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writes:Hey guys, I am 22 and I've never had a boyfriend. I have wonderful personality, I'm intelligent, educated, I love new things, having fun, and I am decent in terms of looks; I have a nice body, cute face...the blatant flaw is, unfortunately my teeth. They are not straight nor are they white. However, once I get enough money I'll buy the braces that my effin' mother never got me! (That's an entirely different story). Anyways, for all of those people that have obvious flaws, how did you find your mate?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Oh, my Gawd, you don't have perfectly white, straight teeth like all the hollywood movie actors that have their real teeth veneered at $2000 a tooth? Your poor stupid mother, she couldn't afford that.
You probably don't even need braces that badly, or your dentist would have insisted on them....and the fact that your teeth arn't naturally very very white means you have a lot of enamel on your teeth which is a good thing.
Take care of your teeth, movie star smile or not, they need to last you a life time. When you have enough money and want to wear braces, then go for it, but to obsess that you will be a spinster because of them is just vainity
Are you that shallow? If you only choose a man for his looks and his teeth, well that is not going to be very attractive on you, now is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Crest White Strips are very affordabble and work terrifically. I agree confidence is very attractive. Many average looking women get attractive successful men. Many gorgeous insecure women do not..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Move to a country that isn't obsessed with unnaturally white, straight teeth. Basically anywhere but America.
How do you find your mate? Confidence and self belief. Works for everyone no matter how they look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): I can't be bothered reading through the answers to see what people have said already but all you need is braces and whitening treatment!
STOP whining, at least I have a reason to whine, I fell when I was 7 at the skate park and knocked my two front teeth out and they had just grown in! and I'm a female and will never get over the fact that my two front teeth aren't real, I don't even know if it's something I should tell a potential partner and such about because my "fake" teeth look real but I don't know..
So yeah, No matter how you feel there will always be someone worse off, and same applies to me, just be thankful you don't have some disability that doesn't allow you to get around!
ok so rant over, get your teeth fixed and get dating! :D
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reader, daletom +, writes (12 July 2010):
You should probably research an answer on your own.
Look around you at couples you know. Folks around your own age are probably poor choices - look for people AT LEAST mid-30's, who have been together more than a decade. Your parents' friends might be a good place to start. Find couples where one or both have some obvious flaw: too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, crosseyed, crooked nose, cleft palate, deaf, blind, etc.
Then ask THEM how they got together. Just like that: "I'm doing a little research on long-term married couples, and I'm curious about how you met and what attracted you to each other." Believe it or not, old married people LOVE to answer this question! Listen to what they say.
I certainly don't know you, but in my lifetime I HAVE been attracted to at least one woman with bad teeth. And some other flaws, like a generally unkempt (though not dirty or ugly) appearance. I was already very married when I met her, and she was several years younger, so it never went any farther than casual acquaintance. But one fault she did NOT have: blaming somebody else, or making somebody else responsible, for her own shortcomings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Go to the mall, park or other public place. Is every couple you see perfect? Are they flawless? No, they are not. We are all unique and different. It is our imperfections that make us who we are and if we accept them, so will everyone else. Look at all of the positive things you listed about yourself that you like and focus on those. If someone were to judge you solely based on your teeth not being straight or "perfect" enough, then they are not worth it. Being with someone isn't about having flaws or not having flaws- it's not "all or nothing." It's about having a connection, forming a bond and accepting and loving the one you are with for who they are. You are beautiful inside and out- don't let anything bring you down! Take care!
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reader, redsox29 +, writes (12 July 2010):
Maybe I shouldn't be answering this question because I don't have a mate, but the main thing is to be happy with who you are. You will focus on your flaws more than others will notice. Be happy with who you are and confident that you are a beautiful woman and let the boys come to you. Over stressing about it will only make you seem desperate and no one is attracted to desperation. Do the things that you like to do and be try and be social. You'll find someone, you're only 22. Just think about all the losers you've avoided by not have a boyfriend yet. You'll find someone, I guarantee it.
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reader, thereyago +, writes (12 July 2010):
same issue here... I have not lived alone though.
You will meet someone and they will love you. I always planned to fix them but then i find myself in a relaitionship and it seems like a waste of money since I am happy. I think you will find that as people get older they start to look for lovers, not models. Be a lover and take care of yourself. Let the people you are attracted to know that you are.
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