to dinner and ...
A. 29 December 2009: She's just trying to keep you close. You're her back up and by contacting you again and again she's trying to stay in your life. By you agreeing to get together, she thinks that you're still interested. She's playing mind games. Lame. ... (read in full...)
Creepy Cousin
Q. Well when I was about 5 or 6, my teenage cousin raped me, not molested. He actually penetrated me. Anyways 2day is my 16th bday and my cousin and I have the same bday. So his mom called and told me happy bday then she gave the phone to him. As he ...
A. 29 December 2009: I'm very sorry. Talk to your parents first and get them in the know. Again, I'm very sorry.... (read in full...)
I was used and abandoned. Found new love but have trust issues
Q. 7 years ago I was at a low point in my life. I was very sad, heartbroken and unhappy. I met my ex girlfriend in the Spring of 2003. She came into my life and pursued me vigorously for two months. In May I agreed to meet with her in person as we ...
A. 20 December 2009: Wow, I am so very sorry for all the pain that has happened. I wish I could say some magical words and make it all ok but no one can. There may seem like there is nothing but pain and desolation right now but you know what? This is such a beautiful ... (read in full...)
Help!! Confused and Hurting. How do you know if it's love? I don't know which guy!
Q. I need serious help. I have been with this guy for almost 2 years. I love him, but Im not in love with him I dont think. Hes like in love with me though. We're like best friends and he's always been perfect. But With my ex I got butterflies and I ...
A. 16 December 2009: Thanks for the extra info. I really think that if you feel like your relationship hasn't run its course and you feel like there are still feelings there, you should go with your heart.
I do feel for the current guy, it's very difficult to love some... (read in full...)
Sex advice needed please!
Q. Well im 15:) I have a bf of barely 2 weeks he is 15 too we have known each other for a long time.. We have liked each other since we met. We went out once it didn't work out but we still like each other we have had foreplay like fingering sucking ...
A. 12 December 2009: DO NOT HAVE SEX! At 15 you are not ready. I know that you think you are mature enough and you care for him but really, you will regret it if you do. I waited till I was 18 and I wish I had held out longer. There is no need to rush this, just be ... (read in full...)
Help!! Confused and Hurting. How do you know if it's love? I don't know which guy!
Q. I need serious help. I have been with this guy for almost 2 years. I love him, but Im not in love with him I dont think. Hes like in love with me though. We're like best friends and he's always been perfect. But With my ex I got butterflies and I ...
A. 12 December 2009: You're going to hurt your current bf no matter what. There isn't anything you can do about that. Why did you and your ex break up? Be careful that you don't dwell on just the "good parts" of the old relationship, it's a trap and you forget reasons ... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: You can't be serious. How can you break them up so he'll date you? Do you really think this a the best foundation to start a relationship? Do you honestly think that he won't cheat on you? I'm a guy and I have never cheated on a gf and never will, ... (read in full...)
I need help to break it off
Q. I've been talking/seeing this guy for the past year and a half and he's perfect, but I just don't feel what he feels. I've been in love once before and i haven't fully gotten over it. He's told me he loves me, but I don't feel that feeling I had ...
A. 11 December 2009: Evaluate your feelings why you still love your ex. You need to understand what it is you still love about him or if it's just because that was familiar to you and something new is scary. If this guy is as great as you say, he deserves a woman that ... (read in full...)
My usually outgoing, goofy b/f has come home very quiet
Q. We've been together, and living together for almost 4 months now. He went to his moms for thanksgiving and just came back Tues dec.8 A lot of stuff came up that he had to help his mom with. Now he's finally home. But I can't help but notice ...
A. 11 December 2009: I don't think you have to worry about the end of the relationship. You just need to reassure him that you are there for him and tell him that he can trust you and ask him to share what's troubling him. I really think that he just may be stressed ... (read in full...)
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