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writes:So, I've been dating a guy for about 4 months. I REALLY like the guy and we have a ton of things compatible. The sex has been pretty good as well. He is really good at the actual act, but he is not one for much foreplay. He NEVER once has gone down on me yet, even though I give him head quite often. It is a relationship where both of us are attracted enough that we don't always need a lot of foreplay, and like I said the sex is good. However, I really do like cunniligus and he just doesn't seem to want to do it. I haven't brought it up, because I am not THAT unsatisfied, but I was just wondering if there were any reasons why he may not be one to initiate it. I have been with other guys who loved to do it and seemed to consider it a prereq to sex. I just don't want to seem like I'm dissatsfied with the relationship because I'm not, but i was just wondering if there were reasons why a guy wouldn't want to go down. I've never had this before. Do guys really worry about what you smell or taste like? As I said, I NEVER had this problem before and had lots of guys who loved to go down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): woow, you had "tons of guys" ready to go down on you. you are a pretty lucky woman. just give him some time.
personally, i do that when im really really craving for sex (horny). maybe women or even some men do it as easy as they kiss your chick but it is not totally easy for a man to do down on a woman. just think about it. you dont know what hind in there. also, we know that other D have gone through there. also, we know you bleed once a month... it's just different. yes, i think it is easier for a woman to do oral sex than for a man.
but again, it all depends on your usual habit
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): He just doesn't know what he's missing
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 January 2010):
 You are simply involved with an immature and selfish young man who has no idea about having good sex with a woman.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Just ask him about it!
You can't expect the situation to just solve itself. Any good relationship has communication. Communication is especially needed for a decent sex life with another. Tell him you're dissatisfied with the fact that you're not getting oral, and if he's a decent person he'll listen to you and consider your feelings.
No one here can tell you why he doesn't want to give you oral sex because we aren't him. Only he can answer that for you.
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (16 January 2010):
Maybe he had a bad experience with a girl that wasn't "fresh" before so now he's a little gun shy. Or else, and this is my guess, he hasn't had much experience and doesn't have the confidence to go down. At one time, I didn't feel like I had a clue what to do down there so I just never traveled south. Well I had one gf that helped me with learning how you ladies enjoy this and that, and since then, I have no problem going south of the border. I actually enjoy it. Maybe during some kissing could whisper in his ear that you'd like him to go down on you, A. He's already in the moment, B. No guy can resist a sexy woman's whisper. He might not know what's going on but grab his hair while he's down there and if he hits a good spot, make sure you moan or let him know somehow that he found the pot of gold.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (16 January 2010):
 We can make guesses, but this is one case where you have to come out and ask him.
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reader, TintedMirror +, writes (16 January 2010):
 i think it is very selfish if a guy wants oral but doesn't return the favor. You should stop giving him head until he wants to fully participate. Ask him if he's ever done it before. Suggest a new position like, 69.
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